Do people like you when they first meet you?

@vega83 (6346)
Bahrain
June 11, 2007 6:47am CST
Or are you the kind that grows on people? Well, not literally of course, although I did see a movie like that once, ha ha. Anyway, many of my really good friends today have told me that they didn't like me when they first met me, they thought I was a bit of a show off, rude and mean, but when they got to know me they realized that I wasn't all those things at all, except maybe the show off part, ha ha.. Well, I don't mind being that person, because I think it's much better that people don't instantly like me but continue to like me more and more as they get to know me better, it's much better than liking someone who seems really nice, but who turns out to be, well, not so nice.. That's one of the reasons why I don't really believe that "first impression is the last impression", and I don't really go with that when I meet someone for the first time. You know, never judge a book by its cover, and all that. So what kind do you think is better? And what kind do you think you are?
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@loverenth (136)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
I can't believe I haven't thought of this before. But as I come to think of it, everybody has liked me the first time we met, as far as I can tell... The only person who wasn't very happy to meet me was my Ex's girlfriend... :)
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@vega83 (6346)
• Bahrain
21 Jun 07
Oh of course, ha ha, no surprises there..
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• United States
20 Jun 07
I am usually shy at first, so I guess after I'm comfortable enough I come out of my shell and that's when people start to enjoy my personality.
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@vega83 (6346)
• Bahrain
20 Jun 07
Oh, so you grow on people. I like people like that..
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• India
19 Jun 07
of course
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@vega83 (6346)
• Bahrain
20 Jun 07
ok..
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@sakana (260)
• Singapore
19 Jun 07
People tend to like me when they first meet me because I'm nice and laid-back, and I make friends easily too, but I only keep a couple of close friends I talk to regularly and trust very much.
@vega83 (6346)
• Bahrain
20 Jun 07
Yeah, I got my posse too, the close group who I trust.
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@sensesfail (2251)
• India
12 Jun 07
I don't speak much when i see the person for the first time,so it turns out that they need more than a meeting to understand me more. But it depends,if i like the person or if i think that i can get to the person i just keep talking until i get tired of it.lol.These are the times that people like me when they meet me for the first time.
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@vega83 (6346)
• Bahrain
13 Jun 07
So depending on the person, you get to choose whether they would like you or not... That's cool since you won't waste your time by being friendly to people who you don't wanna be friends with...
• India
13 Jun 07
exactly.
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@vega83 (6346)
• Bahrain
14 Jun 07
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@Dumpertaker (1188)
12 Jun 07
To be honest, when it comes to meeting people in the flesh, I'm quite shy and kinda hide away, and don't really show myself for quite a while...I guess there's not much to me on first impressions! It's kinda different when I'm online as people do not see who I am even though I can say about my life and experiences and stuff. As for my first impression of you...it was gamer, totally nutty (in a good way!) and a nice person. I consider you a friend and a really nice person.
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@vega83 (6346)
• Bahrain
12 Jun 07
Yeah, I guess we're all a little bit more open online hiding behind our usernames and avatars, including me...but with that hiding actually comes a sense of security where we can sometimes share things with online friends that we can't with real friends. It's weird that way... And thanks, dude. You're a pal too, and a really cool guy indeed! In my first impression of you, well it was in a discussion of mine, and I had not checked "allow mature content" in my profile, and so I couldn't see your response, so my first impression was "what has this guy written", because I think it was some discussion about games, but when I allowed the mature content, turns out it was just one of those my lot glitches where different words can have different meanings, and then I found a pretty cool response.. I know, pretty long for a first impression.. ha ha.
12 Jun 07
I got a mature content warning? Damn! Thankyou for the kind words, it means a lot Sabs!
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@vega83 (6346)
• Bahrain
13 Jun 07
you're always welcome.... I still don't know to this day why your response was marked mature...
