you discipline your children and they call 911???

@ibuemma (2954)
United States
June 12, 2007 9:06am CST
this happened about 2 weeks ago. My sister in law has two kids. That day her two kids got into fight and she said to her 9 yrs old that she gonna spank his butt if not stop fighting with his sister. He said to his mom " spank me and i'll call 911. the school said if you get hit by your parents you should call 911" We are like "what the heck???" my sister in law said "okay, call 911 but let me spank your butt first and wash your mouth with the soap for talking back to me." Oh my God. so my sister in law spank her butt and his son did call 911. police come by and we all explained what happened...police leaved no big deal. What do you think my lotters?
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@maehan (1445)
• United States
12 Jun 07
I was brought up in an environment that spanking is ok. I still do remember that if we have misconduct in school when I am still in elementary school. Discipline master will make us pay for the price that we have done. If you fight in school, canning is unavoidable. My parent do spank me if I behave badly. True, when we had move to US, my sons did told me that teacher say that in US, children will not get spanking or punishment over here. They jump with joy thinking that they can do whatever they want and get away with it. I smile and tell them why don't they try and see what I will do. Once they fight over here in US thinking that I will not get involved. Too bad, I am the mom. I picked up two long stick from the balcony and pass over to them and tell them since they do not like one another; go ahead and fight and I will be the one to call 911 and report there is a fight occur here. They both stopped and tell me they just playing. At times, discipline is a must but not abuse. So, spanking with discipline to me is fine.
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@ibuemma (2954)
• United States
12 Jun 07
remind me also i have 2 daughters, they fight constantly. One time i did let them fight until they stopped by their crying. Of course i "supervised" that fight make sure is not over done.
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@maehan (1445)
• United States
12 Jun 07
We are just like "referee" make sure they do not go abroad. ha ha ha
@gardengrrl (1445)
• United States
12 Jun 07
I think this is a perfect example of what's wrong with American society today. Either people can't be bothered to be parents, OR, the ones who care aren't allowed to be parents. The Baby Boomers don't want their kids or grandkids to go through any of the harshness they did. Child abuse was prevalent but unreportable for most of us who suffered from it. Combine that with this retarded "political corectness" culture we've got, and you have a world where kids think they're entitled to narc out their parents for disciplining them. I don't advocate beating your kids, but sometimes there's just no substitute for a tap on the hand or a smack on the butt! Whenever I hear of a story like this one, I have an immediate mental image of my mother's probable response to me threatening to call the cops: "You better pray they get here fast, 'cause I'm gonna kill your smart little a-ss!" She would then begin to try to do just that. Today's kids have no idea how good life is for them in this respect, none at all! Is your sister-in-law speaking to the little creep yet? I think, after the cops left, I would ignore him for about two weeks. Do the bare minimum to take care of him, nothing else. I'd be so hurt in my heart, I'd HAVE to ignore him!
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@ibuemma (2954)
• United States
12 Jun 07
I understand what you mean. I remember also how my parent gave me smack on the butt. And boy...i feel like kids these day relly have "SMART" mouth...which i definetely get soap in my mouth if talk back to my parent.
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@ibuemma (2954)
• United States
12 Jun 07
BTW...he got anothe punishment too, no playstation 2 ( which he really love ) for a month!
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@tredale (1313)
• Australia
12 Jun 07
I think this is a story to be kept for there 21st birthdays it actually made me laugh. Im sure at the time you guys were gob smacked. My brother many years ago did the same to my parents. The police came over and told them if he did it again they would take him to the station and smack him themselves. So I have always been able to tell my children this and its not happen here. I do feel its a sad day when parents have no rights and kids are ruling the roste though. I wouldnt have been happy myself. goodluck
@ibuemma (2954)
• United States
12 Jun 07
thank's...i hope it won't happen with me and my two daughters...kind of lesson for me also that day. kids these days more trickiest that i was when i was little kid!
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• Canada
12 Jun 07
This is a big problem with society today , we are unable to say or do anything to make our children listen without fear that we might lose them . The schools are telling our children they don't have to put up with this and that they can call 911 if they don't like how they are being treated . Parents who are actually trying to raise there children properly are considered as abusing there children while the people who are doing this are sitting back and doing what they like because they have there children so intimindated that they would never think of calling 911 anyway . I don't agree with pounding on a child but a little spanking never hurt and although I don't agree with spanking my own children , I would never look down on someone who did .
