in your opinion "DATING LEADS TO WHERE?"

@roniroxas (10560)
Philippines
June 11, 2007 8:12am CST
in dating do you believe that both lady and gents put their best foot forward? so you cant really see the real identity. unless you became boyfriends and girlfriends you will never know the real person.... and when you settle down or get married you find out that there are something more to learn with your partner. lucky to those who date that leads to having a happy ending but not all of us have the endings as beautiful as what happened to others. so for you dating leads to?
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@squaretile (3778)
• Singapore
12 Jun 07
There was a book written by Joshua Harris called " I kissed dating goodbye". In it, he conveys his view that courtship should replace dating. This means that couples should be serious about each other when they go out, instead of dating randomly and getting hurt in the process. I don't fully agree, but I guess there is some wisdom in that method in today's society. I guess there is still some place for dating, to get to know each other. Of course they have to be honest with each other. I guess those who are real to each other get more out of dating. For those who are just dating for fun, then of course they will always put on a front because they don't intend to take things any further, commitment wise. For me, dating leads to knowing each other better and understanding each other, learning how to communicate before getting married.
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
12 Jun 07
yes that is what is scary, my friend dates a guy that she likes and thought that the guy likes her as well. but it turned out to be that the guy was just having fun.... its hard to see who are serious and who are just curious. thanks for the response
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11 Jun 07
Dating isn't necessarily about leading to somewhere. Thats the mystery of it. People who date for the first time haven't got a clue where it will go. Its important to not think to far ahead.
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@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
12 Jun 07
yes it is always exciting when it is the first time, no clue on what will happen and feeling uneasy. but if it turns outto be a great evening and talking like you know your date for a long time is good signs that you might have a second one. thanks for the response
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@lani0529 (1722)
• Philippines
11 Jun 07
Hello roni!(",) It really depends on the situation. Dating is one way of knowing the person and to see if you are indeed compatible. I know it would be difficult to know the person in just a day or two. It does take awhile and you have to be in different situation so that you will know how your boyfriend/girlfriend will react in certain situations. It is best that you will have the opportunity of going to their house so that you will know how he/she deals with the family members. Usually it is at home that you will see the true character of the person.(",) Dating is a good way of getting-to-know the person and looking at the possibility of settling with that particular person. I think, you have to take one step at a time and should not rush things over. Enjoy every moment that you are together.(",) Hope that your love story will end happily ever after.(",)
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
12 Jun 07
hi lani, it is nice to hear a 22 years old lady looking forward to a nice relationship based on dating and where it leads to. i hope your relationship ends up to be a happily ever one. i am 36 years old and my love story was ended 6-7 years ago. i am still hoping to find a good relationship but having kids and because of being older than you going to the house where a (prospect) partner only goes for younger ones like you. yes dating is getting to know a person but in a much matured age braket sometimes dating is a horrible one. specially in my situation. i really ppreciate your response. i feel like i am young again. wink wink
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@lani0529 (1722)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
Hi ron, I always think positive that is why I have a positive outlook about dating and courting. I have also read that book from Joshua Harris, "I kissed Dating Goodbye" and "Boy Meets Girl". These books have inspired me alot and I know that courtship is something wonderful to look forward to. Don't worry Ron, for sure you will meet the right girl at the right time. Just make sure you have the right motive when you enter a relationship. Have a nice day Ron and God bless you always!(",)
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
ouch lani im a woman... well my name sounds like im a guy, but its ok. good for you having a good outlook. God bless
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• India
15 Jun 07
its true tht dating does lead to some misconception since bth try to be and act best. hwevr witout dating n gtting comfortable wit the person u cnt jus jump into a relationship. i guess dating is a tricky business.
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
i agree on what you said dating is tricky you win some you lose some and sometimes you gain a partner or sometimes you get hurt. it is really case to case basis. thanks for your response a BR for you