12 Jun 07
i think most people get along with me when they first meet me because im very friendly i dont judge a book by its cover and get to know them and i love to make a good impression i make people laugh as soon as i meet them and they either think im nuts or they love my sense of homour
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@vega83 (6346)
• Bahrain
12 Jun 07
ha ha, well I guess we'd all like to make a good impression, but for some of us, that's just difficult, and by "us" I mean me..
15 Jun 07
you should just go nuts like i always do lol they might think your weird at first but i tend to make alot of friends like that and they realise that if they get closer and closer to me i will always look after them in there time of need.
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@vega83 (6346)
• Bahrain
15 Jun 07
Go nuts, eh? I'll try that, it won't be that hard cuz I'm already half way to being nuts anyway...
@seinfeld (184)
• India
11 Jun 07
nice topic....i cud instantly relate to wat you said...well a lot of people have said to me that they didn't like me at first place and thought i was weird...lol...but later they started loving my weirdness...i guess it takes time to like someone and understand since each one of us is a unique character....and i also dont believe in first impression is last impression thing....its rare that u like a person as soon as u meet him/her....
@vega83 (6346)
• Bahrain
12 Jun 07
Yeah, you're right, we're all unique... and it does take some time to understand each other..
@seinfeld (184)
• India
12 Jun 07
hey thanks for selecting my response as best response....its my 2nd best response...it feels good...thanks...take care..bye
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@vega83 (6346)
• Bahrain
13 Jun 07
Cool, well it was a pretty good response, so keep it up and you'll have pages and pages of best responses..
@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
11 Jun 07
I guess some people may consider me a b@tch upon first meeting. I am quiet and a people watcher. I rarely speak until spoken to. I like to see the people and watch them. I can tell alot about a person by watching them for a while. I hate to say it, but I really don't care what people think about me upon first meeting unless it's a job interview.
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@vega83 (6346)
• Bahrain
11 Jun 07
yeah, I know what you mean. I'm sort of like that too, although instead of being quiet, I'm more outspoken and some people see that as being aggressive sometimes. That works for interviews actually although I still hate interviews.
• Malaysia
11 Jun 07
I can totally relate to that. I also love watching people and more than often the first time I meet other people, they'd automatically think I'm a snob because I just look at them.. =P
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@vega83 (6346)
• Bahrain
12 Jun 07
Yeah, people always make assumptions. What's with that??
• Singapore
11 Jun 07
I really don't know, vega. What I think is that there are those who like me at first sight and those who hate me at first sight. Yes, I do sometimes evoke such strong reactions. It is just my character and I don't want to change. Don't get me wrong though - I am nice to all of them but they do not necessarily reciprocate.
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@vega83 (6346)
• Bahrain
11 Jun 07
Yeah, well, that's no reason for you to change anyway, I'd hate if you did change. I mean I hate people who just wanna be people pleasers and are never really themselves, being real is what it's all about... And you are definitely as real as they come... Kudos, man!
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• Singapore
11 Jun 07
*wink*
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@vega83 (6346)
• Bahrain
12 Jun 07
*wink* back... ;]
• Saudi Arabia
17 Jul 07
Well Generally no, I guess if someone will like me, he may spend some time with me before he figures in me that he may like. It isn't about looks or whatever coz so often you'd encounter a person who doesn't look good but for some reason, he impresses ppl at 1st sight.
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• Saudi Arabia
17 Jul 07
correction: before he figures in me something that he may like
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@vega83 (6346)
• Bahrain
19 Jul 07
I guess that's true for everyone, you gotta spend time with them to know if you would like them or not.
@smints8985 (1595)
• United States
20 Jul 07
Well of course as much as possible I would like to believe that I give a good impression at first meeting. But honestly, I think I do give people a good impression, I do not have a really loud personality that often gets into other people's nerves and starts arguements and the like. Most of the time people would tend to think that I am snobbish before I tend to be shy and not talk a lot with people that I am not so familiar with or know that well. But they prove themselves wrong when they get to know me better because I am the total opposite of what they think of me. I am very talkative and enjoys a good sense of humor, I bet they often do not get that first impression.
