We arent FAT..You are just STARVING!!!
By April
@cloud_kicker_32 (4635)
United States
June 12, 2007 5:34pm CST
HAHAHAH! ok..soo as everyone that knows me..I am disabled wiht my back and I dont get around much..everything i do is painful..and i have gained lots of extra cushion lol..Well I have seen so many threads,and if your over weight..sometime in your lifetime YOu will come in contact with a mean and rude Skinny..(thats what i call mean thin people lol)and then there is everywhere you go..Over weight people are just soo damn lazy and all we do is eat..YA WHATEVER!! I tell you..i know more healthy over weight people that thinner people..thats just a fact.I am one of those people..knock knock..lol..but I was talkin to a friend today../shes thin as well..and she kinda hurt my feelings..well she has for some time now..she says.,.,quote.."YOU WOULD BE SOOO PRETTY AND FIND SOMEONE IF YOU LOST SOME WEIGHT.." now i know she didnt mean to hurt my feelings..but that killed me..I feel pretty..and i love life..and if someone doesnt like or want to be with me because im over weight..well thats there problem ..but what sux is that this is what thinner people think all the time..and they may eat once a day..and well..I have come to the conclusion they are starving themselves and are biiter and mean..lol..and we maybe fat..but most people my size and over are happier..they live life..love to laugh..and i think they know this..so they picking begins..I could be wrong..but what are your thoughts? BTw..to those thinner than me..plzz dont take anything out of context ..this was ment for those mean Skinnies lol..that think all we do is eat,watch tv,and lay around all day long..so..based on everything said..How do you feel..I would like to hear all shapes and sizes..I really would like to know what people feel..And I wont go yelling or give neg marks if i disagree with you..like many others do..i just want to know opinions..Thank u everyone in advance..:)
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@joey_matthews (8354)
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12 Jun 07
Lol..
Skinnies? how nice... um...
Nah I'm joking I think you got a nice little rant here cloud kicker and I loved reading it.
Well never call large people, I keep my opinions or thoughts to themselves but I don't think bad about those who are, except those who are rude and call someone else fat. (when they're bigger)
Kudos,
~Joey
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@cloud_kicker_32 (4635)
• United States
13 Jun 07
Aww sweety!! noo noo!! I would never say that to anyone as nice as you..Skinnies..are what I refer to as Thinner people that are mean and arrogant,rude,and just plain nasty to people bigger than them..im not against all thinner people..my Gaww! lol lol..Plzz dont take this anyways against sweet people like yourselves....I just cant stand mean people..and I would like ya to know..im not at all the person that secretly makes fun or same mean things about thinner people..i love people..all people..just the nasties have gotta go!! lol..thanx for posting hun,..,
@joey_matthews (8354)
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13 Jun 07
Sure I agree.
My mother was fairly large (not greatly big) and I always remember her getting slack for it so I hate it too. I also agree that those who do call large people need a wake up call, normally that happens when they call the wrong person though.
Hehe..
kudos!
~Joey
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
13 Jun 07
I am obese but not happy about it, I can't walk in the winter because of the pain and I have all kinds of health problems because of my weight. If losing weight was easy I would be a lot skinnier.
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@buenavida (9985)
• Sweden
13 Jun 07
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@saphire539 (1639)
• United States
12 Jun 07
I totally agree with you I myself am overweight and not afraid to say it and it is not because I lay around all day long eating all the time and being lazy it is because it is hereditary in my family and the only way for me to lose the weight is to have surgery.Which unfortunately I can't get right now because I can't find a Dr that will take my medicaid to do the surgery and I can not afford to pay the 1000's of dollars that it costs to have it done.I am constantly being put down by mean skinnies who think they are better just because they are skinny,well I think of myself as Beautiful and my husband is skinny and loves me just as i am.I hardly eat anything at all I'am lucky if i get in one meal a day so it's NOT from overeating.Some people just have the luck of being Big and Beautiful.I am healthy other then my Asthma and Arthritis and my Anxiety problem caused by years of being abused and picked on by other people who think they are better then me.I would love to be thinner but not because someone else wants me to but because it would make me feel better about myself.You don't have to be thin to find a man there are men out there that would rather be with a Big Beautiful Woman then a skinny woman.Your Mr right will come along when the time is right took me 12 years to find my soul mate and we have been together for 4 years now.I have had many people tell me that I would be very Beautiful if i lost a lot of weight,But you know what I am Beautiful now.
