I can't believe that my 4 year old daughter saw this from the window!

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We live in a really nice neighborhood. I have never had any problems living here. I been here for almost two years. I get along with all the neighbors. My mom, step dad, and even my sister live in the same neighborhood. A while back we had a new family move in. And just a few days after their move in, the couple that just moved in had a little fight and the husband got in his truck and drove off burning rubber. No big deal. But something told me they might be trouble because the husband did yell a few cruel words to his wife. It wasn't pretty. But I'm laid back and I usually mind my own business unless it involves me. Anyway, just the other day me and my 4 year old daughter were up in the kitchen. My daughter was sitting at the table by the kitchen window eating a few snacks and she was looking out the window, like she always does. I was a few feet from her doing dishes. All a sudden I hear my daughter scream from low to high "HE IS HITTING HER, HE IS, HE IS HITTING HER!" When I looked out the window, I didn't see anything, so I just told my daughter to finish up and then I went on with finishing up the dishes. I didn't think it was a big deal because I didn't see anything when I looked out. Anyway, not long at all, maybe about 7-9 minutes my daughter told me that the cops were outside. So I looked and sure enough they were. My daughter said "Mommy, they are going to take him to jail because he was choking and hitting her!" At this time, I go in the back room and get my husband, to tell him what was going on. When we got back in the kitchen, my daughter was still sitting in her chair eating. I decided to move her down to the living room, because our kitchen window is really huge and I just didn't want her staring at the situation. The cops were outside for some time dealing with the situation. I ended up chilling on the couch with my daughter while she finished her snack. When she was done she ran upstairs into the kitchen to put her cup and stuff up. She peeked out the window and then she told me that the cops were leaving and that they were leaving without the bad man. I just told her to get back down stairs and to leave it alone for now. Later that night, my other neighbor came to my house to talk with my husband about the whole situation and it turns out that they were the ones who called the cops. And supposedly the man beat the holy crap out of his wife in their front lawn. I guess he was also choking her. So of course they called the cops. But it turns out that once the cops got there it was over and the wife didn't press charges or anything. For some odd reason, the cops didn't arrest the husband. I find that really odd, but they didn't. Anyway, my neighbor was upset about it and was telling me that he didn't approve of the newest neighbors and that he was going to complain more about the situation because he was worried that it might happen again and the neighborhood is a kid friendly neighborhood. And he was upset that his kids could have been outside playing during all this. He does have a point. We live right across from these people. I take my daughter outside a lot. We can see their house clear as blue. But the sad thing is my daughter was inside her own home eating a snack when she saw all this. And to think my 4 year old saw some man choking another person! Pisses me off! My kids have never seen or will never see their daddy hit on me. It makes me angry that she had to see something like this. The worse thing about this and the reason why I am writing this discussion is because my daughter still remembers all this (it wasn't that long ago, I know). My daughter was talking about it today and she said to me "Mommy, when you hurt someone you are suppose to go to jail, but the man outside didn't go to jail and he might hurt us and I don't want to go outside anymore and I don't want daddy going to work because that man is over there." What do I do about this? She is only 4, about to be 5. She knows that it's wrong to hit and that cops are suppose to help when things go wrong and that they take bad people away. She sees that this neighbor of ours wasn't taken to jail and I'm worried she might think it's okay and that we can get away with things like this. I could be over reacting, but I still have a right to be pissed. Wouldn't you be upset if your kid saw something like this? And we always eat breakfast, lunch and dinner at our table and she loves looking out the window. It’s like I have to just close everything off now. What would you do? I told my daughter not to worry and that the cops had a long talk with the man and he wasn't going to hurt anyone else. I'm just worried the man might do it again. I hear him more then enough yelling and cussing his wife out all the time. Right in the front yard. I'm sure they wont last long. The landlord has already got word of things. So I guess we will have to wait this one out.