if you got pregnant because someone raped you..would you abort your child?

@djmarion (4905)
Philippines
June 8, 2007 2:08am CST
well i hope not dear friends afterall that child is your own blood too. we should not get rid of that baby in our womb no matter how bad are experience is. sadly most people do that, they resort to abortion to get rid of their unborn child just because they had been raped.
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• United States
8 Jun 07
I would get an abortion whether I was raped or not. I never want kids and I absolutely never EVER want to carry one.
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• United States
10 Jun 07
I am sorry to say this, well actually I am not, but I have been reading your discusions you have been starting and commenting to and you say you never want kids and would abort the child and whatever else and that is your opinion but IF you are so against being pregnant and ever having a child then WHY do you reply to so many that have to do with children? WHY is all I see is you commenting on children? You don't want them so why do you bother?? -Lora
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@stacyv81 (5906)
• United States
10 Jun 07
I have noticed that too. A lot of your discussions gloomcookie are on kids and abortions, why do you focus on these discussions if you do not want kids? Is there a deeper underlying issue for you?
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• United States
10 Jun 07
Abortion is a very strong topic in my life. I'm fairly young and I have a great many "fetile" years ahead of me that will be spent being worried and terrified of falling pregnant. If RoevWade gets reversed anytime during those years, I will probably concider it to be a personal failure and my life would have a higher liklihood of getting ruined. Also, I get bored frequently and my hatred of children is the most fun thing to talk about on here. The topics are slow and mostly dull. Contraversy can take up hours of time. Plus, I had to go to a gyno office last week and I'm still freaked out by all the pregnant women and babies that were there and this is the best way for me to get my frustration out.
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• United States
8 Dec 07
"friends afterall that child is your own blood too." It may share my DNA, but it'll never be mine.
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@djmarion (4905)
• Philippines
10 Dec 07
whatever our decisions are, always remember the consequences beyond them.
• United States
20 Dec 07
"whatever our decisions are, always remember the consequences beyond them. " The consequences if I kept the pregnancy would far outweigh the ones if I got rid of it. I opt to get rid of it. I like having a home and hot water to shower with.
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@quawertz (782)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
NO NO NO!!! abortion is like murder. give the unborn child a chance to live and experience his life and all the beauty of living. but i remember some one, i think my professor said that it is very rare that rape victims gets pregnant. so i guess if someone got raped there is only a slim chance that that someone will get preggy. :)
@djmarion (4905)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
really, i dont know that, what if you're fertile when it happened?
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• India
8 Jun 07
I think such pregnancy must be aborted as this is not the result of mutual understanding. Abortion should be at initial stage only when child is not grown up shaped one. Different people have various opinions. Some lady do not like to have the child some like and welcome such cases. Birth of a child should be based on mutual understanding. In rape case it is not so. There is compulsion of a girl. Though child has done no mistake.
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@djmarion (4905)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
thanks pradmod i respect your opinion, although i disagree.
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@steney (1418)
• Philippines
12 Jun 07
I would never consider abortion no matter how bad the consequences of my pregnancy is.It's not the child's fault that his existence was brought about by a misdeed. The worst that I could do is to put him up for adoption if I can't really stand his presence in my life.
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@jencai (3416)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
It's easy to be said than done. I'm sure this would really be difficult for someone to handle. The fact that the baby is also from your blood but not from your own will is a feeling you could not take. Of course the baby does not do anything to you but causes you a trauma. The person in this situation would need most support from her family and friends. Abortion is not the answer to this. Prayer, support and justice will be the most important thing. Hopefully there would be no one to suffer from this situation.
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@kawaii24 (520)
• Australia
8 Jun 07
My stand about abortion is pro choice. It really depends on the person carrying that baby. If she wanted to abort it because she cant stand the living reminder of what happen to her, then thats her choice. I will support her in whatever decision she makes. I will not condemn her because thats what she resolved to do. On the other hand if she decided to give birth to that baby, then I will commend her. Friends role in life is to stay by your side and support you. :)
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@emckee (465)
• United States
8 Jun 07
would I? HELL NO! I think I am more of a pro choice girl, only because everyone has their own free will and have to answer for themselves ultimately, but 2 of my best friends were adopted and it was because their moms had been raped. I couldn't imagine my wrold without either one of them!
