My hubby just left....

Walking away - off to war
@mamasan34 (6521)
United States
June 10, 2007 10:01am CST
My husband left for deployment Friday morning. It was the hardest day of my life. I think my heart broke in half when he walked away to join his guys. I hate this, the waiting is killing me and it is only three days into 15 months! Ugh....I am just trying to stay busy and not think too much about it. He called me to let me know he is ok and he reached his destination safely. So, at least that I am relieved about.
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@kareng (7980)
• United States
10 Jun 07
Oh wow. I know this has to be hard. I think you are doing the right thing by trying to keep busy. This is a great place to spend some time each day and interact with members. I'll be thinking of you and praying for his safe return. Take care!
@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
11 Jun 07
thanks so much! I really appreciate all of the thoughts and prayers for him. I also thank you guys for being so kind and caring for my situation. I am trying so hard to stay busy! I definitely am going to be on here more often!
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@kareng (7980)
• United States
11 Jun 07
I'm sure you will find lots of support here! I've seen a couple other military wives here. You should start a new topic and get them all together! Have a great day!
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
11 Jun 07
I will definitely look into that! thanks for the suggestion!
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• Philippines
10 Jun 07
i can relate to the situation you have there. my husband is a seafarer and its almost always breaking my heart everytime he leaves. our kids feels the same way, too. its really hard for a father to be away to his family but, its harder on our part since we have to be both the father and mother to our kids while our hubby's away. its like we are single parents here. don't you think so? :)
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
11 Jun 07
yes you are so right! It is like we are single parents most of the time, because they are so often gone for so long. We miss them so much and when they come home, we have to adjust to them being back in our lives and then gone again. Always constantly adjusting to it. I don't mind though, I love him so much that I want to make these sacrifices to be in his life. So I can totally agree with you on this!
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@YoungInLove (1254)
• Canada
10 Jun 07
Mayeb you should get a new hobby. Was there ever a business you wanted to start but didnt have enough time? Its your best chance to try something new, especially to keep yourself busy for the next 15 months
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
11 Jun 07
nah, never really wanted to start a new business or anything like that. I have wanted to start gardening, so me and my daughter are going to the farmers market next weekend and look at their flowers and see what I can't kill, lol! I am also volunteering for the family support group, I work part time and I have some friends that are keeping me busy and mylot lol! So, I think I can handle it.
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• Philippines
10 Jun 07
i know how it felt to be apart with your hubby...as i have the same situation as yours well technically he's not yet my hubby, he's my boyfriend. we've been apart for 15 months now. The day he left was i guess the loneliest day of my life..i was very sad..i felt like that it was unfair for him to leave me..but i can't let him stay coz i understand why he had to leave (he migrated in the US and had to work there) it's for our future...it's for both of us. i know the waiting is the hardest part, i suggest that you shouldn't count the days till he comes home.. make yourself busy, have hobbies play sports..coz that's what i do i make myself busy and before i know it, 15 months has gone by...Good LucK..
@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
11 Jun 07
Thanks for the words of support. I am trying to be busy, I go to the swimming pool, I am going to take up gardening, I have a part time job and I take care of my daughter as well. We go to see movies, we go for walks and we try to do so many things. The other wives and I plan to do more things together as well in the future. I know you must have been lonely but you are incredibly strong to make it for 15 months so far. I hope you don't have to wait much longer. The waiting is the hardest part! I totally identify with that.
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@YoungInLove (1254)
• Canada
10 Jun 07
I admire you. Honestly, I see so many topics of wives talking about their husbands leaving for deployment and it just breaks my heart. I dont know how they do it. It just shows how strong you guys really are. And your strong enough to make it through this. I hope you feel better, and I know it hurts now. But as time goes by, you wont get over it, but youll get used to it until hes finally home. Good luck darling, everything will be okay.
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
11 Jun 07
thanks so much! it is hard and it doesn't really get easier, but you really do get used to being more independent and living on your own. So far I am doing pretty good. I am still new around here and having to find my way around, I was proud of myself that I found my way around with no problems today. So that made me pretty happy! I just got so sad the day they left because there were so many pregnant women, who may not be able to have their husbands there for the birth of their child. I miss my husband, but that just has to be so hard for them!
