STALKERS ~ Do you worry about anyone on myLot, that they may have a stalker?

@makingpots (11922)
United States
June 19, 2007 7:16pm CST
I do. I don't wan't to cause alarm but there is one girl who writes often and gets lots of responses when she does. A friend of her's responds often and kind of weirdly to many of her discussions. I have just looked her up (because it just occurred to me that I haven't seen anything from her)and she hasn't signed on in 7 days. So I clicked on his profile from her friend list and yep, you guessed it, 7 days as well. Do I need to get a life? Or would you be worried yourself? She is young and while very nice, she might be naive.
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@byfaithonly (10716)
• United States
20 Jun 07
I think you have a life and also think I would be a bit concerned also. Do you know this friend well? Maybe try Private Messaging her - she may respond to that. Or it could just be she's on vacation for a week. Has she always logged in regularly? You never know with the internet and yes I also watch for things like this - guess it's the mother in me.
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@makingpots (11922)
• United States
20 Jun 07
I don't know her well but she is on my friend list. I will PM her. I think my mom gene is kicking in here as well.
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@byfaithonly (10716)
• United States
20 Jun 07
Hey nothing wrong with the 'mom gene' too many times it has been right. Add to that years back I had an internet stalker myself - state police were called in and everything. It was scarey and I was lucky - some situations don't turn out as good.
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• Canada
21 Jun 07
I agree with you, byfaithonly, and I share 'the mom gene' with you, and making pots. There's nothing wrong with caring for others. I'm glad 'your stalker incident' turned out okay. makingpots, a part of your 'keen eye' re: this young girl and the guy on here, could be due to your line of work. This would cause you to know, more than the average person, that 'these' types of things do happen. I hope she PM's you back.
@Signal20 (2281)
• United States
20 Jun 07
Actually, I think it sounds more like they're both the same person...both of them haven't signed in for 7 days? Sounds kind of strange, considering the one always responds to the other's post. Yes, people don't come on here everyday granted. Did they both sign up at the same time or around the same time? Not sure if mylot shows that on the profiles, think it does. Check their profiles and see if they both come back at the same time, bet they do :)
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@makingpots (11922)
• United States
20 Jun 07
Now that you mention it, I bet you are exactly right. I have other reasons to believe it now that you have me thinking that way.
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@Signal20 (2281)
• United States
20 Jun 07
Report it to Mylot, let them check into it. Give them all the reasons too. That's against their policy to have more then 1 account.
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• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
20 Jun 07
Well there are main people who are a pain...from from there to a stalker....just make sure not to give your personal data to anyone you don't trust enough...that's a basic safety measure...specially if you're a young girl...
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@GardenGerty (99203)
• United States
20 Jun 07
This is why myLot has it in their guidelines that we should not give personally identifying information in our responses or discussions. In spite of that you see the discussions all of the time that do just that, with phone numbers, e-mails, full names, birthdays,you name it. We should all be aware of safety.
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• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
20 Jun 07
Yep, i agree. That's specially important in those cases of persons that are particularly vulnerable, such as kids.
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• Canada
20 Jun 07
I personally would have thought that if this guy is stalking her, that he would have been logged in more recently than her to find out if she's on or not. My guess would be that they're friends in real life so to speak, they live close to each other, and they know when they're both going to be on. They might even live together. I won't say Get a life because I think it's nice that you're showing concern for someone, but I do have to say that I think you're worrying over nothing.
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@makingpots (11922)
• United States
21 Jun 07
Thank you for the nice words. Yes, there is nothing to worry about I feel sure.
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@steney (1418)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
I think I know the two members involved in this discussion. If he is indeed a stalker, I hope he just stalks her here, and not in person or real life. I'm a mom too and it's quite normal to be worrisome even if it's about somebody else's welfare other than my own child. I really hope the guy's obsession (if you may call it that, and if it is) ends here. I was worried about his messages too for a while.
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@makingpots (11922)
• United States
21 Jun 07
I am glad to hear that other people have at least give this a second thought about his weird responses. You are right, it is the mommy thing, I bet.
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• United States
20 Jun 07
It is kind of worrying but who would you notify? I would not even beguin to know what to do in a susiation like this. If you call the police it will be in the town you are in, I am at a loss hopefully they both will write soon.
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
I think the police can't help regarding this since its in an online community and our problems here online will be solved online too. :)
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@KrisNY (7592)
• United States
21 Jun 07
Wow-- that is odd-- Both 7 days and he answers all of her posts- I often wonder also when I don't see someone for a while- Lets hope that she comes back real soon and put your fears to rest- could be that she is just busy and can't get online- I don't worry about someone stalking me- I'm not sure why though- I mean if they wanted to they could easy enough online- I'd take them off my friends list-
@charms88 (7543)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
Hello makingpots. I think I know whom you're referring to. I don't think she is being stalked in real life. More like being stalked virtually. Although "stalker" is a strong word in this case. Indeed, there is this guy who is publicly declaring his admiration for her. She may be young but not naive enough to understand about this guy's intention. However, She has no control whatsoever what this guy likes to post on all her threads. If you ask me, I would gladly tell this guy to practice discretion. There is the PM available for us to use.
