marriage

Canada
June 10, 2007 9:26pm CST
after living with someone for 23 years is there really a need to get married
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5 responses
• United States
11 Jun 07
Here you would be classified as being common law married after living together 6 mths. In a common law marriage the female can change her name on everything just like if you were to get officially married. You can do everything joint together if you want. You also have the option to do everything separate too....file taxes, bank accounts, etc...I dont' see any reason why you should unless you want the peice of paper showing you took your vows. You do what you feel is in your heart! If you need the extra commitment with vows then go for it, but if you 2 are happy just the way things are then don't change a thing! ;)
• Canada
11 Jun 07
thank you for being honest we have been happy but she still wants to march down the aisle
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• United States
11 Jun 07
Sweep her off her feet and take her to Las Vegas! They have a beautiful chapel there...so I have heard....lol My hubby and I were common law married for 10 years before we actually took our vows. So far we have 7 wonderful years of being married officially, but a total of 23 yrs. of being together. We met when I was 11 and he was 15.
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@tad1fan (3373)
• Canada
11 Jun 07
been with mine for 24....I say no,I still call him hubby....LOL
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@mrsbrian (1951)
• United States
11 Jun 07
Well its just me but I believe if you can bed her you can wed her. I guess it depends on a few things do you have children plus there are legal things like colecting ones social security if you pass away first.Also dose your work insurance cover her if you are not married?
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@razcal2267 (15577)
• United States
11 Jun 07
Personally I do not see a reason to be married after being together all that time but it really is up to the individual couple. If she wants the wedding why not have a small one and show her in front of everyone that you are committed to her. I know that after that long you shouldn't have to because it should be obvious but from what you said in response to another post it sounds like that is what she really wants.
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@youdontsay (3503)
• United States
16 Jun 07
In the U.S. marriage gives you benefits you don't have if you live unmarried as a couple. Tax breaks, health insurance coverage, legal rights, survivor rights, custody rights, etc.
• Canada
16 Jun 07
thats a good point