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@ibuemma (2954)
• United States
12 Jun 07
completely understandable. I think these day...a lot of parents actually "scare" of their children...and I think it's ridiculous. In my opinion, as parent we should be able get a grip of our kids. I don't want to be a "hororable" parents to my kids too, but at least make them put the respect to parent as it suppose to be
• United States
12 Jun 07
I think society just hast gone overboard in correcting the problems some of us had growing up. I WAS abused and had no place to turn for help.Our parents were the boss and that was final. Today's kids are being given a place to turn to, but they aren't being taught what real abuse is. The whole 911 thing got turned around in my house. After my stroke,I was left disabled and my husband left. I had a very rebellious 13 y/o to deal with by myself. I knew half of the cops in town here( it's a small town) so when she climbed out her window, I called 911, they got her and patted her down up against the police car in the middle of the street, then perp walked her right in front of her friends up our driveway and into the house. Another time she was out front with her friends and I told her to come in to do the dishes. She refused. I told her to get in here or I'd bust her butt. She layed down on the sidewalk kicking and screaming to beat all. I couldn't walk out there and drag her butt in the house, so I again called the police. They DID drag her butt in and as she and her friends told him I threatened to bust her butt, he looked at her and said" I would have done the same thing and will if I have to come back here for something like this. HOORAH, 1- for Mom.
@ibuemma (2954)
• United States
13 Jun 07
Wow it gotta be tough for you. little kids is something but teenagers is another thing. my kids still small. but i know they gonna be teenagers someday...i just can cross my fingers that it will enough time to "plant" the discipline and respect in their head.
@alpine_007 (1476)
• Pakistan
12 Jun 07
i think that she shouldn't have done this to her son, so he didn't even had called the 911, i also think that police should have warned her that not to do it again
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@ibuemma (2954)
• United States
12 Jun 07
well, i still think the boy need to be spanked. it's not like you beaten your kid until they are bleed or have broken bones. just the discipline spank. but it's just amaze me. the boy probably misunderstood when the school said children can call 911 when they got abuse or probably school not specific enough on what kind of "hitting" that they should call 911.
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• Australia
13 Jun 07
Smaking,spanking your child is wrong!No matter what they do You shouldnt result to violence!For those who say its not violence,it actually is ;ur hitting your child causing the child pain and your also threatning your child with it. "dont do it again or ill smack you".There are other ways and you DO NOT have to use violence.I have not smacked a child once,And if you do it often enough sure they will stop what they are doing but do u know why? Its because they are scared of you.Youre their parent the one that's meant to love them not hit,smack them no matter what way u put it!
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@seinfeld (184)
• India
13 Jun 07
hey so finally someone sensible on this issue....i think u r absolutely right and we shouldn't be spanking although disciplining is ok....really nice to see someone speak sternly abt it...
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@Celanith (2334)
• United States
12 Jun 07
In most states it is not against the law to spank a child on the butt as long as you do not leave lasting marks, cuts or bruises. In other words as long as it does not turn into a beating. Teachers misconstrue the law. They tell half truths. Kids try and pull this on parents and grandparents. I had this happen to me three times. The first time I called the juvenile authority and they had me bring the neice in my care in and explained the law to her. That she had to respect and obey us. The second time the kid threatened (different kid years later) I said go ahead and call the cops, it is not against the law to spank you. In fact I will call for you and you can go live in foster care and not see your siblings or family for a long time. I will tell them your out of control and won't mind so you need to live somewhere else. That put a stop to their threats. The third time yet another child, kicked me in the thigh, I called the cops after I pushed her to the ground and sat on her to get her under control, she went to call 911, I beat her to it and called and they came and arrested her for assult and some other things and put her in juvenile lock up for 24 hours. No problems after that and they told her I could spank her as long as I didn't beat her.
@Abbyey (760)
• Philippines
12 Jun 07
My college friend who went to the US also told me her experience with this kind of rules. Her step brother was very disobedient and prectically rude to her mother. The mother spanked him, He the n cried and shouted that he would call 911. His dad said, "Sure call 911, have your mom go to jail. In that case you will have NO allowance, No phone, No food, You will clean the house, clean the garage, wash your clothes, iron your clothes and do everything all by yourself." The boy didnt call 911 fearing the task he need to do afterwards. However i asked her if its real, and she said it was. There are some police who would really drop by to check on the situation. Which i think is partially nice because if its a REAL battering parent caught beating his child. But for discipline sometimes kids use it to scare their parents which isnt nice.
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• United States
12 Jun 07
His mother def. didn't do anything wrong. He needed a spanking for fightin with his sister and talking back. Usually I think it is a bit comical when small children call the police when they are put in time out or something. But this ons is different for me because he threatened her beforehand. He's a little stinker!
@ibuemma (2954)
• United States
12 Jun 07
tell me about it! Usually it works the other way around you know...parent kind give little "threathening" message to the children like okay "you won't get ice cream if you keep it up with fighting" something like that which now adays really not efective anymore. He does little stinker...
