What is the most important thing in a marriage

@shan_ab (377)
India
June 8, 2007 4:25am CST
What is the most important factor that makes a marriage works in the long term.. Is it -- understanding, friendship between partners, patience, loyalty, fidelity.. What is your opinion. According to me understanding and openness to each other plays a big role.
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6 responses
@ackars (1942)
• India
8 Jun 07
I think Understanding is the best factor which can keep you with your partner life long.The understanding that,she/he loves you,cares for you,helpful to you,a friend of you etc.Everything else comes along with great understanding between both of them.
@shan_ab (377)
• India
8 Jun 07
Hi, thanks for the comment, and I also agree that this is correct..
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• United States
8 Jun 07
I think I would have to describe the most important thing as Teamwork. It sounds weird, but when you think about it Teamwork is about dedication, willingness to work together, making up for each others weaknesses, encouraging each other, and solving problems.
@shan_ab (377)
• India
8 Jun 07
Not sounding wierd, it is an interesting opinion.
@amaine (2037)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
Well, I might disagree with the choices you made, and I am sorry. But I would like to state my opinion on this. The most important thing is, of course it would be - love. Well, if both partners truly love each other, understanding, patience, trust and the rest will come. Because if love doesn't exist between two people, loyalty etc etc will not also be present. Hey, that was just my idea. Sorry for being rude or something. LOL :) Anyway, nice topic you have there.
@shan_ab (377)
• India
8 Jun 07
Amaine, Thankyou for your response.. Yes, love plays a very important part.. But the question comes as what is love.. Love includes the understanding and all those choices.. It is not only the lust part.. As you grow older you are becoming more and more dependent on each other and and the love just grows.. If you truly love someone, yes you will try to be understanding, loyal etc.. :-)
@wdiong (1818)
• Singapore
8 Jun 07
For me, a lasting marriage results from a couple's ability to resolve the conflicts that are inevitable in any relationship. Many couples tend to equate a low level of conflict with happiness and believe the claim "we never fight" is a sign of marital health. But I believe we grow in our relationships by reconciling our differences. That's how we become more loving people and truly experience the fruits of marriage.
@shan_ab (377)
• India
8 Jun 07
Hi, you are correct.. When two people who most probably brought up in different situations and environments live together, conflicts are bound to happen. The couple should act otherwise that everything is OK to avoid these conflicts.. Actually avoiding conflicts will create problems in the long term. Resolving the conflicts and getting to know each other through these small fights make life a lot more simpler and interesting.
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@lucky_witch (2711)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
The most important thing in marriage I guess is love... When you love your partner it would be easy for you to be playful, caring, loyal, patience, honest , thoughtful and by nature you tend to respect him with all of your heart. I guess when you love your partner all comes naturally... and all comes easily.
@abrarr (1246)
• Pakistan
8 Jun 07
i'm not married but still i can thik of it. i think that sincerity is the most important thing to have a successful married life!!