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@Sherry12 (2475)
• United States
10 Jun 07
That has to be so hard. I can only imagine what you are feeling. I think you are wise to keep busy. Remember you have all of us to here to talk to. We'll keep you busy and talking all day. And, you can keep us updated whenever you hear from your hubby. We're your friends and we care.
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
11 Jun 07
Oh that is so sweet! Thanks so much for saying that, it really does mean a lot to me. I definitely need to keep busy, it does help. My daughter is just being my rock these days. We went to the pool today and that helped a lot, to get some sun and just relax. Thanks again!
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@4cuteboys (4102)
• United States
13 Jun 07
I am so sorry. My hubby left May 26th for a 6 months deployment. So that's nothing compared to your 15 months. I am almost 3 weeks into it, and still have so many more. When he's gone we are moving into a bigger house, having a baby, and he'll miss our anniversary and 4 birthdays. It depresses me, but thankfully he's been able to call every day and we email a little during the day as well. I am trying to stay busy but the days seem to be dragging sometimes. :( Take care, and PM me here anytime if you want to talk
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
14 Jun 07
Thanks so much! Whether it is 6 months of 15 months, the time is just as long I think. You sure do have your hands full moving into a new house and having a baby too. I know what you mean about missing holidays, birthdays and anniversaries. My husband will be missing all of our firsts!But it is ok, we are hoping he can come home during the holidays. I dont count on it, but whenever it is, I will be happy. Thanks for the offer and ifyou need to talk, please feel free to pm me as well!
@4cuteboys (4102)
• United States
14 Jun 07
You have such a good attitude about it!!!! :) I get mopey sometimes, especially when it seems like the days are dragging. Your right, I think 6 or 15 months is waaay too long, but I cant imagine being in your shoes and having to do 15 months. you are superwife! hehe
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
18 Jun 07
I wouldn't go that far! I have been having a pretty bad day today, I have been missing him so much! I was going through old pictures and looking through them with a friend of mine last night and I think that had a lot to do with it. I just felt like crying all day today. It is hard, but I do try to have a positive attitude about it. I am so glad that you get to talk to your hubby! It is so nice to hear that other servicemen get to talk to their spouses. I got a call yesterday and I was so happy about that!
• Netherlands
21 Jun 07
Well mamasan34, my sister married an army. So , I know how she felt everytime her husband has to leave her for...who knows...can be couple of days, weeks, or months. Anyway, doesn't matter what occupation...but when you left your family for a period of time surely won't be easy for both the one who left behind and one that has to fill their duties. I can just wish you all the best and that your husband will come home soon...
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
22 Jun 07
Thank you so much! I really appreciate your thoughts and being able to identify with my situation. I really do thank you for that!
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• United States
16 Jun 07
This must be incredibly hard! I can't even begin to imagine. My thoughts and prayers are coming your way.... How are you doing now? Do you get a chance to talk with him daily?
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
22 Jun 07
thanks for the thoughts and prayers! I do get to speak with him on the phone every few days and that is nice. I am doing ok. I have been really keeping myself busy with the family support group and getting involved with that and working part time and trying to spend time with my daughter. So, I have been staying pretty busy with all of that, it is the later hours in the evening that I have a problem with, when the house gets quiet and I am alone. Thats when I tend to miss him the most, but I am hanging in there!
• United States
13 Jun 07
Bless your heart! I know this is a difficult time for you, no doubt! I see that you are at Bragg...I am from Hope Mills and now live in Fayetteville. My church has a program called Homefires. It's a support group for spouses of deployed soldiers. You do not have to be a church member or attend our church, as a matter of fact most of our Homefires ladies are not from our church. It is a community outreach program I am a part of. We offer free dinner and childcare (at no cost to you, totally FREE) at our monthly meetings. I actually work in the nursery at our church, but am on maternity leave right now. It is a group of both support and friendship to help you while your hubby is away. I just thought I'd tell you about it and see if you might be interested. We have a yahoo group as well that is mainly used for meeting updates and such. If you are interested or would like more info, feel free to contact me! I wish you the very best! Just know, you are not alone and you and your hubby will make it through this. You and your family will be in my prayers.
