Signs He's A Bad Catch

@galatea (686)
Philippines
June 14, 2007 4:39am CST
I've read this somewhere and I thought I'd share some of it about how to tell if a guy's a rat, a bad catch, or a future heartbreaker. Sometimes we need to be reminded of these things because we tend to forget and to make excuses for the person until it's too late to get out of it. He hurts you physically. He hurts you verbally. He's on any kind of drugs. He frightens or intimidates you in any kind of way. He doesn't work or go to school when he has the means to do so. He isolates you from friends and family, wants you all to himself. He doesn't put you near the top of his priority list--he won't make time to be with you, call you, or text you. He forces you to do things that you don't want to do. He badmouths you. He tries to keep your relationship a secret from friends or family. He only talks to you on a surface level and doesn't have any deep conversations with you. He gets unreasonably jealous. He likes to pick fights. Feel free to comment, add you own, and maybe share a story.
5 responses
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
you are right on the money there. there are times i often wonder that even if women are aware of this traits they still stick to their man. some of the list could also be applied to women also.
@galatea (686)
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
There are quite a lot of women who are aware of a boy's bad traits but, gee I'm a woman and sometimes I don't even understand myself, we tend to rationalize, to make excuses for the guy. It's like we're fooling ourselves sometimes. And yes, women are not exempt from these tell-tale signs. But I think guys tend to spot the not easily, is this right?
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
owww...we do spot the tell tale signs. the signs on your list that could be applied to women are pretty hard to ignore. but love is blind. i'm the type of guy that gives 2nd, 3rd, 4th, nth chances.....foolish me...
@galatea (686)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
yeah, there a lot of bad girls out there too. if only psychiatric help came out of fortune cookies. sometimes people do not see themselves as having personality problems so they never get to improve. girls and boys alike. as for those who fall in love with them, such as us, well... lots of luck and clarity of mind.
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
14 Jun 07
I agree with all of this. I have met a number of men like that in my time, particularly when I was younger. I can add another one. He tells lies. This is always a sign of a bad charater, no matter how small the lies. I don't fall for any of that sort of rubbish now of copyurse, but when I was in my twenties I was fooled sometimes.
@galatea (686)
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
He tells lies. Definitely a sign of bad character. He doesnt tell you where he's been, who he's been with, etc. We won't be snooping if only they told us directly. If only they were honest.
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
I admit, I have some of those on your list.. There are times when a man becomes desperate, especially when they fall in-love. I also realized that it was a very bad move, really desperate so to speak. For some cannot handle frustrations, especially when nothing's proven yet. I guess I'm the only one here who's man enough to admit some of my mistakes, it's all about "TRUST" and "UNDERSTANDING" one another. How can someone prove their worth, if they always get to be ignored/neglected?
@bcl_me (582)
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
I think the guy you have just described is totally evil...who would want such a guy? Is there such a guy? Gee...I'm a guy myself but I will not do that. Never in my sane wit. Do you know any of such a guy? Why do youi think the guy would do it? I don't anybody would like to do it. Do you think so?
@galatea (686)
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
No dear, the list doesn't describe one particular guy. It's meant to be a guide to women on how to spot the not with guys. A guy doesn't have to have all of the qualities listed above, in fact him having one of them is enough.
• United States
14 Jun 07
Good list. I have a friend's whose boyfriend met a lot of those. I think she finally gave up on him when he admitted to cheating on her. Still a lot of women will rationalize staying in a relationship with a jerk with "but, I love him." That drives me crazy. There is more to a relationship than love, I think respect needs to rank pretty highly too.
@galatea (686)
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
'There is more to a relationship than love' I certainly agree with that one!