@Springlady (4011)
• United States
12 Jun 07
That would be a horrible thing to have to go thru, but I pray that I would have the strength to do the right thing and have the baby. It would be hard, but I look at that baby as being God's child and He has a special plan for him/her. James Robison is a tv evangelist/missionary who was conceived out of rape. His mother decided to have him and keep him. She raised him in a Christian home and now he is married to a wonderful Christan woman, has children and spreads the Good News of Jesus Christ around the world along with feeding hungry children. Thank God she did not kill him before he was born!
• United States
12 Jun 07
He is making a huge difference in this world. He is spreading the Good News of Jesus Christ plus he is helping the poor. Your reply was so heartless.
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• United States
12 Jun 07
God created all of us. He has a plan for each and every life.
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• United States
12 Jun 07
If "God" ever decides to get me pregnant, then he should know as well as I do what the plan for that "life" is going to be. Seems like a pretty poor decision on "God's" part. And what about the plan for my life? Why does that suddenly get usurped just becuase I happen to get knocked up? What if there were plans for greatness in MY life, but they didn't happen because I got forced to have a kid I never wanted?
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• United States
8 Jun 07
That is a hard spot to be in, and I understand why many women would choose abortion. I could see problems arising from keeping the child, because of the difficulty of being a single mother, and possible resentment towards the father being aimed towards the child. I believe that I would seek out an adoption agency to find an adoptive family, since many couples are waiting to adopt babies and would not have any anger that I fear I would have.
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@djmarion (4905)
• Philippines
10 Jun 07
i think its better, if you really hate the father then you can opt to have your child adopted than kill him even before he see the light of the world.
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@djmarion (4905)
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
its you're own CHILD, and not "just some child". how could you be so harsh...
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• United States
14 Jun 07
To people who don't want children and refuse to be pregnant agaisnt their will, it IS "just some child". The fact that it's inside your own body makes it worse, not better. Not everyone wants children and not everyone thinks pregnancy is a "beautiful thing". You may find it harsh, but it's personal choice.
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@Lvdeckape (320)
• United States
10 Jun 07
I would never. I don't believe in killing something that is apart of you regardless of any circumstance. -Lora
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@djmarion (4905)
• Philippines
12 Jun 07
i agree with you lora, we must not kill our own blood, no matter how we despise the underlying circumstance.
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• United States
26 Jun 07
That is true and that baby is a part of us and did not ask to go through something so horrible such as rape but you know there are times in our life's that we must be selfless and think of someone other then ourselves and when it comes to our children and having children myself I would do absolutely anything for my children, they are my world and more. -Lora
@eden32 (3978)
• United States
29 Jun 07
"That is true and that baby is a part of us and did not ask to go through something so horrible such as rape but you know there are times in our life's that we must be selfless and think of someone other then ourselves" The "baby" in question wasn't raped, the woman was. Perhaps there are times when we should think of other's needs before our own- but the recovering after a rape is NOT one of those times. A woman who has been brutalized has the right to heal however & at whatever pace she sees fit. She is probably not in the best frame of mind or condition to properly care for herself or for the pregnancy & to force her to try is as awful of a suggestion as the rape itself.
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@msvenzon (424)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
Everything happens for a reason, even the most gruesome crimes in this world. We may never really understand how something so bad happens to us, but we cannot decide who must live and die. It's not for us to decide. A mistake cannot be justified by another mistake. And resorting to abortion is like depriving an unborn child of its freedom to live. Only the creator of all has the authority to decide who is to live. He also knows all our sorrows, surely he is grieved of the cruelty a person is doing to another person.
@ibsnet (1268)
• India
8 Jun 07
I respect your opinion. We have no right to decide who on the earth is going to live alive. We just should not kill the freedom of life. That's why the child should be allowed to born, may be there comes some social problems with the child, but God is above all to see every human being.
@eden32 (3978)
• United States
12 Jun 07
A rape is not just a mistake, it's a vile & horrific crime against another human. A woman who has been raped has the right to process her trauma anyway & at any pace she sees fit. For many women after a rape they're not mentally in a safe or healthy place; and definitely not in the right frame of mind to nurture a pregnancy they way it should be. It's barbaric to think that a woman who's been raped should be subjected to moral judgments by people who have no idea what she's going through & should be forced to continue the pregnancy.
