A Fellow Lady.. TICKED OFF!!

United States
June 17, 2007 9:03pm CST
SO! Here's what happened. The past few weeks I've been craving some lovin' from the hubby. Well whenever I have expressed my "I'm in the mood" to him. I get the excuses of "I'm too tired", "Not now" and "the guys are coming over" So today I got fed up with these excuses so I said "Fine, I'm gonna take a shower" So after my shower I came out of the living room wearing nothing but a smile. He looks dead at me and asked if I could get him a sode out of the fridge. No cat calls, no whistles, NOTHING! What the heck! Have you ever had this happen to you and if you did, what did you do, or WHAT WOULD YOU DO in this situation. And no, I didn't get him his MT DEW out of the fridge.. that jerk!
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13 responses
@soccermom (3200)
• United States
18 Jun 07
I wouldn't have gotten his soda either! My hubby goes through this every once in awhile, and the best bet is to just lay off and act like you aren't interested either. It's so childish, but it seems to work. In response to the person that said maybe it's the packaging, don't pay attention to that, I'm sure the packaging is fine, maybe he's just stressed out, or wants to initiate the act himself.
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@hoghoney (3749)
• United States
18 Jun 07
I have been in your shoes before with this but mine came out for the worst and I found out that my husband now ex was cheating on me and when he was at home he had nothing left for me because he was giving it all to someone else. You need to talk to your husband to find out what is really going on. If he is not getting any on the side then just jump his bones the next time and take no for an answer. go get it girl.
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@KaseyLah (142)
• Canada
18 Jun 07
hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha i've heard simular stories of it
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@catjane (1036)
• United States
18 Jun 07
NO, that has never happened to me, and to tell you the truth, it would be nice to be naked in front of my husband once in awhile without him getting excited. I can't imagine him saying "not now" lol, that's usually what I say. How long have you been married? After awhile, stuff like that does wear off. Maybe next time try dressing up in a nurses outfit lol, for some reason men think nurses are sexy. Good luck!
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18 Jun 07
I'm getting a chuckle out of the "this discussion is of a mature matter" responses. I don't know what to say to the OP, though. I'm sure your feelings are hurt more than your libido at this point. I know mine would be and I would find it hard to be in "the mood" the next time he was.
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@navtech (1776)
• India
18 Jun 07
Hi, djbizmonkey34, As far as I know man generally do not refuse to the mood of the wife. It gives him naturally, pleasure of knowing that his wife is in mood. I do not know why your husband has not shown any interest inspite of your best approach method. I feel he must be diabetic patient otherwise every man would happily go for this. There are other reasons that he might be undergoing mental pressure due to his job or any other things. Nothing to worry, in the course of time, everything will come to normal. With you a happy and prosperous, married life.
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
If that's the case I'd rather take a shower to burn off the heat in me!!If time comes that he is in the mood! I'll just ask him to get me a drink from a fridge!!! KARMA! WHAT GOES AROUND, COMES AROUND! WHAT GOES UP MUST COME DOWN!!!
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@wiccania (3362)
• United States
18 Jun 07
I had that situation once... After trying the nothing but a smile approach, I went into the bedroom, retrieved a toy and then returned to let him know that I'd be busy with a real man for awhile and not to disturb me. Then I made sure to be very vocal about how much I was enjoying my toy... he came in to participate after a few minutes.
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@joyce959 (1563)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
I guess your husband doesn't like the idea that you initiate the move. Maybe he prefers it the other way. I don't know what's on your hubby's mind so I am just guessing. The worst I could guess is that your hubby has another woman....so he's not anymore interested to make love to you...you can feel it....I hope I'm wrong, but woman's intuition holds true sometimes.
@daycarepal (1998)
• United States
18 Jun 07
Oh I am soooo sorry this happened to you!! I'm not sure how I would react if my husband did that. My husband is always "in the mood", so I've never dealt with rejection from him. Is there something going on with your hubby that he's not sharing with you? Something bothering him at work? If this is not his normal behavior, then I would think that something is really bothering him. I would try to talk with him and see what's going on.
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• United States
18 Jun 07
I so would have kicked him in the nuts! Grrr lol Yes I have been there before. Sometimes guys just get blah and they aren't giving it up as we would like. I dunno...maybe we want it too much and they get lazy? Ya know what I do? as much as it sucks I just leave him alone. I stop the flirting or touching or even pleasing him in anyways...I make it clear that if I dont get any sort of lovin then neither is he! I mean we have gone a few weeks at a time without it but I make it clear LOL I NEEED some lovin! I can't & won't go out and get it else where, you are my man so you better give it up before i take it!!! hahaha SOrry that it's happening to you though I know sometimes it can hurt your feelings too cuz you think they've lost that attraction or aren't into you. You feel self concious about yourself. It's just a guy being lazy. :( I hope you get your lovin soon...give him a few days don't talk about it or touch him for that matter LOL make him come your way! OR just take it like I do :P good luck!!
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@makingpots (11928)
• United States
19 Jun 07
My husband and I had some really weird power struggle issues when our son was still a baby. It is a awful area to try and exert power, but could it be anything like that? Just a thought. Whenever my husband is uninterested it usually is a direct result of too much stress at work. Good for you not getting the soda. I wouldn't have either.
@devilsangel (1821)
• United States
19 Jun 07
Wow, I don't think I've ever had that happen to me before. I honestly wouldn't know how to react if it did though cause it would be just so damn strange. I've heard stories of this happening but never actually experinced it. Depending on how long this has been going on there might be some things you have to ask. He could just be tired and not really in the mood. Or there could be something else. Do you two still kiss or even cuddle when you're in bed together? Does he notice you at all? Does he stay out late or come home late? All these things are stuff to think about. I mean I hate to be the one to say it but maybe he's seeing someone else.