@cloud_kicker_32 (4635)
• United States
13 Jun 07
Yes I have the samecondition..i have thought of surgery..they do it around here wit that insurance,,..but I have been wayyy thinner and i was just as much in pain and limited as i am now,,but the only reason i would lose weight on purpose is to get in some smaller clothing..that looks great than the crap they make for us now lol..other than that..im happy..and i get the anxiety thing some days..i take it not because i feel bad abotu myself..i take it so i dont hurt the next skinny putting me down because t hey hate my weight! Thank u so much for responding.!
@anjalisk2005 (1492)
• India
13 Jun 07
well i guess being fat or think is ones own choice...i am little plumpy but not fat.at the same time i am not thin.i like it that way with little curves and little flesh.and i maintain it.i hate being skinny...and at the same time i don't want the fat to hamper my mobility and activity life..
@copperkitten (3473)
• United States
13 Jun 07
Nice thread!!! I personaly am an average size person. My mom was big most of her life. She had fallen on rough times in her life and found food to be a comfort. 2 years ago she went and had surgery where they fix your stomach. Its been two years and she has lost almost 200 lbs!! When she was big she was a very happy person, wasnt lazy she was always doing something, working or watching the grandkids. She was very healthy. I know a few heavy people and I LOVE THEM!!! they are happy people and just dont care what people think. My Best Friend is Cloud_kicker and she is a great person and SOOOO full of life!! I wouldnt ever want her to change, and dont make fun because shes overweight, and she is BEAUTIFUL!!! No mater what any one says!! I love her and if she lost weight great but she dosent have to.
I honestly feel bigger people are happier!!!!!
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@cloud_kicker_32 (4635)
• United States
13 Jun 07
Aww sweety..YOU made me cry..that was the sweetest thing you have ever said to me:) Thank you soo much!! And I very much so appreciate what all u said..and I love you too with all my heart..and your mom does look beautiful..but i would have liked her no matter what her size:) Thanx for posting:)
@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
13 Jun 07
I am "fluffy" as well. That's what my hubby calls me. I eat once a day, no junk food, or anything else really bad. No one ever wants to believe that. They think I spend all day shoving my face with cookies and pies. Well you know what? I am who I am. My husband loves me, and he loves the way I look. I always talk about wanting to lose weight and how awful I feel. But it's usually after someone has made a comment or looked at me "that" way. You know what I mean. I look at people for who they are. How they treat others. I look at people's hearts and souls. And I'll tell you another thing, I would rather be "fluffy" and be like me, than be a self centered, egotistical, mean nasty SKINNY..lol When a Skinny says something rude to me, I always say.."I may be fat, but you're ugly. I can lose weight, but what are you gonna do with your face?"
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@Stiletto (4579)
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13 Jun 07
I've been fat and I've been thin (well thinnish!) and I have to say I basically agree with what Jimbo said. Even when I was fat I was generally regarded as having a pretty face so I used to get the same sort of comments you got and although at the time I made out it didn't bother me of course it really did. I do think the "fat and happy" thing is a bit of a myth - it definitely was for me and for others that I've known.
Don't get me wrong - I'm not advocating that everyone should be thin. I'm certainly not thin now - I imagine I'm probably about 7-14lbs heavier than I should be (although who makes up these stupid charts anyway?) but I never weigh myself because I threw my scales out a long time ago when I decided to stop obsessing about my weight and accept that I was meant to have boobs and a big butt! I also don't think being "overweight" necessarily stops someone being attractive - I've never had any problems no matter what weight I was. In fact when I was at my thinnest that was the time I probably got least attention from men - mainly I think because ironically I didn't actually FEEL that attractive.
Generally though I don't think it's healthy (physically or mentally) for someone to be too fat OR for that matter for someone to be too thin. I mean some of these size zero women look awful. A bit of chocolate would do them the world of good. Obviously if someone is naturally thin that's different because that's the body shape they're supposed to have - it's when people starve themselves to look that way they just end up looking freakish I think.
