Why can`t friends just come out with it.

@_hope_ (3906)
Australia
June 8, 2007 5:09am CST
I really don`t like it when a so called friend isn`t honest with you . For some reason you have offended that friend but am not sure just what you have done wrong . They avoid you and have no contact with you . Why can`t people just be honest instead of all the crap that goes on . I would prefer being told up front if i have offended them and why . Isn`t that how friends are suppose to work . No wonder i choose now not to have friends because i always end up getting hurt and the thing is i have no idea why .
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@mac1946 (1602)
• Calgary, Alberta
8 Jun 07
Hi Hope,I am happy to see you back,I hope you are getting a bit better with the young ones. As for your question Hope,I find it hard to deal with liers,the unfortunate part is,knowing when they have lied and what your responce to them is,If they deliberatly lie to you to get something from you and then once they have it,drop you,theis people are not friends. I am sorry you found one,but at least you know you have some honest friends as well that only wish the best for you. Take care,and we'll talk soon. John
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@_hope_ (3906)
• Australia
15 Jun 07
Thanks John but you know how things go and it`s not been great been fighting the usual but feel as though i`m loosing the battle ,each day has become so much harder to deal with . I don`t even come in here that often and another forum i use to visit i said my final good bye to yesterday i just can`t do it anymore . There are so many people in this world who are there just for themselves and they tread on anyone who gets in their way ,they use me then when they can get no more just walk away ,it really hurts having this done so much but no more this lady has had enough . Well my dear friend take care and stay safe until next time.Jane
@mac1946 (1602)
• Calgary, Alberta
16 Jun 07
Yes Hope,I know just what you are talking about,I do the same as you,try to help as many people as I can,some thank me,others seem to take it for granted that that is why I am here,only to help them. But you know Hope,I don't mind,if I can make at least one person happy a day,then I feel I have accomplished something. I do wish you all the best,and please,anytime you need to vent,e-mail me,I will respond. take care.
@mansha (6301)
• India
15 Jun 07
I knbow exactly how it feels. When I was in college,I had wondered whether to trust everyone and get hurt or to distrust everyone and be safe. then I thought the other way will make me go mad as I will be in a constant state of distrust so I thought I will trust and make friends no matter if I get hurt. Now I think I was stupid, I should have kept a distance because now people take advantage of me and leave me hurting. Same thing probably you are goig throught too.I am here for you hope always, if you want we can talk. I have just come back from my in laws place and was so much mistreated that I am still hurting. may be we can share our grieves and feel better.
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@_hope_ (3906)
• Australia
15 Jun 07
The choices i have made have turned out to be so wrong that i don`t want to make any more .i do not want to let anyone else in .i do not want any more pain life is just full of it .if only we could foresee the result of our choices before hand but then i suppose whe had to experience what happens as a result of our choice . My dear Mansha why would anyone miss treat you you are such a gentle sole the inlaws have not got to know you and i sorry to hear they have caused you this pain .i would love to share our pain together and will pm you soon or just email but just right now i need a little time i will send tomorrow if thats ok with you .As for now take care sweet one you are a good friend and i cherish that .
@missytia (387)
• Australia
9 Jun 07
HOpe....everyone has different 'levels' of friendship. But I do believe that if they are a true friend, they should just come out and say to you what is bothering them. You should also be able to ask upfront. I know with the majority of my friends, we say it like it is. We may not always agree on everything and we do do things to piss each other off, but once things are aired and out in the open all is good. If your so-called friend can not even bother to tell you what it is you have done to upset him/her, I don't really think they were a true friend to start with. Please don't wipe your hands of friends and friendship due to a few people who are not even worth your time. Eventually we all find friends who will be there for you through thick and thin. The rest just end up being passing aquaintances. And remember, all people come into our lives for a reason. It may be for a short time, long time or forever, but they do come and serve a purpose.
@_hope_ (3906)
• Australia
15 Jun 07
missytia the thing is my life has has just so much pain as it is and i have to draw the line some where .this " friend " was the final straw all i see is that i`m the one who ends up hurt all the time and there is only so much i can take . where i live i`m by myself i might even go down the street once a fortnight if i`m lucky and a week will go by before i realise i haven`t even been outside .SOME LIFE THIS HAS TURNED OUT TO BE . if friend come into our life for a reason only to leave more pain then i do not need them
@rainbow (6763)
8 Jun 07
Hi honey, that sounds miserable! Missed you online but I've hardly been on myself! I would never purposefully avoid a friend and would tell them if I was upset. Sometimes I just need to be alone and cannot deal with other peoples lives but it doesn't mean that I don't care! I try to be honest in all my dealings as telling fibs is too complicated and I can't be bothered although I may sugar-coat things sometimes. I have no idea why people trick, lie and steal or why people are so hurtful for no reason, I just hope no-one ever feels that way about me! Friends that hurt us are sent into our lifes for a reason, it's good to see them leave our lives again when the lesson is learned.
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@_hope_ (3906)
• Australia
15 Jun 07
Wonderful to see you too Rainbow it has been a while but these days i just don`t come in here that much anymore but i do miss my lovely friends from in here .Hope you and your family are well.There are so many people who are in this world just for themselves they use people who are vonerable them just push them aside .I have had enough now i have shut the door not again will it happen to me . I will be there is someone needs a hand like the family i cared for last week but there will be nothing furthur any more . Take care dear angel
@ausnikki (4055)
• Brisbane, Australia
8 Jun 07
What has happened my friend?. I hope everything is ok.I know I haven't been online much lately but as you know I am still looking for a job.I hope it isn't me who has upset you.I agree with you though,if someone is upset with me I would like to know about it,hopefully it can be sorted out and I can apologise if need be.Please know that I would never intentionally hurt you. Mega hugs to you my friend.
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@_hope_ (3906)
• Australia
15 Jun 07
Oh nikki it definately wasn`t you ,you have no need to worry .I don`t come on much these days have just lost so much interest in things now . Hopefully a great job will come your way real soon don`t give up hope .I just do not understand why people hurt people like this ,maybe it`s just me i have no idea ((( HUGS )))
@shoelover (896)
• Australia
8 Jun 07
I'm sorry to hear that Hope. I myself haven't been on msn much just to check my emails. I am glad you understand why I myself am not on seen as you yourself suffer with the same thing. Big Hugs to you my dear. Take care of yourself.
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@_hope_ (3906)
• Australia
15 Jun 07
My dear shoelover ( hugs )to you my friend i do understand and i hope you are feeling better soon .take care and stay safe
@Calais (10900)
• Australia
8 Jun 07
Exactly....I would rather be told up front about anything. I think its best to get things out in the open. You may or may not get angry and be peeved off for a little bit, but you get over it.
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@_hope_ (3906)
• Australia
15 Jun 07
Calais everything is so much better up front why do things like this it just hurts people even more