Would you dump your current gf/bf if you've fallen for someone else?
By rojane
@rojane (500)
Philippines
June 8, 2007 12:00am CST
So you have a current bf/gf. In short, you are in a relationship, whether it be long or just entered into it. You made promises like loving each other and staying together forever. You know, the usual promises and vows made by a couple in love. And then you suddenly met someone, even your old flames, and found yourself falling for him/her.
This is not an unusual scenario. This happens in real life. So now, if you are in that situation, would you dump your current bf/gf for that somebody else? Or would you dismiss the idea or your feeling for that "someone else" just so you could save your present relationship and keep the vows you've made? Hoping to hear your side guyz. Thanks for posting in advance! Have a happy day to all of you!
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38 responses
@budsr03 (2350)
• Canada
8 Jun 07
We met and started dating young and after 6 months we started living together. We were both 17 and the thought of marriage was avoided by both of us. I was working, but not earning enough to save any money that might have been one reason for no marriage. During our relationship i have asked her several different times to marry me and she says we are married in Gods eyes. I have given up asking her to marry, but i always thought that i would get married in a church. There is still more to this marriage thing though.
Take care.
@rojane (500)
• Philippines
12 Jun 07
You're partly right. There's really more to marriage than just a piece of paper and a contract. But who I can't seem to understand is your partner. No offense but what I meant is that every girl dreams of being married. And there she is getting marriage proposals from you and yet she doesn't want to? I find it kinda weird.
And about being married in God's eyes without really getting married is not married in God's eyes at all. It's a wrong thinking. I don't know but I just think that God only sees a couple as married couple when they made a vow in front of Him.
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@muscare (3068)
• Australia
8 Jun 07
I'm not sure if I can answer this one, being married. The vows I made to my wife are the ones that are true. I look at what we have, and there is nothing that could change that, not even old flames. They are all in the past, and that is where they belong. Also, there is no new person that could offer me anything better than I have, ever!
@banta78 (4326)
• India
8 Jun 07
Well i really have one simply philosphy about love and life. I feel there is difference between harmless flirting which is fun. And getting into serious relationship or cheating your lover. I feel if you cheat or dump your lover then you really nver loved them. It was lust, physical attraction which wore out with time. Or you genuinely didn't love your so called lover enough. You truly didn't love the other person and would have dumped him or her for anybody. As i do feel one truly loves their beloved they wouldn't ever dump them as they wouldn't ever want to give them pain. One makes sacrifices in love not dump your beloved.
@soulist (2985)
• United States
8 Jun 07
I totally agree. We will always be attracted to other people other than our spouse. If we broke up with them simply because we like someone else then no one would be together.
@chaitanyamaddula (111)
• India
8 Jun 07
hai rojane,
well if ever i have a gf ,if i truely love her then i stick to her .i willnt fall for another if we had a clash also.i try to solve the problem and make our bond strong.
if she wants to break and avoids me without any reason,ijust leave her and dont go for other girl because my heart is made only for one person .
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@KissThis (3003)
• United States
8 Jun 07
I would keep my vows to the person that I am with.I believe that when two people make a commitment to one another that they should do their best to honor that commitment. I would not end my current relationship to get back with someone I have already broken up with, there was a reason that we ended the relationship and I don't care to repeat the same mistakes. As for meeting someone new well the saying goes that the grass isn't always greener on the other side of the fence. Which means that just because you might think that a relationship with someone else might be better that isn't always true.
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@angela2006 (1845)
• China
8 Jun 07
I think and I hope that day will not come,it is impossible that I will fall in love with someone else.I love my boyfriend very much and he loves me so much.of course everything is possible.if that day will come,I think we will just talk about it,thus it is good for both of us.
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@nandans (1160)
• India
8 Jun 07
This will not happen atleast for me.. If you love someone, it should be 100% and with full commitment.. If you think of dumping.... you are not in True Love ..
@magnet (2087)
• United States
8 Jun 07
Remember you are not married,no strings attached. You're just dating and having fun. Enjoy being single. If you were married it would be a different story.If you are in a relationship but are losing interest break up and move on.
