LOVE marriage

India
June 12, 2007 6:00am CST
Hi friends, I am from INDIA. I married 10 days before. It's a love marriage. I have one younger sister and one elder brother.He loves me very much and he is woking in a Callcentre. And I am also an employee. Does my marriage effect on them? Does it effect more on my parents? I thought about this when I m going to marry also. But I thought that in these times love marriages are common. But now my parents are not making me a phone call. when I am trying to do they r not lifting the phone. They are not accepting my love. What do u say?
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10 responses
@subathra (3519)
• India
13 Jun 07
hi gayathri, Its really nice to see that you have suceeded in your love.One of my friend faced a similar situation like you.Her parents were totally against her love but she fighted hard to hold the hands of her boyfriend.After a great struggle her parents agreed for the marriage with consent from both the family.But things were different after marriage because they totally neglected her and informed her that they dont want her to be in touch with her anymore as they need to concentrate on the welfare of their other daughter. She is blessed with a baby now but her parents are not accepting her.But please dont worry as the situation may change for you.Just try to meet your parents with your hubby and dont ever think not to contact them as they show anger towards you as time can change everything.I wish your parents understand you very soon.happy married life friend. I dont think your marriage will affect the future of your siblings.Love marriage is most common nowadays.
@subathra (3519)
• India
13 Jun 07
Its the situation of my friend but its not that the same will be happening in your case too.Parents will defintly have their love but the ego is what stops them to keep in touch as she married against thier wishes.I pray that this situation may not happen to you..take care
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• India
13 Jun 07
Thank you
• India
13 Jun 07
I think after my sister's marriage, they will agree with me. I have to wait till that moment. But u hav terrified me saying this type of situation... Thats what I think too, Love marriage is common now a days.. And thanks for ur compliments.
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@ruby08 (30)
• India
12 Jun 07
hi,i am also from india.i think your husbands name is 'praveen' nice name.are u happy with your husband?if u are happy with your husband don't bother about your parents,i m sure that they will forgive you.anyways congragulations
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
12 Jun 07
yup. that's the most important fact there is. if you are happy with your husband, then be happy with him. people might not accept your decision for now. but soon, they will understand you and even support you. it just takes time though... anne
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• India
13 Jun 07
Ya his name is Praveen. I am so happy with him. And thanks for ur wishes.
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
12 Jun 07
Hi gayatripraveen! Welcome to mylot! Congratulations on your marriage! I wish you many years of happiness, love and prosperity. Marriages that don't suit the parents often times leave them upset and hurt that you didn't follow their customs or traditions, also their advice. You married for love, you are a very lucky man that you love your wife and s he loves you. Give your parents time, keep calling them and eventually they will pickup. They are still hurt and upset that you chose a different path in life than they wanted. Let them take the time to mull it over. If they cant accept it, it is their loss and you should concentrate on your new family and the happiness it brings to you.
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• India
12 Jun 07
Sorry u have mistaken me. I am Gayathri, W/o Praveen. And thanQ vey much for wishing me.
• China
12 Jun 07
I agree with you totally. Parents are parents and they will come around because they love you.
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@nikki_d (18)
• India
13 Jun 07
Hi gayathripraveen congraulation. I understood your problem, time will solve your problem.
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• India
13 Jun 07
Thank you.
@butterfly39 (3904)
• Philippines
13 Jun 07
Maybe a little upset, are you sure they're happy when you get married? Coz, what are their reasons of not talking to you. Just give more patience and don't forget them. They're still your family in the first place.
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• India
13 Jun 07
I think that they were not happy with this issue. Their reasons for not talking with me were, if they talk to me then their good relationships with others will get spoiled and our relatives wouldn't accept them. Thats their fear. i think so. Does anybody forget their parents? If there is anybody like that, then I didnt fall into that category.
@tsnadeer (88)
• India
15 Jun 07
Hi, wish you happy marriage life and gohead for your marriage decision and afterwards you should go your parents even they are trying to ignore once they will come to accept you afterwards
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• India
15 Jun 07
Thanks for your compliments....
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
12 Jun 07
hello! i am happy for you. atleast you married the person you love the most and not someone your parents wanted for you. i know that they felt bad about your decision. but things do happen and we sometimes need to decide on our own. we have to think of what's best for us and what can make us happy. your parents will understand you in due time. but as for now, keep trying to reach them. one day, they will finally understand you, too... anne
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• India
13 Jun 07
Thank you.
• India
12 Jun 07
There is nothing wrong in love marriages and your marriage is not going to effect your sisters future.Now love marrriage is very common and no none is giving much importance and attention to such marriages.If you and your partner can live,with out any problem,i think there is nothing to worry about.All your problems with your parents will resolve very quickly and they will understand your problems and accept you.My all best wishes is with you for your happy marriage life and may God bless you,for your rejoin with the family members.
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• India
13 Jun 07
I too thought the same. And thanks for ur wishes.....
• India
12 Jun 07
Hi gayathri! Congratulations on your Marriage. We live in such a society where love marriages are not accepted that easily. No parent can digest the fact that their daughter preferred a man she knows for a shorter time to their happiness. Maybe, after sometime they will cool down and accept the relationship. If your marriage turns to be a failure do not expect them to support you as you and you only are responsible for that. Goodluck!
• India
12 Jun 07
I dont know when will they cool down.... but I pray to GOD that they agree with me as soon as possible. And my husband is so nice. I guarantee u that my marriage won't be a failure. Dont think that every lover will say like this only.
• China
13 Jun 07
Marriage seems to be long to me ,it's seems be cool . Have loving girl ,but only that .