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@msvenzon (424)
• Philippines
12 Jun 07
Yes Eden it is not to be called a mistake since rape is a crime. But a crime cannot be solved by another crime. I may not really understand the situation unless I am in it but I am a woman too. Just to answer the question, if I was put in that situation I will not have the child aborted no matter how gruesome the experience. Anyway, we are all entitled to our decisions. My decision and belief might be different to others and I respect whatever is their decision. I am not judge to anyone, it is only God who judges all people and He knows our intentions.
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@CEN7777 (858)
• India
10 Dec 07
hi djmarion, if you ask me honestly my answer is yes that child must be aborted. One cannot live whole life with a horrible memories. Rape is a crime and it should be dicouraged at all level. If some one accept this baby than this may not be thre result of rape .Than her will and wish would also be the part of it.Though child is innocent but is the result of crime and will not able to face world like normal child.
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@djmarion (4905)
• Philippines
19 Dec 07
i see, thank you for the opinion cen. happy holidays.
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@cnetboss (2477)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
Abortion is one of the ways irresponsible persons resort to because they think the child (a product of a bad experience such as rape) would be a big burden to them. Personally the innocent child should not be blamed because of the outcome of the bad experience.
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• United States
27 Jun 07
Interesting outlook. I am wondering how you have concluded that anyone choosing abortion for any reason, especially as a victim of rape, is automatically irresponsible. I don't think anyone is blaming the child as you suggested. Perhaps they are thinking of what is best for the child and for themselves as well. Let's assume a young woman is raped by her father and a pregnancy results. What sort of life would that child (if born) have to endure? First, it would be born into an obviously messed up and dysfunctional family, second, his mother would also be his half sister, third, perhaps the mother fears since she is incapable of protecting herself from her father's abuse that the only way to insure her unborn child will not be victimized as well is to abort the pregnancy, etc, etc. I think it is odd how people claim to know every detail and thought process that goes through the mind of anyone choosing abortion, can pretend they know what any of it is like - having never experienced walking in their shoes, and then judge them harshly for whatever choice they have come to.
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• United States
26 Jun 07
I think every woman should have the right to choose whether to abort with any pregnancy. I don't think anyone should have to get a stamp of approval from ANYONE for their choice and reasoning process, nor be told that she should carry the child and then put it up for adoption later. There are about 3700 abortions every year in the US. Statistics show that LESS THAN HALF of children placed for adoption are actually adopted. Many living in foster care are abused and mistreated. There just are not enough people out there (who want to or can afford to) take on the already unwanted children, let alone the nearly 4000 ADDITIONAL babies that would be born per year. It should always be a personal choice only. It is nobody's else's business but that of the pregnant woman. Birth control fails...each of my three children AND two miscarried children were the result of failed birth control, and although I value my children more than anything else on earth, if I could go back 22 years knowing what I know now about the world and life in general, and having experienced the things that I have...well, let's just say that I was supposed to be aborted and I have often wished my parents would have followed through with it. I think sometimes it is much more humane to abort than to bring a child into an existence of pain and suffering.
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• United States
15 Jan 08
3700 per hour perhaps.
@rsa101 (13337)
• Philippines
20 Dec 07
I would give the child to be born his father should be punished thought for putting you in this situation. But the child must be given the chance to live no matter how bad the father is. There is still hope that the child could grow a better person than his father is.
@ruchiteen (135)
• India
4 Jul 07
No personnely myself is not going to give the birth of that baby... i believe baby inherits more qualities from his father... and if the father will be like that then how the baby will be... and the second reason is every time the bay face will recall me that incident.. so i am not going to birth that baby....
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• United States
27 Jun 07
id have an abortion.
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@YoungInLove (1254)
• Canada
12 Jun 07
I think that if the women wants to abort it then she should, and its a same that she is judged and labeled a "murderer" just because she doesnt want to have a child that was forced upon her in the most horrible way. If i was raped and got pregnant, I would abort it, because I'm really young and It wasnt my fault I was raped. Sorry if it sounds heartless, but a women shouldnt be burdened with a child that was the result of rape if she didnt want to be.
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@Ravenladyj (22992)
• United States
12 Jun 07
I'm sorry but I most certainly would abort...Reason being, dealing with rape on its own is absolute HELL...Being raped turns your entire world inside out and upside down and thats not even getting into if charges are pressed and you have to go through court proceedings....Being pregnant from your attacker would be far too much for me to deal with...Theres no way I could do it...MIND YOU if it werent for the fact that I AM a survivor of rape then maybe I'd have a different outlook but since I am and I know what it is capable of doing to you there is no way I'd go to term...
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