I've survived Phase I of the child rearing days!!!!

United States
June 13, 2007 2:56am CST
Well, it's official. I am now the official mother of a graduated child. Sunday my oldest graduated from High School, with honors. Of course I refused to cry... until the music started and then I was a babbling idiot! LOL I just kept thinking about the words she said to me 2 years ago before I went in for surgery for cancer... "Mom, you have to see me graduate so don't you give up". Of course I'm here strong and grumpy as ever! So now we're on to Phase II.... the college years. Remind me again that most of us DO survive this stuff! LOL
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21 responses
13 Jun 07
Oh I think you'll survive and you'll love every minute of that surviving. Just wait until you have to survive your first grandchild being born. It's so hard to watch your little girl going through labor but so much fun too. I now have two grandsons who are THE best. Love ya along with your 'little' girl Judy
• United States
16 Jun 07
thanks.. I do love every minute of it... life wouldn't be complete without my kids
@lingli_78 (12852)
• Australia
13 Jun 07
congratulations hockeygal... that is a very very big and significant achievement... you are definitely a strong woman... you managed to pull through from cancer and witness your daughter graduate from high school... i hope i will reach the same stage as you one day... i don't even have a child yet at the moment... longing for one soon... once again, congratulations and i believe you will manage to pull through the rest of the child rearing phase... good luck...
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@Lucille7 (509)
• South Africa
13 Jun 07
WOW! What a wonderful experience. A mother's dream come true. That is so great. You have done a wonderful job and it sounds like you have a good bond with her. You are a great mom. Enjoy the next couple of years. They seem to go by faster with each new year. Take care of your health as well. There are still many memories to be made.
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• Canada
13 Jun 07
Congratulations from another soon-to-be-babbling-idiot! :) :) My older daughter is graduating this year too, although they don't have the actual diploma ceremonies until October! June 30th they have what they call the "Grand March" (where they all get decked out to the nines and parade around for us babbling idiots... uh... parents LOL). Then, they take off for a dinner/dance cruise on the St. Lawrence. In fact, she has her "test" hair appointment today so it's all getting close. We DO survive this stuff :D You, however, have done more than many and I congratulate you and wish you nothing but the best of health... stay strong and grumpy!! ;) LOL
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• United States
16 Jun 07
Kind of amazing isnt' it? Somehow we manage though!
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@lpetges (3037)
• United States
13 Jun 07
Good For you! my last one graduated this last weekend, and it hit me the hardest. i didn't cry, but, im sure i will in the fall when he leaves for college in another state. Its amazing how fast those years go by. i remember having moments with my children where i wished they were grown and out of the house, now we are going to be alone! its kind of scary in a way. you build your life around the kids, and pretty soon, you wake up next to someone you really don't know anymore! A new phase-a different stage of our lives.
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• United States
16 Jun 07
Oh congrats to you too!!!!
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• United States
13 Jun 07
I know exactly what you mean, my daughter graduated college a few weeks ago and I was fine, never even crossed my mind that I would shed a tear, knowing that I had struggled just as hard with her getting that degree babysitting her daughter, helping her with homework and going through her pain of classes, but the moment I saw her on the floor of the stadium, I lost it, I cried like a baby, it got even worse when she crossed the stage and her name was announced. We all survive and these huge feats that they go through with life makes us think how could we love them anymore than we do that moment!
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• United States
16 Jun 07
Doesn't it just tick ya off!? LOL I do NOT cry dagnabbit! LOL Ok... guess I do.. but shhhhh.. dont' tell anyone ok?
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@latsmom (824)
13 Jun 07
Aw congrtulations, you have done really well. Don't worry about the college years worry about when they have kids and want you to babysit on demand lol. No only joking, don't worry you have done so well you will be fine.
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• United States
16 Jun 07
yikes! lol
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@deebomb (15347)
• United States
13 Jun 07
Congratulations for surviving both the first 18 or so years of being a parent and surviving cancer. There were many a day that I wondered if I would survive especially the tweeny and teen years. Once My kids reachec the teen years I stopped worrying about them and started to wonder if I would survive.