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@LightninStrike (5915)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
12 Jun 07
i know what you're saying, and i agree, but well each case is different. there are bitter people who are fat and who are thin...your weight doesn't change a thing when it comes to that. I think it's more down to your common sense and self esteem rather than to the appearance. I won't deny that nowaday's appearance standards are far from being over weight, but that doesn't mean that over weighted people should necessarily lose weight...if they should it'd just be due to health reasons if a doctor said so.
I'm glad that you're happy with how you are, not everyone can say that, thin or fat.
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@LilyoftheThorns (12918)
• United States
13 Jun 07
It really makes me mad when people critize overweight people. I actually get into arguements with friends over this issue. I think it is terrible what your friend said, even if she didn't mean for it to be. She should have known better. I looked at your picture and you are soo pretty! Some people are just blind and stupid.
I def. know what you mean when you say people are starving themselves. I see victims of anoxeria and I think...that is so sad, they were so beauitful when they weighed more, now I'm sorry to say they look awful. And I hate seeing things like that and then seeing other people telling people they are overweight!
Sometimes people just...make me mad.
@Nykkee (2522)
• Canada
6 Jul 07
Actually I will comment about the weight. I have a friend the same size as you, maybe bigger, she is getting married tomorrow, and she will look beautiful. The bigger you are the bigger your boobs are and she will be all boos and sparkles tomorrow and the last thing anyone will think about is her weight. There are benefits to weight. Work the boobs and be proud, hahaha, us skinny chicks only wish we had something like that to work with.
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@Nykkee (2522)
• Canada
6 Jul 07
Not ont he topic of your weight here, but about your back: Have you ever tried one of those massage chairs like you see at the mall (at the mall you put a dollar in and get a 3 minute massage). I tried one before and it didn't worj wel for me because I am too short and so the shoulder massagers were nest to my head, but what did reach me worked well and all I could think was what a great thing this would be for someone that is tall enough that has back problems. Because then you can get a message, but you can still watch tv or do whatever, you don't have to lay on your face.
@tredale (1309)
• Australia
13 Jun 07
Hi cloud kicker, I am average to thin and most of my family are over weight. I think that its how you are brought up. My dads family are all large peoples and all have huge hearts. Though they do sit around all day, mostly eating bad things. I have a friend who is large and teaches and is very involved in life and also has a huge heart. Though I am average and thin with a huge heart. So who knows I am sorry you have had tough times and hope your back get better and mostly the pain goes away. Keep smiling I think thats the best any of us can do. I also know some thin mean people who dont have boyfriends there is someone for everyone dont lose hope.
@mamakatsarj (143)
• Philippines
16 Jun 07
hey its not about your weight! its your personality! if you feel sexy and you know your sexy... then baby you are sexy! disregard people looking at you differently... they have nothing to do.
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@REMNANTscrapbook (124)
• United States
13 Jun 07
first off, im skinny. and im not those "Skinnies" you call unless you talk about my weight. i have been healthy all the time. its just i have a fast metabolism... and with your problem of people saying your too fat, well its the same thing as people calling others too skinny. it hurts others feeling saying that theyre not this or that. i see your point on how it would hurt your feelings on how people telling you to lose weight, but it also hurts some of us, including me, that some people say that we dont eat, eat only once a day, or have any other kind of eating disorders.
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@cloud_kicker_32 (4635)
• United States
13 Jun 07
hello there..and i would like to make clear..because i donthtink ya understood..I am not saying that a;; thinner people dont eat..I was refering to those type catagory..are mean and arrogant against bigger people..The SKinnies as i mentioned that dont eat are those that i feel are miserable and hungry becuase they fear of putting on punds..even if its a shirt few..and then are mean to bigger people..I have nooo problem with anyone else..my god im not against everyone thinner than me! lol lol..i just ment the rude ones....thanks for posting.
