What should I do when the father of my child stops taking care of his child...

I experienced that before when my ex-husband turn arround and leave's to me his obligation for my daugher. Fortunately I have a job of my own and only my parents is the one I can really trust to be with my daughters. Until my eldest daughter graduated from gradeschool I never saw him and he never had a time to visit and just say hi to her daughter. Until one day I was broke and lost my job and the only things to do is to adjust our life style so we can survive but many people suggest me that It is the time for me to ask help for him coz it is not for me but to our kids future. I have to ask a lawyer about it and finally God gives the answer to my prayer. Till now my daughter is already in her First year college he never visit her daughter but he continuously gives his monthly obligation. And this is only I will suggest to you try to find some help with a lawyer about your situation so you can moved on and take some actions about his obligation.

I have the same problem with my son's his father is not in his life and hasnt been since he was born.My son is now 11 years old.I have took child support out but his trifling butt dont work anywhere.I havent recieved any type of support from him.I think you better take him down for child support.If he is working they will get him.I wish you the best.Take care.http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/353200.aspx that is a discussion i made last year about it

my ex husband has been "missing" for over a year now. THere is an outstanding warrant for his arrest for non-payment of child support, and the arrears are over 20,000.00 He has not seen his kids in over 5 years- not my doing.... try to enforce it thru the courts- if he obviously does not want to have any involvement with his son, then he is not worthy of that relationship. Your son is better off without him. Do everything you can to get child support via the probation dept.

Oh, the things we do to our children! This man, of course, will have to answer to a higher court one day about how he's mistreating his child. This was the position I took with my son's father when he refused to pay child support, which he could more than afford. I didn't sue him in court because I believe in the law of karma - what you sow, you shall reap. I focused my energy on my son and encouraged his father to do the same. I left them to find their own rhythm together and did what I could to protect my son's feelings. I could have sued him but I didn't. It would have made our lives easier financially but I didn't want to feel as though I had to force his father to care enough to take care of his son. I cared enough and that was all I could be accountable for. I could not explain his father to my son and he never heard or saw us fighting. I think that if I had sued him, he would have spent even less time with his son. You sound like a strong, smart woman to me who will always take care of her business. This guy, or any guy, for that matter, who can walk away from a child without looking back has serious issues, to say the least. You can't solve his problems about manhood and neither can the courts. Sue him for child support because the money will make things easier on your child, but don't spend any more time wishing things were different with this guy. He let you take care of him for 4 years? Wow, I think he let you see then what he feels about responsibility.