What are normal coping skills supposed to be anyway?

@MJLami (1173)
United States
June 17, 2007 7:51am CST
We all have coping skills, whatever that means, right? We all have ways of venting frustrations, of getting our point across and our choices known when no one's listening or acts like we don't matter and should not have a voice anyway, right? We all have ways to deal with life's ups and downs that are our own right? So are your coping skills normal or do you or others think you're crazy? I call myself the crazy lady but it's after years of hearing I was supposed to be crazy because I acted it trying to lose unwanted interest by an unwanted pursuer. I've developed some strange habits and coping skills from that experience and when I find myself stuck in ugly memories from the past they shine! How about you?
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4 responses
17 Jun 07
Basic? Learning to deal and pick up new coping skills. Facing up to things Being able to think clearly (after thinking) I'm not really sure what else I could add. :) ~Joey
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@MJLami (1173)
• United States
17 Jun 07
Joey thanks for your input. So do you think you're normal or unique with your coping skills?
17 Jun 07
Well I would say I used to be normal. I found it hard to deal with certain things and I had to learn to manage that. After I had experienced certain things In my life I learnt to cope with a lot of pain which was inflicted and that's made me the way I am now. From before it's certainly different. :) ~Joey
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@MJLami (1173)
• United States
17 Jun 07
Thanks for the added explanation. What we go through does change us, very much so. Thanks for the comments:)
@ctrymuziklvr (11059)
• United States
18 Jun 07
Not everyone has "normal" coping skills. Some people have none at all and can't deal with the smallest upset in their lives. Unfortunately I'm one of those people and if I didn't have the medication that I take I probably wouldn't be alive to talk about it.
@MJLami (1173)
• United States
18 Jun 07
Exactly, I don't believe any of us have "normal" coping skills as we are each unique. Thanks for proving my point.
@maryannemax (12170)
• Sweden
17 Jun 07
if you call yourself a crazy lady because of the way you cope up with things happening in your life, i am a crazy woman, too. i guess we all have weird ways in coping up. just that not all are ready to accept that fact. anyway, when i am frustrated, or not in the mood, or stressed, i just go to my room and try and take a nap. if i can't, i'll just watch movies or log in here in myLot. when trying to forget people's faults on me, i just can't find myself forgetting. i do forgive. but the forgetting part has always been difficult eversince. ... anne
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@MJLami (1173)
• United States
17 Jun 07
anne - thanks for the laugh. I so appreciate it :) I forgive, but not forget and forgiveness does not mean I allow it to continue. It ends and needs to or I will find another way to deal with the wrongdoer. Guaranteed! Thanks for commenting.
• United States
17 Jun 07
Hi MJLami. I'm really not sure what normal coping skills are. Just like you I have been through alot of tough times in my life. I have developed ways to cope with things and that usually involves not dealing with things at all, not showing emotion and such. As for your coping skills shining, I know exactly what you are saying. I tend to become very judgemental, I tend to analyze other's actions and motives and lack trust. It's a miserable way to be but what can you do, right? have a good day=)
@MJLami (1173)
• United States
17 Jun 07
Thank you so much for understanding me. Yes, I think it does lead to no longer trusting and analyzing their actions and motives. It certainly has for me. I so appreciate your comments. I hope you also have a good day :)