Pregnant Teenagers?

Canada
June 18, 2007 4:20pm CST
It seems as if pregnancy among teens isnt as uncommon as it used to be. What are your first reaction when you hear of a classmate/friends daughter being pregnant? I was on a school trip and found out a classmate of mine was pregnant and she was far enough along because she was showing. I felt so sympathetic towards her. She is so young and now has to raise a child. The weird part about it is, that her parents are SO happy!!! What do you think?
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@raychill (6571)
• United States
18 Jun 07
I knew a few kids in my high school who had gotten pregnant. Most of them I didn't really know. The first girl I really knew was 15 and pregnant by a 21 year old who was in jail because her mother got him put there since her daughter was so much younger than him. She'd have him call one of our mutual friends who lived a few houses from her so they could talk on the phone. She named him after the dude...and they broke up after he got out of jail. stupid. I never really understood how people could be so careless. I also knew a girl who not only got pregnant at 16 but had TWINS. The key is always having understanding parents. I just don't think you should bring kids into the world until you can take care of yourself. but then again...sometimes you can be 28 and still not take care of yourself so I guess you just live and learn.
• Canada
18 Jun 07
Understanding parents deffinately makes it a whole lot easier. I think if I got pregnant Id be more scared to tell my parents and them be dissapointed in me than to actually have the child.
@raychill (6571)
• United States
18 Jun 07
Same here. My parents would have been dissapointed. Now though... my mom would love if I had a baby even if I though I'm not married or financially stable or anything. I'm 25. crazy how things change.
@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
you don't need to feel sorry for her since her parents are not. you should feel happy for her blessings.technically, she may be young to raise a child but with the support of her family is of great help.i guess what you are feeling is "what if it happens to me!" .
• Canada
19 Jun 07
I see where your coming from, but whether or not her parents are happy i still feel sorry for her. She doesnt seem happy.
• Canada
19 Jun 07
There seems to be more and more of this in our area and I always feel bad for the teenager because as a parent I know how hard things are going to be for the next little while for them . It is best when they have a lot of family support as there is nothing that can be done once the teenager is already pregnant . You can't change what has already taken place but there are a lot of people who don't see it like this and are so upset about what there child did that they don't give any thought to the future of their own child . The more support a child has the better and even with a lot of supprt , things are still going to be difficult . If only there was a way to explain to teenagers the difficulty of their life if they are to let this happen too young , but many are convinced they know better and have to learn on their own . I was pregnant as a teenager but lost the baby and then had another child shortly afterwards . I was nineteen at this time so I wasn't that young but even so things were hard and were very difficult . I would never change what happened as I love my daughter very much but hate to see anyone else have to go through the hardships my husband and I had to go through if they don't need to . It is a lesson that can't be taught to a child who feels they know more and there is not much one can do though . As there is nothing anyone could have said to me to make me change my mind . Love and support is all one can do and hopefully we can teach our children that they don't need to do this to have love in thier life as this is why so many teenagers resort to pregnancy young in life .
• Canada
19 Jun 07
I agreee with you on the support of the family. I feel bad for the teenagers becuase not only are they scared and embarassed about what they did, they also get the ridicule, judgment, and punishment by family and other people. I think that with the support of family that teenage girls can be really great mothers. Not saying that they should go out having kids, but there are alot of teenage mothers out there who are being amazing mothers, and they dont get the credit they deeserve.
@Nardz13 (5059)
• New Zealand
19 Jun 07
Hi. My first reactions to teenage pregnancy and this is a good question for me, because I have a niece who is due this "June Month" My first reactions, naturally I was shocked and stunned, but calmed down and came to my senses quickly, I made sure she was alright and asked her what she wanted to do and how she felt, and simply told her that I am here for her, the whole family will be once they get over the shock, because we have a very BIG supportive family, all the nieces and nephews are really close to me, and therefore I was the first one she approached about it... I just simply told her, that I am shocked and expected more from her and for her not to be suprised at the families reactions "shock horror" for a short time. But then I told her if shes going to keep her baby, lifes not going to be easy and especially at her age, 15 going on 16, that she will have family support behind her, but as for any financial help from government sectors, there will be nothing because shes still young and under age, her parents are going to have to help her with that, until she goes out there and gets a job, I told her now shes going to be a mother, she will be forced to grow up fast and sacrifice alot of things she wanted out of life, talking to this kid she cried and didnt realise just how hard lifes going to be for her... She belongs to my sister n law and they have a very cold mother and daughter relationship with each other, Im more of a mother to her and always will be until her mother can learn to get over herself I suppose. Who knows this baby may be a blessing in disguise, to get these two, his mom and his grandma bonding and close. Thats what Im hoping, because lifes just too effin short...
• Canada
19 Jun 07
Well its unfortunate that shes pregnant at 15. I just feel so bad for these teenagers, becuase not only did they ruin their lives (not to be cruel, but things are going to be so much harder for them)but they are being judged constantly for it. They already have enough on their plate as is..
18 Jun 07
I feel shocked when i hear some of my friends are pregant and have had kids it canit be acceptable for someone in there teens to get pregant they have no life experience and probally not enough money to support there kids when i ever have a kid i want to make sure im financialy secure and could afford to do it , my friend who has has a baby is living of benefits from the government how can you live like that?
• China
27 Jun 07
The same as what you think
@arundeep (12)
• India
19 Jun 07
hi my name is arun .from my point of view teenager pragnancy is the shame full thing .