• United States
12 Jun 07
Yeah, exactly! I have two nieces (ages 4 and 6) and when they talk back to me while I babysit they go in time out for a long time! lol. I've taught both of them to call 911 successfully, and I'm very happy about it, because I've also taught them successfully to ONLY call 911 in an emergency (if a 'bad stranger' breaks in, or if mommy gets hurt, or if either of them get hurt). And they understadn that very clearly. It really helped to tell them police would be upset if they called when they didn't really need to. Because I worry my nieces would call them just to chat, lol, they LOVE police men because they are the good guys. :)
@ibuemma (2954)
• United States
12 Jun 07
Imagine, cops get busy running their butt everytime a little kid call 911 for spanking on their butt
@seinfeld (184)
• India
12 Jun 07
i think the matter is blown outta proportion....i mean if u look closely kids act and behave the way ppl do around them and are greatly influenced by wat we teach them...as u said they were told in the school to do so....so its the responsibility of parents to talk to kids and make them understand....i dont think beating or spankin helps anyways...a calm talk does....so maybe next time when kids commit some mistake or fight try and talk to them rather then being rebellious...it puts a negative effect on their minds about you....explain them wat they shud be doing and wat not....i am sure they wud understand and remember kids are always kids....bye..take care...
@seinfeld (184)
• India
12 Jun 07
well thats ok...i am not looking for best responses...al i am looking for is expressing my views and opinions and helping others....and yes you are right i was a kid and i was no angel but i was grown up by my parents like i was one so i know how good it is especially when u have a good relationship with ur parents when u grow old....its not a war between kids and parents....i know kids are not innocent all the times but deep down inside they are just little hearts who need to be loved and cared...although disciplining is important too...well thats just my view and u have every right to disagree with that...neways...take car...bye
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@Marie2473 (8523)
• Sweden
13 Jun 07
Here in sweden spanking is illegal an dis not allowed no matter what the reason is. Here people can loose their kids for doing this. I personally think that spanking is wrong, but it might be because it has been illegal and considered childabuse here ever since I was born. I think that there are indeed other ways to punish your kids.
@ibuemma (2954)
• United States
13 Jun 07
hi there! If you have another way that really effective to discipline your kid aside of spanking as last resource, would you mind share it with me. It will be useful for me. :)
@butterfly39 (3908)
• Philippines
13 Jun 07
Let your kid call 911 anyway, don't be afraid it's your right to discipline them. 911 will understand. make sure after spanking him you can explain to him why you did that.
@ibuemma (2954)
• United States
13 Jun 07
right on...and me and my husband usually always explain to my daughters everytime they got time out, why they got time out....so far we really rare ( twice so far ) smack their butt
@castleghost (1304)
• United States
12 Jun 07
I think that a parent has the right to spank their child on their butt as long as it doesn't leave a mark. There is nothing wrong with spanking a child. If the child decides that he feels the need to call the police to report being spanked then it is his choice. If the police decide that they need to remove the child from the home because the child claimed abuse then the child will have to live with the consequences of his actions. Maybe the child thinks he will be better off in a foster home. I think that it has become a problem with society trying to dictate how a parent punishes their own child. There is a diference between spanking a child and abusing a child. A child can be spanked without it being abused.
@ibuemma (2954)
• United States
12 Jun 07
I agree...roughly like "hey my children...i'm the boss of you! not the other way around"
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@azimsay (546)
• India
13 Jun 07
I have one grand child I want discipline to him but he is obay me some times. He jumped and went out of house,and telling me I am going for play.My thiking no use.
@lingli_78 (12859)
• Australia
13 Jun 07
well, there is nothing wrong at all in disciplining your child if the child gets too far and really need to be disciplined... as long as the parents don't go over the limit and abuse the child instead... i think disciplining a child is necessary to teach them right from wrong and it has to be done since the child is still very young... the older the child is, the more difficult it is for the parent to discipline the child as his/her characters had been formed and it is extremely hard to mend them...
@armisz5 (14)
• United States
13 Jun 07
well i can say only one thing,that the 9yrs old kid knows his laws,his mother spanked him he called 911-all is ok.i dont see what is unfairful in this story i would make same thing as that 9yrs old kid
@coferbox (298)
• United States
13 Jun 07
When my daughter was in school the teachers told her that nonsense about parents were not allowed to spank kids. She also told me that if I spanked her she would call the police. I said 'go ahead, they will come and take you to live in a foster home or group home with strangers, I will have to go to court to get you back and that could take months, meanwhile you will live with strangers and won't be able to see me, your family or friends for months, no trips to the mall or family vacations". She never threated to call the police on me again. I hardly even ever spanked her so I don't know what the big deal was, I guess just that the school was telling them they had some kind of control over their parents. But that boy needs to be punished for calling the police on his mother and also for fighting with his sister. He sounds like a brat to me.
@magica (3710)
• Bulgaria
13 Jun 07
Very very smart children, congratulations to them:-) I really hope that somebody will give to them the phone number of the Association for protection of the children. I have allways thought that this is a shame for all parents who spank their children, even a lot of people accept it like something normal.