@TheCatzMeow1 (579)
• United States
13 Jun 07
I was skinny at one good stretch in my life. Then I was skinny enough with the right clothes. After having my 2nd child and a few surgeries, I've become pleasantly plump I guess you could call it. Oh, I even had a point where I was very overweight but I lost it all just to get up to where I am today. I very seldom eat during the day. I know that's not good and there are certain things that contribute to my weight gain. I've been down with my back the last several weeks and I feel that I've gained a bit more. With all that said, I've dealt with both sides of the weight factor. I feel that when the right person comes along, it won't matter what size you are or if your hair is purple or whatever. There's always someone who'll love you for who you are. You know, there are men out there that prefer some cushion over skin and bones. Don't ever doubt that! I've even seen it on talk shows, court type shows, and with people I've known. I would discuss this with your friend as she should be understanding of your feelings, or she's not a true friend. She may not realize how much it bothers you. It would bother me if I actually heard someone talking about my weight, but I'm a "if you don't like it, don't look at me" kind of person.
@samtaylorskykierajen (7977)
• Canada
13 Jun 07
I have come to the conclusion in life that no matter what size one is , that it is not good enough for someone else .
I am thin and have been hurt many times because of the insensitivity of others as I have always had to fight hard to put on weight . It seems that no matter what size you are in life someone is always quick to pick you apart for whatever reason .
My best friend is overweight and I have seen her struggle to lose the weight . It burns me everytime someone makes a comment about how she is lazy or if she didn't eat so much . She is overweight but she is NOT LAZY and she watches what she eats . She is a very kind person who would do anything to help someone out and doesn't deserve to be talked about the way others feel they have the right to talk .
We are all beautiful in life and the size , color , shape or anything else does not change who or what we are .
Some people can be so callous about what they say and these people are just plain snobs that will never have a true friend in life because you can't have a true friend when you are too quick to judge someone else as you have never walked it there shoes and have no idea how hard it is for them to lose weight or gain weight .
I am sure you friend didnt' mean to hurt your feelings either and she would probably feel devestated if she realized that she had even hurt you with her comment . Try not to take it so hard and just keep knowing that you are beautiful .
Take Care !!
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@candiec2005 (828)
• United States
13 Jun 07
Who knows maybe your right. I have noticed that overweight people are more jolly than thinner people. Maybe it's becuase thin people deprive themselves of food. Let me tell you something, it sucks! I'm always dieting and I'm thin. But I am never 100% satisfied with my weight. I always want to be skinnier, leaner, etc. I've been this way since I was in my teens. But I guess no one is really 100% happy with the way they look. We always want to change something about ourselves. Nothing's perfect in life.
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@Schnorrawaggle (688)
• Austria
13 Jun 07
around here there are so many skinny rails. The men are normal to overweight sometimes but the women don't seem to eat. They look like stick figures and I just want to go up to them and tell them to eat a cookie. And no sharing with a friend either. Eat one all by yourself.
It's sad that people are judge by what they look like and it's sad others feel the need to tell us what we should look like, and it's sad when we look in the mirror and we believe what others say about us.
For some people weight is an issue, they just look at a cookie and gain weight, others can eat lard and not gain any. It's just a shell, it's just the wrapper around who we are. It shouldn't be what's most important about us.
@teleios (737)
• Philippines
13 Jun 07
i'm skinny, although i also eat to eat a lot and i think that i spend a great deal of time lying on the couch to. i dont think that all fat people are lazy...just like i don't think that all thin people are starving themselves. there are reasons why people are the size they are, and no matter what that is, there's simply is no excuse for someone to go saying stuff about weight that will hurt the other person.
@maehan (1439)
• United States
13 Jun 07
Ignore those mean people that told you off nasty words. But, do remember that health, happy is the main key for us. Like my dad, use to weigh about 110kg. Due to his weight, he had joint problem. Thus the doctor ask him try to reduce some weight so that the joint problem will be better. He love meats with fat just like me. But, my mom control his diet. Instead of taking bus to the market and mall, they cycle there. Within a year, he had lost 20kg. His joint and health improve tremendously.
Another thing, I am skinny BUT I eat a lot. Among my friend and buddies, whenever we go to buffet. They will tease me and another skinny friend of mine, you skinny guy can really eat a lot. I don't care, I just eat. Who care, I exercise daily.
Just remember be who you are, healthy and happy.
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