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
14 Jun 07
I would definitely like to know about it! I think that is a fantastic idea that you have put into action. If you could pm me that information i would like to attend a meeting! Thanks so much!
• Philippines
13 Jun 07
hi there hope your fine..i haven't experience it already, but i think its sad..especially if you are used to be with him everyday, ..ohhh..thats sad..anyway your right you have to keep your self busy...take care
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
13 Jun 07
thanks, I am being very busy and trying hard not to think too much about him being gone for so long. i am doing fine, just trying to stay busy and keep my mind off of it.
@Gorgeous24 (1091)
• United States
12 Jun 07
Hey mamasan...Your fiance is very lucky to have to and all your support for him, You are both a Beautiful couple I saw the picture on your page. I know you said your going to keep busy and thats a very good thing, I know it seems like the time is going slow but as long as you have a positive outlook on things you will be just fine. (I have faith in you) My thoughts and prayers are with every perosn who is deployed and their families!! God bless and know you always have us here on Mylot :)
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
12 Jun 07
thanks for those words of support. I really appreciate them. The time seems to be going by pretty well so far. It's only been a few days but it's ok. I don't feel as bad as I did the first couple of days. Thanks for the prayers!
• United States
12 Jun 07
I know this is a hard situation for you, but time will pass by fast and he'll be home before you know it! I know, not what you really want to hear. We will keep him in our prayers! If you need anything let me know!
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
12 Jun 07
I am keeping busy these days and it is getting a little easier as the days go by! I am utilizing some of this time to get a tan and relax by the pool too! Thanks for keeping him in your prayers.
@RenaeT (688)
• United States
12 Jun 07
I'm so sorry to hear your husband had to go. I will keep you in my prayers always. This would be so very hard. So very sorry. . .
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
12 Jun 07
thanks Renae! I appreciate it. It is ok, it is his job and my job is to keep the home fires burning. I am staying busy and it is getting a little easier as the days go by. I still miss him a lot but my heart doesn't feel so burdensome! Take care!
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
11 Jun 07
Im sorry your feeling sad. Its a good idea to stay really busy it does help. Im glad he called you. Thats good new. You take care and hugs to you.
@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
11 Jun 07
I am staying busy and today wasn't as bad as yesterday. i am starting to get accustomed to it. I have to work tomorrow so that will get me through the day extra fast! Thanks for responding.
@gabs8513 (48717)
• United Kingdom
11 Jun 07
Oh Sweetie I am so sorry that is a long time for him to be away I hope that he will be able to get home in between that I hope you will be ok Just shout ok I used to married to someone in the Army so i know what it is like Sweetie Big Hugs to you
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
11 Jun 07
thanks so much for the words of support. everyone has been so nice and supportive on here. I really appreciate it. He will be able to come home for two weeks sometime in the middle of his tour and that will be nice, but short! Thanks again for the support!
• United States
11 Jun 07
I understand what you are talking about. My husband when he was in the service went to Turkey for 15 months and it was a very hard time for me. I would wear a shirt of his that had his scent on at night when I went to sleep. I wouldn't sleep in our bed because it was to big for just one person in. He couldn't understand why I would not sleep in the bed but on the couch. It is very hard for us spouses to have to stay behind and watch our loved ones go off. I will keep you in my prayers and please let the members here know how things are going.
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
11 Jun 07
thanks for commenting and I am glad that there are people out there that can identify with what us military wives are going through. It is very difficult to go that long without seeing the one you love. You know this all too well. I hate sleeping in that bed alone. I do sleep on the couch sometimes, but normally I sleep in bed, because I sprayed his cologne on his pillow and I curl up with it when I go to sleep and I can smell him. I heard from him today and I was just so happy to hear his voice. it was a relief to know he made it to his destination and is ok.