Do you give up wisely?

China
June 10, 2007 12:33am CST
In our life people usually say "Do not give up" and a person who is persistent is widely praised.However,sometimes if we do give up,things will turn out better than we have thought.Insisting is not always best way to solve problems,instead,to give up wisely may be a better choice. If we do not give up when it is necessary,not only can not we succeed but also will we be hurt.Take me for example:in the past,I could never make concessions when I argue with others,And because of this I have lost many good friends.I do think I have paid too much for such a lesson. Therefor,people should give up wisely under a certain circumstance. What is your opinion? Do you always give up wisely? share it.
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21 responses
• Canada
11 Jun 07
Oh yes for sure it is wise to not always win! The saying goes to be careful what you pray for. Well I also think it is wise to know when to step down from a battle or from a situation that you are determined that you are going to get your way with. So many times things work out for the better when you decide to back down or turn away! Some times when we are stubborn and perserver the price of winning isn't worth what we lost! If you know what I mean and I am sure you do?
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@aleeming1 (163)
• Canada
11 Jun 07
I think I give up on things too easily. I never really sit and think of the future and how it will affect me.. Like when I was 16 and took my drivers course and failed 4 times.. I gave up on driving.. Now its 5 years later and I want to drive again and take my test, but I forgot how to drive and stuff.
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@dlufel (424)
• Australia
11 Jun 07
I think life is about making decision. And giving up is considered one of our decision to make. In my life, there are so many things that i have to give up to make people around me happy. And for those people who say " do not give up", i think that only applies to certain things in life. We still have to give up on certain other aspects. I agree with the question. I think we really have to give up wisely.
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@squaretile (3833)
• Singapore
11 Jun 07
Yes, i was just hearing about a similar situation. my friend is in a job that she doesn't like. cutting her losses early, might seem like giving up without trying. but to me, she should just give up, cos it'd be wise to do so early. hanging in there might not be a good thing. A well detected point, tracy! thanks for sharing.
@RosieS57 (889)
• United States
10 Jun 07
Interesting question! The reason it caught my attention is that I just gave up strategically this weekend. Did you ever play with a sibling or friend where you're pushing against each other and then you choose to collapse at just the right moment to get the other to tumble? I did that. The people that were being control freaks and pressuring me behind the scenes got mad and fell over publically when I gave in and quit. It was volunteer and I built up part of it from scratch. Now they are being nasty that I'm gone and others are getting an eyeful of how the jerks really are. It was needed and I'm glad I dumped those clowns. Quitting, sometimes, is the very best solution.
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@bcl_me (583)
• Philippines
10 Jun 07
Do not give up! Keep trying! It so often happens that the key opens the door. Likewise, it is your last prayer that may grant you salvation, and your last meditation that may grant you realisation. Successful meditation entirely depends on our inner cry. When a child is hungry, really hungry, he cries. He may be on the first floor and his mother may be on the third floor, but when the mother hear his cry she comes down immediately to feed the child. Let us take meditation as an inner hunger. If we are really hungry, out Father Supreme will come running no matter where we are crying. If we have intensity and sincerity in our cry, then we begin to make spiritual progress immediately. Otherwise, it can take years and years. Again, God-realisation is not like instant coffee-something that you will get immediately. God-realisation takes time. If somebody says he will be able to make you realise God overnight, then do not take him seriously. It takes twenty years to get a Master's Degree, which is important and more significant, naturally will take many more years. In no way do I want to discourage anyone. If your inner hunger is sincere, then God will satisfy your hunger.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
10 Jun 07
I never gave up and if they were true friends you wouldnt have lost them
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@fengbo (731)
• China
10 Jun 07
yeah,Sometimes if we do give up,things will turn out better than we have though.we don't must do anything will insisting at the last,if insiting is not the best way,give it up is the best choice.Otherwise you will get hurt and will make you despondenced. The clever people know how to give up and insisting,when to give up.In our life,so many people don't give up manythings,in china have a word:enough to lose it".what do you wants gained and what do you have lose,it is the most part decided your attitude.In my life,i don't like to hanker something very longer,if i don't have chance to gained it.I will choose give up,maybe it will shun me hurt.
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• New Zealand
10 Jun 07
For me it's not so much about giving up, but changing direction, if one isnt working its for a reason and most likely because Im going the wrong way about something. So I step back take a look at it and try to look from the outside in, usually you can see quite a bit and where you were going wrong. Sometimes it's a simple change that it needed.
