Tight Bond with my daughter

@caesarin (1091)
Indonesia
June 7, 2007 5:14pm CST
I sometimes envy children who always want to get close to their mother. Before I quit my job, I always have to leave her with her grandparents so mostly my mother in law put her to sleep. So, she never really missed me because she get used to see me not so often. I felt like no bondings with her. But right before I quit my job, my mother in law got sick so that I have to take care of my children myself with my husband's support. Both me and ny husband co-sleep her because we have a small house where we stay when we are in working days (in another in laws'). It was about almost a month. Last week I left her with her gransparents to finish the job transition to new employee, it was for 2 nights. And in those 2 night she always cry in the middle of night looking for me and her father. Like this, I can never leave her for a night out while I plan to go some places for business. Like last night when I was putting her to sleep and want to have a pee. I asked my mom in law to look after her for a while and my daughter quickly cried out loud saw me getting out of the room. It was funny, I never thought she'd be like that. But I have to make my effort soon to let her get used to not having me around her bedtime. Any idea how? I thought maybe she's having her teeth coming out soon so that she's a little bit . . . . She's 16 months with only 4 teeth. Her doctor said that there's nothing to worry about the teeth.
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@butterfly39 (3907)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
Even if you left your baby in your in laws in day time make you sure you can make up on night time. Sleep with them on night time is a already a bonding and when your baby wakes up make sure she/he sees yoour face so she can remember how you look like.
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• Philippines
8 Jun 07
yes, what is important is to be able to spend sometime with the baby whenever time permits it. it is good that the grandmother is around to take care of her at all times. that is a situation which has made your days much easier to deal with. i am sure that your child will be having some fine time with your in laws. you can concentrate on your work and devote quality time with your daughter anytime.
@psyche49f (2511)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
Your doctor is right...there's really nothing to worry because baby's teeth will just come without you noticing it. I admire you for being so concerned about your baby's welfare. I identify with you because I also have experienced what you have experienced when my kids were still small. In my case, there was also a time when I had to leave my 2 year old under the care of my parents, and always my daughter cried everytime I leave her. Well, that's part of building a family, and I can see that you are doing what you should do. You're lucky because your little one is so attached to you...that's a welcome development for you and your family.
@caesarin (1091)
• Indonesia
11 Jun 07
Thanks very much for sharing. I think I'm lucky to have her attached to me but sometimes it's just so hard to see her crying when I have to do things without her with me. I must learn things from you =).
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
it is natural reaction for babies to be crying whenever they see or feel that the mother is leaving them. there is nothing at all to worry about this. what is important is that you are able to spend some time with her whenever it matters. for as long as your child will have a good time with you from to time, the bonding between child and mother will always grow to be stronger after time. i was so confused too, before. i have to leave my youngest with a neighbor whenever i report for work and it was so difficult. now that they have grown up, i know that i did it right.