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@vega83 (6346)
• Bahrain
21 Jul 07
Well it's really hard to make a good first impression which is exactly the reason why I don't believe in first impressions and don't judge anyone, the first time I meet them. of course I can't control the fact that other people might not do the same.
• Malaysia
20 Jul 07
Not everybody likes everybody. The same thing goes with me. it is impossible to make everybody to like me. However in general most people would talk to me if I make the first greeting. I don't know why, they never told me the reason. But after knowing me, they will say that I am a very nice person.
@vega83 (6346)
• Bahrain
21 Jul 07
Well, I guess some people just need time to warm up to others.
@wmzuls (55)
• Malaysia
20 Jul 07
yes, i think so..
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@vega83 (6346)
• Bahrain
21 Jul 07
Good for you..but how can you be sure about that?
@chaime (1153)
• Philippines
19 Jul 07
Some do, some dont' I have this weird face that if you don't get to talk to me, I look snobbish. So most people's first impression of me is that I'm aloof and hard to get along with, but when I get introduced to them or they see me talking with someone else they tend to warm up to me, but most of the time, I would get comments from new friends like, I thought your were 'mataray' (aloof, a snob) but it gets easily changed when I get to talk to the person and they realize that they are so wrong in their impression. I'm a jolly, friendly person, easy to get along with and always have a smile for someone.
@vega83 (6346)
• Bahrain
20 Jul 07
I think we're kind of alike then, because I believe I have this snobbish appearance too, that makes me sort of unapproachable as well, but when people get to know me better they always tell me that they had such a wrong impression of me, when they first met me.
@happymom1 (1179)
• United States
19 Jul 07
Thats a good question vega83. When i met somebody after i am gone my husband said they think they like me for some reason. I cant blame them because thats what they think. When i met them i just smile and talk a little bit. Other people tend to judge you when they first met you and i think is not a good idea for me. Because i know a lot of people that are nice that the first impression is not good.
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@vega83 (6346)
• Bahrain
20 Jul 07
Yeah, my first impression is not always good, but I like to think that I'm a nice person, and very easy to get along with, I guess I'm just the type that's not too likable at first, but that's alright with me.
@trk918 (255)
• United States
19 Jul 07
I'm the kind of person you either like or don't like. I'm shy & quiet until I feel comfortable. I like to watch others because you can tell what they are like. I can also be in a room full of people & no one will notice me, which is typically fine with me.
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@vega83 (6346)
• Bahrain
20 Jul 07
hm.. well I would like to be noticed myself, that's for sure, although I wouldn't try too hard for that. That would just be pointless.
@golfproo (1841)
• Canada
17 Jul 07
Hi, I think first impressions do last a while and they take a lot of time and effort to break if a they are originally poor. That being said, I myself tend to make a poor first impression. I think this is the case because I am naturally shy. That in turn makes people think I am being distant and "stuck up". I guess in the end I tend to grow on people. cheers,
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@vega83 (6346)
• Bahrain
17 Jul 07
I guess that's better than seeming really nice but not actually so, don't you think?
• Canada
17 Jul 07
Whether they like me or nit is up to them. I just act like myself. I don't go out of my way to make people like me or not like me. How they feel is up to them. What they see is what they get, and what I see of others is what I get.
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@vega83 (6346)
• Bahrain
17 Jul 07
Yeah, that's the attitude! I don't go out of my way either, or be someone else, there's no point in that.
@4cuteboys (4103)
• United States
17 Jun 07
I am the kind that is usually liked upon first meeting. I have good manners, I try to be nice and thoughtful and some will go as far as to say I am funny. Now sometimes after awhile, they might not like me, because I am a tell it like it is kind of person and some people can't stand that. But initially on first meeting I am usually liked. I dont think one is necessarily better than another, they are just two different types of people!
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@vega83 (6346)
• Bahrain
17 Jun 07
yeah, true, and people usually don't like hearing the truth, so if you're the kind that tells it like it is, chances are you won't be that popular. It's the same with me too..