@maryannemax (12170)
• Sweden
10 Jun 07
yup. there's no reason to step down that quick. we fail and look for reasons why we fail and study it. then try to think of ways to change it. just getting into another direction. but at times, when we really can't get it, we should not persist so much for it might not really be meant for us... anne
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• China
11 Jun 07
yes,maybe we should change direction when we do something wrong.thank you
@Willowlady (10666)
• United States
10 Jun 07
You do need to know when to hold them and when to fold them as a song once went. A certain amount of stick to itiveness is necessary and hopefully in the skill level you command. Then you often can see when your job is in jeopardy and so be prepared with a new resume to farm it out and see if there is anyone that could use your talents. Being aware while living will get your farther than being a zombie and plodding through life.
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• United States
11 Jun 07
That's exactly what I thought of when I saw this headline, Willowlady, I could hear Kenny singing in my mind! There's also an old saying, "discretion is the better part of valor", and one even older that says, "They who fight and run away, live to fight another day!"
@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
10 Jun 07
“Do not give up” is always the saying of a tough fighter but “give up wisely” should be that of the intelligent. If we think that persistency couldn’t do much we might as well desert it. For instance if you alone were confronted with some armed robbers you understand that you could have no chance to beat them so it’s wise to give up. Then you would lose some money instead of losing your valuable life if you try to fight with them.
• China
11 Jun 07
yeah,I agree with you,my friend,thank you.
• Philippines
10 Jun 07
No i dont give like you battle for your love a cant give if love is talking about like now me my girlfriend 9yrs together becoz i dont give what ever happen that may opinion
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• China
11 Jun 07
wow,I envy you that you have been together with your girlfriend for 9 years,good luck to you and your girlfriend.
• China
12 Jun 07
yeah,I will do that.
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@KissThis (3006)
• United States
11 Jun 07
As the song goes " You got to know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em, Know when to walk away and know when to run." This words can be said about life. You have to know when to give up or when to keep fighting about or for something. I figure this is just one of the life lessons I have to learn. I haven't always made a wise decision about when and when not to give up. As I get older I am getting better about knowing when to do what.
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@meme0907 (3481)
• United States
10 Jun 07
Hey T1985, You make a good point in your discussion-sometimes we should just agree to disagree & be done w/ it. Also,giving up on a bad habit or bad realtionship is a wise choice too. +'s 2 U :D
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@maryannemax (12170)
• Sweden
10 Jun 07
failure is a part of life. but i don't give in to failure at once. when things don't go the way i planned them to be, i try to look through it and find where i did wrong. and fix things up. if after some tries i still can't make it happen, i give up and try other things. giving up does not mean losing. it's just accepting positively that not all things are good for us. we fail, we win... it's a part of life. - anne
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@kit_anne (37)
• Denmark
10 Jun 07
For me, I don't give up that easily but I do know when for me to start and stop my fight. Giving up something doesn't mean you're a loser, it's a human nature that you get tired of it and you cannot resist the pain so you gave up. If you fought for something which you think in the end it's productive, just go for it, try and try until you hit the mark but if you keep fighting on something that you think there will be no great outcome, it's so useless. Life is just like were on a battlefield, you should decide to fight or just runaway to live. Just like the song, You don't have to fight to be a man, you're not a loser if you don't fight. You're just being wise on your decisions. Who knows next things you do, you will attain your goal.
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@jillmalitz (5132)
• United States
10 Jun 07
Yes. We all have to learn to pick our battles. What good does it do to be right if we lose family and friends. Some things are worth fighting for and others are not. An example I see a lot is the guy who yells at the secretary because he is mad at the boss. That wont work. Principals are something we should stand for but we need to always remember how to stand for our rights etc. Many people take things so personally that they forget the reason of the "fight". Funny but I think sometimes we need to learn to fight/discuss like a lawyer or minister. Too many people win the battle but lose the war. Wisdom is always a winner.
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@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
10 Jun 07
Sometimes I feel like give up but I really don't give up so I just keep on trying and don't give up.
• China
11 Jun 07
Good luck to you.thank you.
• Sri Lanka
20 Jun 07
There is one thing that I gave up wisely. My childhood dream was to become an airline pilot or at least an engineer. But I knew that Chemistry is going to be a tough subject for me. So I took my uncles advice and gave up my dream to pursue a career in accountancy.