baby

Canada
June 19, 2007 8:17am CST
how would you react if your 16 year old son came home and told he got his girlfriend was pregnant
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@Lucille7 (509)
• South Africa
19 Jun 07
Well, first of all pressuming I never knew about a girlfriend, I would want to know all about her and how far along she is. Then i would want her parents telephone number and I would make arrangements for the two sets of families to meet and come to some conclusion and/or temporary situation as to how this baby will be cared for. And then offer all the support and love that I can. I would then probably lie in bed at night wondering where and how I went wrong in teaching my son the scaredness of this act and the responsibilities that come with it. What else could I do... punishment is out of the question.
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• Canada
19 Jun 07
you are so right.the baby needs to be taking care of first.and punishment wouldnt help what is already done. im glad to hear the positive thinking on how you would handle the situation.
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@Lucille7 (509)
• South Africa
20 Jun 07
Thank you very much. It is something I have given alot of thought to regarding my children and hopefully I will be able to deal with it in this light in reality. You have a geat day.
• United States
19 Jun 07
I have to admit. I would be VERY upset but I cannot change what is already done so I would have to offer him my support. HE is the father and I will make sure he steps up to the plate and performs his duty as a father.
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• Canada
20 Jun 07
you go girl,that is what has to be done,
@Sherry12 (2475)
• United States
19 Jun 07
That would be very hard. My first reaction would be to be mad. But, that isn't going to accomplish anything, you can't change what has already happened. I would set up a meeting with the couple and her parents and all of us together try to come up with the best solution for all involved.
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• Canada
20 Jun 07
yes and it is a very good thing to meet there parents and all work to gether.it also shows the kids we care
• United States
23 Jun 07
my son did that and what can you do but try to help them learn how to be adults now they have to learn how to clean and cook and find a job . my son stayed with her for 10 years and they finally got married and i have 2 wonderful grandchildren.
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• Canada
23 Jun 07
that is so nice to here
@maybel13 (205)
• Philippines
22 Jun 07
my initial reaction of course is i will be shocked and i will get angry with my son. but after that, i will have to talk to him how and why it happened. its not that easy to accept but you have to after all, he's still your son and your the parent responsible to him. all you can do is to support him because thats what he needs in times like that to think that he's still too young to be a father.
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• Canada
22 Jun 07
you are like so many very understanding ty 4 response
• United States
19 Jun 07
I would be upset, but being realistic about such things it would be time to have a talk about the future. He would be made to face the responsibilities of his actions.
• Canada
20 Jun 07
yes and he would learn that he created a life and they say anyone can be a dad but it takes someone special to be a father
• India
21 Jun 07
this would be a very tricky situation to be in. I would begin the conversion seriously by asking a question "Are you responsible for this!!!". And if his answer to this question is yes, then I would also talk to his girlfriend and get the feeling of her about the issue. If both of them feel that they have done it a bit early and regret over their behaviour, then it would be better to have the child aborted. In case, they understand the type of responsibilities that come along with the child and are willing to have the child and have done it deliberately, then I would allow the child to be born. Although, the second case would be rare as a 16 year old person might not understand the seriousness of the responsibilities and have probably done out of ignorance .
• Pakistan
19 Jun 07
it is not amazing now a daz i think so .
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• United States
19 Jun 07
I love your questions....lol Once again I would flip a lid, but be understanding and stand by both of them. I think his girlfriends mom would have a heart attack though. I have already given him some protection to use in case he needs them. Both of them have good heads on there shoulders and want to go to college before having kids. I also made him help take care of his 2 baby brothers when they were born, which they are now 2 & 9 mths old. Showing him it is not easy to raise babies especially when young. I think I have a while before he makes me a grandma!