After a long term relationship..

@KaseyLah (142)
Canada
June 18, 2007 9:44pm CST
Do you get over the person right away? What do you do to get over the person? Do you just move on and go flirt with other people? I think its stupid how people move on so fast after a relationship, like it took me about 6 months to get over a guy. And we didnt even date, we we're just seeing/intrested in each other. Which is really wierd. But what do you think?
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6 responses
19 Jun 07
What do you mean by stupid? I think for someone who's been hurt by the collapse of a relationship is always better to get on with things. Why? are they worth crying over. (Hanging on to something isn't only causes problems and only allows the hurting to continue) Personally I've only had one relationship which has actually been long term. I'm married and have a wonderful little boy and if I listened to people who thought it was stupid getting on with my life I wouldn't gotten there. If it's stupid to pick yourself up and get on with your life then so be it, in my opinion it's actually a smart thing to do. For those who do the ending, sure that's annoying. especially my first girl friend who only "dated" me because we was going somewhere. (we was together for about 5 months) I was upset yeah, but she just turned evil and she wasn't worth thinking about. Just my views. ~Joey
@KaseyLah (142)
• Canada
19 Jun 07
I agree but i think if you love them then you shouldn move on, but i do agree that you should put your self up and etc. Thansk for your views.
19 Jun 07
I'll point out. I met my wife about a month after but I started searching the day I found out that my x had already found a new boy friend. Some do need time but in my eyes, it's time wasted and we don't actually have a long life. (days go fast) Happily married for one year and been dating previously for three years. Couldn't picture my life going in any other direction :)
19 Jun 07
you think it's best to not move on after someone ditches you? seriously most people do move on in a couple of days or weeks. (they may not know it) but it's very hard to remain lovey dovey with someone who doesn't love you. (nor should you) :) Interesting discussion. ~Joey P.s I also think the person who's hurt comes first and there feelings, weather that is waiting or not :)
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
2 Aug 08
When I split up from my ex of 9 years the first thing I wanted was to get rid of every single thing that reminded me of him...my Mom had to physically restrain me from just chucking everything I owned into the trash truck. Then I went through what I can only describe as a mourning stage for about a month or two. After that I decided that I wanted to make new friends and enjoy being single. I stayed that way for about a year until I met my Hubby. I think everyone needs to take a little time to let their hearts heal and to get their lives set back up...when you go rushing into a new relationship too fast alot of times you tend to haul baggage from the breakup in with you. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
• Canada
19 Jun 07
I can't say that I've ever been in a long term relationship, but I think it really depends on the person. Me? It might take awhile for me to get over something. I can't think of anything else to say, other than things I'd rather keep to myself.
• Canada
19 Jun 07
i dont get over a person right away but i usually flirt to try and make it go away i know it sounds bad but it sorta helps a bit but the only bad thing is that i end up liking the person i flirt with :\ you yeah but usually i still like the person fo a while after the break up, like now for an exsample ): anyways byee,
@liranlgo (5748)
• Israel
19 Jun 07
Well i know that i take a long time off before i go dating again, i know that this time i took nearly a year off. I know that it is not easy. I broke up from him, but i did not feel like starting a new relationship for a long time, i did not think that i am ready or have an energy to do so. But there are people that act differently, they are people that are usually very practical, less emotional, and know what is their target. I can tell you that my best friend, has broke up from the men she was with for two years, and that gave her a ring. It took her only two weeks to fall in love with another one, and she told me yeasterday, that she is going to get married to this new one, i must say that they are together for on a month..:)
• United States
19 Jun 07
I am only speaking for myself. I think a real relationship needs time. I know people say they are in love. Then something happens and boom they have a new love. Time heals all wounds. Without it your bringing baggage to your next relationship. I am single and it's not a bad thing. I have been cheated on and it's not easy. I am one who prefers to let time go and spend it alone. It's the only way to know for sure what I really need. I try to keep in mind. That if I move on with another man. I am sleeping with all the people he has even been with. That alone lets me take time to heal. Your a good person for not rushing into another relationship so fast. You value yourself.