parental holiday depression

Oh Scarlet woman, I think it can be depressing. My oldest son's father drowned, and no only is today father's day, it is also his birthday. To top it off, we lost a baby before we had my oldest, and it is the annivesary of the day I informed him I was pregnant. It was a father's day and birthday present rolled up in one. My oldest doesn't remember his daddy at all, and is with his stepfather celebrating the day. It is probably harder on me than it is on him. I get you. I hope you have a good day today!

Unfortunately I never got to know my father as my parents were divorced when I was very young..I did meet him once when I was six but didn't make a big impression on me as it was like meeting a total stranger rather than a biological parent...but I would feel "weird" with Father's Day...left out somehow...as for my mom who passed away last year...well, you are familiar with my story about her--I did feel weird this past Mother's Day...only because I was reflecting on how things could have been between us..but she choose to be..shall we say difficult??..I wound up just having a lot of pity on her the last years of her life

oh yes, i can relate to that at times i get this SEASONAL AFFECTIVE DISORDER or what we know as sad. since my father passed away just last december , we have all learned and accepted it in our hearts and he is better off than we are and we know he is happy, he is because we have let him go.all he is saying is miss me...but let me go.

Oh definately yes. I lost my Mother when I was quite young, and every March when Mothers' Day comes round it really brings that loss back to me. Over the years I've come to kind of cut myself off from the whole hype - I don't go into card shops or florists or anything of that kind, and I deal with it that way. I hope you can get through tomorrow.

My parents are thankfully still alive, but I don't have much of a relationship with my father. It's not so much that we don't get along, it's that he ignores me & my family and has pretty much all of my life. He has a 'second' family with his second wife. He seems to put more energy into staying in touch with my now grown half-siblings than with my family. So whenever a holiday rolls around, I am torn about what to do with him. On the one hand, I feel I should make an effort even if he doesn't, as I value my family ties. On the other, it stings to make an effort only to have it not returned. I'll debate this for weeks until the holiday is actually here, like Father's Day being tomorrow now- I'll probably call him at some point & hope to get his answering machine so that I can feel like I did my part by calling at all.