I am almost going mad because of my friends' wedding

@once79 (89)
China
June 11, 2007 7:23pm CST
In the city where I live,there is a popular custom that when somebody gets to be married, his/her friends should give him/her some money as a well-wishing.The more close their friendship is,the more large the amount is.During these month,many of my friends get to be married,and I have given them a lot of money as a well-wishing so that I nearly have no money to feed myself now.I hate the custom.And is there the same custom in your countries or cities?Do you like it?
2 responses
@huilee (1010)
• Singapore
12 Jun 07
hey, where do u stay? =) i guess in singapore, we do give money as ang baos for blessings to the couple, but its not compulsory and besides, they didnt state close must give more money... just that because we are close, thus we tend to give more too... ur more means how much? im curious what the biggest amount of ang bao u gave? ang bao = red packet...
@once79 (89)
• China
12 Jun 07
Nice to meet you.I come from China.We have the similar custom in this.We also give money in a red packet.But it is necessary to do if somebody has invited you to attend his/her wedding.If you do not do that ,the relationship between you will be broken up.Usually,this case happends between not only good friends but also bowing acquaintance.In the city where I live we tend to give one hundred RMB(Chinese money which is equal to about 12.5 dollar) to a bowing acquaintance for a well-wishing ,two hundred RMB which is equal to about 25 dollar to a friend.Sometimes it will be more than the amount if the people who will get to be married is your very good friends or relatives.
@once79 (89)
• China
12 Jun 07
1 dollar = 8 RMB or so
• China
12 Jun 07
I think sending money is our chinese special custom.aha. foreign customs also allow them to send gift to the couple for expressing their blessing but money.So how to deal with it ,so hard or at least u can`t change it in the coming years.Maybe the best solution is to get married before them.Or struggle much more than before to earn enough money to give ur friends and live on urself at the same time.
@once79 (89)
• China
12 Jun 07
You are right that we can not change the custom now.In fact ,I am willing to give some money to my friends as a blessing,but I am not willing to give money to those bowing acquaintance.For my lazyness,while I got to be married,I did not hold a wedding party.