the love of my life...is a mama's boy!

@teleios (738)
Philippines
June 14, 2007 9:35am CST
you met a guy and got to know him and you thought that he was the most wonderful, caring, thoughtful gentleman that ever walked this earth. then,you met his mother and you found out that he's not only all that, he's also a mama's boy! would you continue dating him?i would!
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@speedy1279 (2670)
• United States
14 Jun 07
My first husband was a mama's boy, but not in a good way. He was an only child and his mother spoiled him roten. He grew up getting everything he wanted, no matter how big or expensive it was. He turned out to being controlling because he was so used to getting what he wanted he expected me to listen to him and do as he said. Now you are probably wondering why I even married him in the first place. Well when we first met he was so different. As I put it now he has two sides. He was caring, nice, thoughful, and a real gentleman. Things were going fine until he turned drinking age and we got married then everything changed. Let me share with you a little story of how bad he was. Right before we seperated. His mother and I had a fight (which was very common between us, we did not get along). We were living with them, while trying to build our own home. So I stormed out of the house pissed off and she came out of the house after me. Right in front of her own son she says to "(my name), get your *** over here right now". I turned around so fast and said "excuse me, you don't speak to me like that, you are not my mother and my own mother wouldn't even speak to me that way". Do you know my husband did not even attempt to stand up for me. He just stood there and said nothing. Needless to say we seperated about a week after that happend! I told him to his face he needed to divorce his mother before he ever thinks of getting married to anyone else.
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@teleios (738)
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
that's really horrible. i've heard that most mama's boy's are spoiled rotten, but i don't think it applies to all. if my boyfriend started acting like a baby whenever his mom his around i don't know what i'd do, but i'd probably take it as a warning sign.is it even possible to try to change a mama's boy?
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• United States
14 Jun 07
No I don't think you can change anyone yet alone a mama's boy. People will only change if "they" want to change. I gave up trying to change people along time ago.
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@teleios (738)
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
yeah, i don't think other people can change other people. and all we can do when dealing with people who need to change, i think, is at least try to change a bit of our attitude towards them. i think that separating with your first husband was a good idea though. if i was in your shoes and i stayed with him, i think i'd go crazy. and the 'divorce your mom first' comment was a nice touch! ;)
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@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
that is not the only gauge to love or not to love someone unless that is one of your turn offs then it would be wise to leave the person but it only shows one's appreciation to the one who cared for him all his life and that could be a good sign that he will take of you on your lifetime.
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@youdontsay (3503)
• United States
17 Jun 07
Not knowing what I know now! I was married to a mama's boy for 15 years and it was a disaster. Nope. Been there, done that, don't want to do it again.
@teleios (738)
• Philippines
26 Jun 07
haha! is marrying a mama's boy that bad?hmmm. anyway as long as he's sweet. i wouldn't want to see him clinging to his mom forever, although i dont think there are any mama's boys who wont be able to do that...
@bubuth (1816)
• Philippines
18 Aug 12
I will still date with him because i believe on what other people said that if a guy is sweet in the girls on his family it means he is a gentle man. I think there is nothing wrong on being a mamas boy as long as he is not being childish because of his mamas boy character. Actually i really like guys who is very sweet with his mom because there is only few guy showing there sweetness in there moms in public.
@laltu86 (1253)
• India
25 Jun 07
Its nothing wrong to respect elders specialy the parents but then also a person must know and take his life's decissions. what you have described signifies a very good man but a weak man also , if he couldnt take his own decission when how can he make the decission to love you without consulting his mom ? anyways good luck.
@Buchi_bulla (8299)
• India
25 Jun 07
What is wrong if he is a mama's boy? In fact such boys understand ladies' problems very well. If he gives preference to mama only then we can make his understand that we are also important part of his life. I am sure the mama boy will understand that.