@sakura_ryuzaki (348)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
well, i guess its a matter of mind and heart. if your mind say you love your current and then go with it but if your heart is battling with you. think abvout it for the seventh or hundredth time before you let go of that person and fall for the other. if the other person love you the way he want to be loved and all
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@manlynux (271)
• Romania
8 Jun 07
i would never do such a thing, if i know that my girlfriend loves me and she only wants to be with me , i would never fall in love with another person, so whenever i see a beautiful girl or a girl witch i like, the last thing in my mind is to fall in love with her or other stuff like, the only girl in my mind right now is my girlfriends wich i love her and i will not cheat on her, i hope she thinks the same way like me ! :)
@ackars (1942)
• India
8 Jun 07
I will definitely stay with the new one.The basic reason that I have left the old ones is that there was some kind of problems with them.Who knows if I leave the present one and go behind the old ones,the same old problems may come out one day out..?I will stay with the present one for any reason till she bid good bye to me for her own reasons.
@natalie1981 (1995)
• Singapore
8 Jun 07
The thing is, we're humans and we're made because of love so, we are born to love.
In our lives, we will always meet someone that we will have strong feelings for. If we keep dumping everyone because we fall in love with someone else, then there wouldn't be marriage or relationships.
It's all about being faithful and sticking with the one you chose to build your life with.
@sandwedge (1339)
• Malaysia
8 Jun 07
you have no business with your current bf/gf if you have fallen for someone else. if you ADMIRE someone else, then stop it.
@mean_queen (1713)
• Malaysia
12 Jun 07
Yup! Stop it before it turns ugly.. The other person may just be some silly infatuation. I happen to take my vows and promises seriously. I wouldn't wanna jeopardize my relationship just because another guy comes along (even if i do have feelings for him).. I'll stop it.. It wont be fair to my current bf.
@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
12 Jun 07
I think being honest with them is better than stringing them along, and by telling them you've developed feelings for someone else is the best thing to do in this situation. However, chances are, after meeting someone and falling for them, it's nothing more than a crush and things won't last long in that relationship anyway. So really, I think people need to be wise and think it through before they decide on anything.
@noeltotherescue (261)
• India
9 Jun 07
i wish i could help in this situation! the problem is that i have never in my entire life had such a situation! the thing is that once i got my boyfriend, i just stopped looking at every other guy in that light! i am not saying that i don't check them out! i do that! but it stops with that! even with an extremely good looking guy, i don't even consider being with them ! that thought doesn't even strike me! i guess if u are in love with someone then others just fade out from your perspective! and if u do fall in love with someone else other than your boyfriend/girlfriend then that means that you were never in love with your boyfriend/girlfriend in the first place!
so go for the person whom you love!
@ToriaT (102)
• Canada
12 Jun 07
I like to think i would talk to my current B/F tell Him exactly what I was feeling ... if what im feeling is taking my thoughts from Him i think He has a right to know...You can cheat in more ways than just sleeping with someone else...I think i would tell my current Love that i need time and space to be sure ...i risk lots for He may go and not wait...i may be totally wrong about my feelings and it may be too late to fix the relationship...but to say nothing to stay and always be wondering and yearning...i think is a path to divorce ...so i would probably go and hope for the best...at least i would know...
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@kawaii24 (520)
• Australia
8 Jun 07
yes, I think it would be unfair for me as well as my boyfriend if I just continue the relationship while I love another already. Im a very selfish person. Ill be the first one to admit that..so why would I stay in a relationship with a guy that Im not inlove with. Id rather broke up with him that cheat him..coz trust me, Im not going to give up the other guy for the bf no matter what ;)
@joan08 (19)
• Philippines
9 Jun 07
if your in a relationship try to think first if you can leave the person that you love just because of the person you think you're starting to like..sometimes people think that what they feel is love but it may be only be an infatuation to that person,i know that the situation is dificult but before making a decission you must think a hundred times and must be ready to face the consequence..godbless...
@ayza27 (10)
• Philippines
12 Jun 07
definitely,NO. You've just met that person.Maybe you've just see something new to him or something you never see at your bf/gf and saw at that "someone else".Till you adore him.And that doesn't mean you have to dump ur current bf/gf because definitely that's unfair. You have to be sure of what you feel.
