Do you have a good communication with your parents?

China
June 15, 2007 11:02am CST
As far as I concerned,more and more youth think that there is a channel between them and their parents,they always think that thier parents can not understand them,and they have nothing in common. As me,I am a college student now,I also do not have a good communication with my parents,in front of them,I have little to say,and never have a sincere talk with them,maybe it is my faults,I think my parents want to communicate with me fiercely,but they feel disappointment when they see that I seem to be boring when talk with them.then they will stop trying to communicate with me. I am wrong,it is time for me to correct it.I must try my best to communicate with them,because I love my parents,and they also love me very much. Do you have a good communication with your parents? or you are a parent,can you communicate with your children sincerely? I need your opinion, share it. thank you.
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@vitekfdr (647)
• United States
7 Sep 07
Well i have to say that i communicate well with my parents. They never inniatiated anything nor were they interested in my life. My boys are young, but they know I will talk with them about anything they are interested in. I have an open door and they can come to me about anything without judgment. I even discuss things I have no interest in, my one son is a science, electricity, robot junky and I have extensive conversations about stuff I have no clue about My other friend is into dinosaurs and I pass my time with him playing Dinopoly and talking about dinosaurs. I make sure both my boys know I love them and I am interested in their lives.
• Sri Lanka
19 Jun 07
Upto 2004 I was living with my parents. After marriage in 1990 my parents built a house next to ours, so we were still together. But in 2005 I and my wife moved to the heart of the city and we are about 20 kilometres away from. Anyway I always visit them and have a chat.
@meme0907 (3481)
• United States
18 Jun 07
Hey t1985, I have no communication w/ my father at all & my mother is deceased.We have a 17 year old son he is our only child (living w/ us) we were like the three amigos now our communication has fizzled.He basically is like you has nothing really to say & we understand we just continue to tell him we love him & are here for him if he needs us.I don't think he realizes he's breaking our hearts & just how much I cry about it. I don't want to cry to him & tell him he's hurting me b/c I don't want him to feel like I'm laying a guilt trip on him. +'s 2 U :D
@DJ9020 (1596)
• United States
17 Jun 07
When my mother and father were alive, I had really good communication with them. I always talked to my mother, but didn't really have a good relationship with my father until later in life. My parents were divorced and while I visited my dad a lot, that's not the same as living with him. When he and I moved to the same town, after I was out of college, we talked much more. I'm so glad I got to know him before he passed away! Now I am a parent, and I have two children. I don't have a good relationship with my oldest daughter, but she won't talk to me about anything important. She is determined to do life her own way! I just hope one day she will come around and realize that I only want good things for her. My youngest daughter is very close to me. Talk to your parents, listen to them! You neve know how long you will have them around. It's a cliche, but very true. Take it from one who has lost both parents now.
@KissThis (3003)
• United States
17 Jun 07
My father passed away when I was just eleven. I will often just sit on my bed to talk to my father. I know that he is listening. My mother is one of my best friends. I know that I can tell her anything and that she will not judge me. I am working on having that type of relationship with all of my children. I make sure to tell them that I will support them in any decision that they make. Its their lives not mine so I respect that they have to live it the way that they want. I am only here to guide them.
@fengbo (731)
• China
16 Jun 07
yeah,i am also a academician,Sometimes i have so much communication with my partents include life,studying,feeling and other things.I think i do well in this things,i don't have a brawl with my parents. I very love my parents,in many things i will follow they means. In this world,so many children don't have enough with they parents,so when they touch a things,they have a different opinion with they parents,the quarrel will be happen. In my opinion,we must have a good communication with our parents,the parents always love us,they is the important person in our life.
@Willowlady (10658)
• United States
15 Jun 07
They are people with communication skills and so am I. Therefore we talk about most anything. They have lived longer than me so they do have information that could be useful for me. They have seen the world change and so have I however they have seen more and so again they have information that could be good for me. Appreciate them all you can since they will likely be gone from this world before you. Good luck!
@wenfri (1185)
• Canada
16 Jun 07
As a child, teenager or an adult i could never talk to my MOM Now my Dad was an another story He was always there when I needed him. I think we had a special connection cause we both loved to fish. It wasn't my Mom who told me about the facts of life was my Dad. Wasn't Mom who explained about the monthly visits but my Dad. Wasn't my Mom who told me about what most boys wanted was my Dad I could discuss anything with my Dad not my Mom I am a parent of 3 grown up boys now. Our door was always open. At least mine is and always will be. Even as adults now I am first one they call when things go wrong. They have cried on the phone over personnal problems. You must try to communicate with both parents Although I most admit one was easier than the other to talk to. Now that my Dad is OLD (86 this year) his hearing is shot and he is frail we still try to talk My Mom bless her is now gone. You must have something you can ask your parents about. Start with trivial things Include them in things you like to do (well maybe not) LOL Or ask advice about something Nothing big but you must try to open the doors before it is too late to remedy I wish you all the best in your attempts Wendy
@smints8985 (1594)
• United States
16 Jun 07
I would like to believe that we have a clear and understandable line of communication. In terms of having an open communication, yes we do. We actually talk like we're friends. We talk about whatever issue that arises, though we cannot avoid the times that ideas and opinions regarding certain matters do not match. The good side is that everything is out in the open and can be talked about between ourselves, it is way better than not having a line of communication and treating each other as strangers.
@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
15 Jun 07
Sometimes we have good/bad communications but we work it out. It's important to communicate with them. We communicate with our daughter great as she can talk to us with no problems.
@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
16 Jun 07
I did not ever communicate well with my parents. They never inniatiated anything nor were they interested in my life. My boys are young, but they know I will talk with them about anything they are interested in. I have an open door and they can come to me about anything without judgment. I even discuss things I have no interest in, my one son is a science, electricity, robot junky and I have extensive conversations about stuff I have no clue about..lol. My other son is into dinosaurs and I pass my time with him playing Dinopoly and talking about dinosaurs. I make sure both my boys know I love them and I am interested in their lives.
@luisivy (68)
• Philippines
16 Jun 07
Yes, me and my parents have good communication. we exchange many ideas about our own problems. And now i'm a mother i see to it that i am also giving time to talk to my 4 yr old son. it helps a lot when you open your problems to your parents. Nobody will help you except your parents.