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@winky73 (1396)
• United States
13 Jun 07
I'm not a mom.....but I do think I understand how you feel.Just imagine how hard it was and still is for my family....when I moved to the U.S. from Germany. The first couple of years I got to go home 2 times....but after that it was nearly 10 years before I got to see them again.I know it wasn't easy for them and at times it wasn't all that easy for me.....but we made it so far. Just think you have so many things yet to look forward to....such as her graduating college....her wedding day etc. So hang in there....it will be okay.
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@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
14 Jun 07
I didn't know that was phase I. I considered myself through with phase one when they slept through the night. By now, you're a pro.
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• United States
16 Jun 07
LOL... well I guess technically it's phase I of the teen years?
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@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
20 Jun 07
Ok, I'll give you that. I figure every day I wake up and the kids are still alive, too, that's surviving another phase...LMAO.
@KrisNY (7609)
• United States
14 Jun 07
Impressive! How great! I'm so glad that you did survive through the cancer ordeal to see your oldest graduate- Now you have to see her get married (after college and career), have kids- be a grandmother and a great grandmother- My daughter moves from the little school (5th grade) to the middle school next year- tonight is orientation to the middle school- I'm sure I'll cry! I can't believe how fast time is flying!
@Sherry12 (2475)
• United States
13 Jun 07
You will survive it. You have been thru the worst, the high school years. You'll be surprised at how grown up she is when you see her over Thanksgiving. It is just like they've really grown up and become their own person. And, with the instant messenger and cell phones it is easy to keep in close contact.
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• Canada
13 Jun 07
You are soo brave . I dread the day my children graduate , I have been dreading this since they were born lol . I want them to do good in life but realize this means that they will be moving on with their lives and I will not be as big a part of their life . Graduating with honors is something to be proud about though and shows that you have done a really good job . Congratualations on phase I .
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@Debs_place (10551)
• United States
13 Jun 07
You are so lucky, you are getting college years. Your daughter will be home on weekends and holidays and can use the phone as needed. My son took the military route - in boot camp phone calls were few and far between, he was 1/2 a country away and still is. It was a major adjustment having him gone. Congratulations on surviving Phase I....
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
13 Jun 07
Grats to you and especially GRATS to your daughter for the Graduation survival phase. I missed out on graduationg myself as well as bith my children didn't graduate either. We all do have our GEDs though. Anyhow good luck surviving the college years and the calls for more money needed etc. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
@djbtol (5501)
• United States
13 Jun 07
Lot of changes and challenges at this time. So much of that parenting skill of the younger years does not seem adequate now. Loving and caring for them as they strike new levels of independence and doing it on their own. Hope all goes very well, and Thank God you did get to see the graduation!
@kiiizu (1901)
• Estonia
13 Jun 07
Congratulations! I don't believe you have to be afraid of Phase II. As far I know from your discussions, she is very wise and mature for her years. She will do great in college!
@psyche49f (2512)
• Philippines
13 Jun 07
Wow, congratulations! Parenting really is a wonderful experience especially if your children are reaping awards during graduation day. I'm pretty sure you are so proud of your child...who loves you so much...you deserve all the love from your children of course. This is really what makes our day, I mean our children. We survive day by day because we have a reason to. There are loved ones who inspire us, who believe in us and who rely on us. Good luck on phase II, the college years. In my case, I have already hurdled phase II 'coz my two kids are now professionals, and I'm so thankful to God for being with me through difficult times. I know you'll make it through phase II with flying colors again. Have a nice day.
• Philippines
13 Jun 07
Hi, Congratulations! It's a great fulfilling feeling seeing our kids graduate though mine was only a graduation from nursery. LOL
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@shemah (841)
• Malaysia
13 Jun 07
congratulations!! u deserve the biggest star of all.. I hope to reach that phase one day and feel as proud as you.. but kids always make you proud. My son is only 3 now and another baby is due in October. So, i've got a long way to go. Most of the time, i just turn to my mom and say, how do you do it? She raised all 5 of us together with my late dad, of course, and i think we turned out pretty good! LOL! ;)