@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
20 Jun 07
People who reply to her discussion will know who we are talking about and there are always some 'sweet words' in those discussions.
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@charms88 (7543)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
My thoughts exactly easy. I hope she will be able to use her account though. I had forwarded a lovely letter to the admin to appeal for her. No reply yet. :/
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
20 Jun 07
Hello,makingpots,i know who you are talkign about and i also feel a bit strange as both have not logged on for a week. In fact,the account of that young lady had been banned for unknown reason and she is now waiting for the reply from mylot admin,also she has got a new account already,but i do not see that young guy on her new friend list though.
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@makingpots (11922)
• United States
20 Jun 07
I am so glad that you know who it is and that you feel okay about it. If she has a knew account then she is still here and doing fine. Thanks for making me feel better about this.
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@mskzalameda (4036)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
I think I knew that girl. he he! Yeah I also noticed this guy who always respond to her and as if he has a big crush on her but I guess the girl don't think of it like that. Maybe she's just busy that's why she has not been here for the past few days. I think she will not leave us for that single reason. oh well, I think we can help her out if ever she needs help in the future he he! :)
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@makingpots (11922)
• United States
20 Jun 07
that is what we can do. Girls must stick together sometimes.
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• China
20 Jun 07
Soryy, what is stalker??
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@makingpots (11922)
• United States
20 Jun 07
WordNet - Cite This Source stalker noun 1. someone who walks with long stiff strides 2. someone who stalks game 3. someone who prowls or sneaks about; usually with unlawful intentions [syn: prowler]
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• United States
20 Jun 07
It also could just be her friend. I know I referred 2 of my friends here. they don't post though and would be right behind me if they did. I would not be to concerned unless the poster felt worried. However if you even suspect someone stalking me. Please let me know I would not mind at all.
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@makingpots (11922)
• United States
20 Jun 07
lol. You bet. I got your back.
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@meljessxena (2317)
• Australia
20 Jun 07
yeah sounds a bit suss. but since you have noticed you can stear clear of that guy. i dont get to close to people over the internet just incase of all that stuff
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@mummymo (23707)
20 Jun 07
Oh sweet - you are a worry wart just like me! It is because you care so much that you worry - and that is a good thing! Perhaps these people are friends in real life and that is why they talk strangely? Perhaps they are even a couple - are they from the same area? I know you care and I can understand why but there are many reasons why this might have happened, have you tried sending her a message? I do hope your worries are unfounded! Just a quick thought, maybe something has happened with one/both their accounts , i.e they have been suspended for some reason? You never know! Hugs xxx
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@nitzel (79)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
Sounds ridiculous to me, but you can never be too careful. How can anyone stalk someone on the internet or on myLot? I don't know, maybe i'm naive. Or maybe they both personally know each other.
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@raijin (10373)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
Well I am definitely not a stalker, but of more of watcher. I observe some of my fellow mylotian's activities here, see if they progress and look for some of their good postings. That is what I look at things here, they maybe friends or acquiantances here. Especially to those of which I am fond of responding to, of which I don't have on my list.
• Canada
20 Jun 07
I wouldn't stress out about it too much . As weird as the one who responds to her discussions , it could be an actual friend of her or someone she knows well . It would be hard to find out enough about someone on here to determine where they were , who they really were and what was true that they said about themsleves that someone would be able to track them down and if she was really worried about this then she could sign up again under a different name and never be seen on here again that this person would know it was her type thing .
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@GardenGerty (99203)
• United States
20 Jun 07
It is good to worry about others. I would just send her a pm if she is on your friends list. You are correct not to call attention to either of them by name in your discussion. On the other hand, they could be a couple, and respond back an forth that way on purpose. Even more interesting, I caught a cheater using two seperate identities to award himself best responses, etc. One identity he used was male, the other female. If you are really worried, try to track down some others on her friend list and see what they know.
@4cuteboys (4102)
• United States
20 Jun 07
I dont worry about myself, but I am SURE this happens more than we'd all like th think about. I would be worried. I worry about my online friends! Hopefully your friend is okay and it's nothing.
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@elisa812 (3033)
• United States
20 Jun 07
That is a little bit strange! I've never really paid close enough attention to those kinds of details on here to think much of it. I've never really though about it before I guess. Hopefully it's just a coincidence, but it is nice of you to worry for her like that! :)
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