• Canada
19 Jun 07
Nowazdays it doesn't shock me as much anymore because it's a common occurence, but this is something that myself and my partner have talked about quite often. My first experience with a pregnant friend was in my last year of school. She got pregnant quite by accident, and to be honest, I felt a vindictive kind of pleasure at first because she was a nasty piece of work at times. I remember also feeling shocked that she was pregnant though. The rest of us were just barely starting to take notice of boys, and here was one of our friends, obviously sexually active and having a baby too. It didn't seem quite right. She stayed in School right till she hit 8 months, and then she left. We never saw her again. So far as we heard, she had her baby and moved to go live down in the south of the UK with her boyfriend. I'm not sure why teens have this whole thing about wanting to be sexually active though. Is it a status symbol with their friends or what?
@PunkyMcPunk (1478)
• Canada
19 Jun 07
Back when I was in highschool (1996) I was 16 years old. There was a girl that got pregnant and she dropped out to raise the baby. She still doesn't have her highschool diploma and hasn't had a very good life since. She has struggled and struggled to make ends meet. Her mom kicked her out of the house because she got pregnant, the father of the baby was living at his parents and they didn't want anything to do with it. He moved out with her for awhile but eventually he left her and went out with a girkl at school that didn't have a baby. On the other hand I was 16 and a girl came to school (she was in most of my classes) she was 23 years old. here in Canada most kids are graduated byt the time they are 18 years old. She had gotten pregnant and dropped out of school to raise her child. When her child was old enough to go to school full days this young mother came back to higschool. She worked hard and achieved some of the highest marks in my class. She was always right on top of home work and projects (even more so than I was). I think having the baby made her mature very quickly. She grew up and when she was in school she was there to learn and graduate not socialize and get a boyfriend, not to make fun of other kids, not to look cool. She was there to do what we all should have been there to do. LEARN. She went on and got a univeristy scholarship and now is a successful teacher. So I have seen both sides of what can happen when you get pregnant as a young woman. Now that I am older and am a single mum myself, I do know taht making a baby is so much easier than raising a baby. It is very very very hard. Your life ceases to exist and your world now revolves around that tiny little innocent sweet cherub. Some girls and guys can transition very well but others can't. It si hard from hanging out with your friends, going to parties and having a part time job to get money to pay for your new clothes and CDs to worrying about having enough money for diapers and formula.
@ememj12 (43)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
i have encountered that to. i have a friend in highschool who got pregnant and she wants to have an abortion. we tell her all the negative effects of abortion. Her boyfirend left her when he found it. Now she is happy with the son that she has.
@meljessxena (2319)
• Australia
19 Jun 07
actually a couple of girls from school i use to go with, they have got kids now and im like oh are you serious, when they at school no way they were responsible enough to be a parent, and i have heard that some of these girls arent good mothers. why can people be gifted with such beautiful blessings and just ruin for the poor children. i know accidents do occur and some dont believe in abortions but some people really need to way things up. but not really much we can do about is it
@emisle (3824)
• Ireland
19 Jun 07
In my final year of secondary/high school one girl was pregnant, and after I went to college I heard of about another 3 that also got pregnant. In Ireland no one really bats an eyelid at a pregnant teenage mother, there may have been stigma attached to it going back 30 years ago but things have really changed. And as for the girls parents being happy, i know my parents wouldn't react exactly like that (!) but at least they are supportive and she has nothing to worry about.
• India
19 Jun 07
Its a kind of strange. I can not sayanything abt it.
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
I have a classmate who close to me. She told me she was pregnant and she have many financial problems. Since her belly isnt big I ask her whats the connection, she told me she want it to be aborted. I was shocked, Its her second baby and she think she cant make it. Since she was very embarrased when she first got pregnant, I promise not to tell anyone. But the problem is time is fleeting and sooner or later her belly will bloat. So I broked my promise when it was our Values Education time. I volunteered to pray (bec. we pray every beginning of each subject). At the middle of prayer I mentioned her(my pregnant classmate) and asked the lord to help her in her second baby. The next day things went fine and shes not angry nor disappointed. And our Values Education teacher helped her find a house because her parents dont want her to live with them.
@olyngurl (149)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
Well, be happy for your friend because some teenagers who are pregnant mostly their parents do not like it but with your friend vice versa because her paren ts like it and happy for it.. She is very lucky with her situation even if thats weird....
@mylhee (33)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
if i would hear that a young individual just like me would be pregnant,i would feel sorry for that person because ay a young age,instead of enjoying her teeange years,she would have to take care of her child.i do think that its their fault because they cant wait to do it,yuck.or they should have used protection so that the girl wouldnt be pregnant. just an advice to the girl,since you were so careless,just dont be a careless mom. shoutout to the ladies out there:do it on the right age,right place at the right time or else you are gonna suffer for the same consequences.
• United States
19 Jun 07
babies are definitely a blessing which everyone should be haapy to have... if i'll hear someone who is not prepared to have a baby is pregnant i usually have mixed emoitions... happy for she receive a priceless blessing from God but quite sad because she's not prepared on what she had entered, but i always and would always encourage the lady to continue the pregnancy coz i fear God and i know that, that baby is meant to be born in this world. God has always a plan that we should not interfere but rather trust Him with all our heart...
• United States
19 Jun 07
Its messed up when teenagers have kids. Use a rubber.
@Sherry12 (2475)
• United States
18 Jun 07
I think it is sad. There were several girls in my daughters class last year that were pregnant when they graduated. I don't think they realize all they are giving up by having a child so young. And, it is going to be so hard for them to further their education and give their child all the things they want to.
@mrsbrian (1951)
• United States
18 Jun 07
My first thought is what was she thinking or not thinking speaking as a mother at 16 she has no idea what she is about to incounter. Sometimes i wonder where were the parents that this child was left alone with a young man, but I guess I have to retract that thought,Some are mature enough but others are not lets wait and see how happy the parents are after they are the ones who end up raising this child.