Is distance Love affair for real?

@mtorbe (109)
Philippines
June 19, 2007 8:32pm CST
I don't know..but I haven't experienced this before. TExting someone that I don't even know. That I can't even see. We're like conversing every minute day by day.. Suddenly, we just felt like we are liking each other. And now,he's inlove with me and after a while, I just felt the same way too. Is this for real?
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@zhannel (21)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
I dont have any idea about it...and I also did not experience this things..If both of you were falling for each other by text..Why cant you meet at person?maybe if youl see and know each other, you dont know...that you are destined to be....but if your relationship relys on messaging...u r fooling yourself...u cant be inlove with someone you dont know at all...
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@mtorbe (109)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
we're actually planning to see each other soon my dear.. Hopefully he'll be okay by then. He'll be flying to the US to have his surgery this August. Actually, we're both from the Philippines but, we're about miles away from each other. I'm busy working almost everyday and unfortunately, we can't see each other for at least a day, because I have a family to support with. I mean, I'm a busy provider for my family (with brothers and sisters still studying in college). And he is still in the province doing his healing process.
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
I understand how you feel..of course!!If you think you are both inlove with each other..then pursue in meeting him..His illness /your family may be a barrier on your relationship but take it as a challenge..its good to have true success after jumping over the barriers...if you think you did help him in curing his sickness..then go ahead..its not a sin to fall inlove to someone you dont meet yet..i did say these words because I did put myself in your situation right now..its not easy to find someone to fall..
@donsky14 (5963)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
uhm personally, I don't really believe in this kind of thing. I mean, i can't fall in love with someone that I haven't seen yet. Cause for me, the person's presence is really important. So, I don't think that I'd ever fall for someone just through txt. Hey...why not meet up? ^__-
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• Philippines
20 Jun 07
Hey "presence" does not just mean physical, it also means thoughts.
@donsky14 (5963)
• Philippines
22 Jun 07
yeah...but FOR ME...the person's presence is really important.
• United States
20 Jun 07
Well I am only speaking from experience--my husband and I (and we have been married almost 8 years) met online in a chat room--American Singles Chat---in early 1999. This was the first time I was online. We talked in the chatroom for quite sometime and then went to using messenger programs. By early summer I just KNEW he was THE ONE for me. However this distance bothered me--we were 1064 miles apart. I was on the East Coast and he was almost to Texas. I thought that it would be impossible. I knew I wanted more with him than just a friendship and I felt like I was in love as did he. One day he just said that he was moving to where I was. He left from his home near Texas on Friday afternoon and arrived at my home 18 hours later. I haven't had a second thought since then either. We married a month after he arrived. And I would do it all again. So yes distance works and yes online romances work. You just need to go with your heart! If you would like to see more of our success story, we have our story listed on American Singles site www.americanaingles.com and just scroll down til you see 'success stories' and ours is #67 (Kitty and Michael). Good luck!
@mtorbe (109)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
Well, what can I say?!.. I'm quite overwhelmed with your story my dear.. I actually don't believe that there is such thing as endless Love or forever "true love"...etc.. But, what I know right now..is that, I'm happy doing things that will make him happier..atleast for now.. We're contented talking about ourselves and our future together. If its God's will, then why not try,right? If we're meant to be then, let be it. Time will tell and who knows if we're really meant for each other, right? I'm just hoping that he will be okay after his operation this coming august or september.. Hope that God will give the way for the both of us.
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@kodie420 (872)
• Canada
20 Jun 07
I would have to say how could it be real. You both dont know what each other looks like or anything. I can honestly say I have never had an experience like that before and I really cant tell you what to feel. Personally if it was me I would back off alittle before something crazy could happen.
@mtorbe (109)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
Honestly, I like him because he's fun to talk with and we have a common denominator... And we're calling each other everyday too. He's about 6 hours away from me and he is really sick..I mean, literally! Because he has a cancer. And I'm helping him to survive his loneliness my frend.
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@sandeep_t (428)
• India
20 Jun 07
I dont belive in this. Out of sight and out of mind. One may just think that they are in love even when they are apart but it is very untrue. I see many of my friends who say they no longer love after they have moved to some different place. When one moves away from their partner, they dont think much about them and thus coreespondence decreases and thus relationship breaks. But this isn't true to every one. But it happens to majority of us
@babostwick (2037)
• United States
20 Jun 07
I don't know if it is possible exactly without meeting up in person. I've never really heard of something like that or ever gave it much thought. There is nothing wrong with liking each other, good luck if it works out for you and that you 2 meet up in person for the 1st time.
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• Australia
16 Sep 08
No offense meant okay, if I were in your place and I haven't seen that person yet but met him in text, I think that I am having communication with a ghost that I have fallen in love with. Long distance affair is really hard, you have to meet the person and get to know him in flesh.
@digerati (287)
• Philippines
8 Jul 08
hi mtorbe, actually, it depends. but sure distance will affect the relationship and will make it harder to keep testing their faith, love and trust to each other... love truly, digerati
@elmiko (6640)
• United States
28 Apr 08
It reminds me of some type of movie. I can't remember the name. It might be you got mail. I don't believe in this non-sense. I guess it seems like a romantic way to fall in love for you and if it worked I would have to agree. I doubt it the odds.
• China
26 Apr 08
To be frank, i,ve told many negative opinions about distance love by my parents and teachers.But i myself think it is real. One of my classmates has met two boys on the Internet and both two are good guys. And now one of then has involved with her.They two are living happily.Maybe you would say such cases are rare, but it exists.I myself also have such experience,I believe distance love is real,but you should choose friend catiously!
• India
29 Mar 08
Hey! Congrats!! Distance has nothing to do with love! If both of you really feel for each other, IT IS FOR REAL!!!! All the best!
@alexigne (903)
• Philippines
24 Mar 08
Ask your self if you really know that he loves you... maybe you really fall in love with him but does he really love you??? Maybe yes maybe no...
@ajithlal (14568)
• India
18 Dec 07
I do not think the distance love can be very much real. I would suggest if you are in real love with him to meet him have a couple of coffe or go for dating and to understand each other before any commitment. During the time chatting was common in our place there came an saying "You don't know who you are chatting with. It can be a dog other end." It mean that the other side needed not be a human and can be an animal such as dog who just learned computer. Even though it is just a joke it really means that we cannot be sure what the charachter of the person, whether he/she is a fake, etc until we met the person. So I would suggest you to try to meet him before falling in love with him.
• China
18 Dec 07
Yeah, i think ! On the contrary, if he doesn't talk with you , do you feel upset? And you will think him ? Remember the ever datails that you met at some time ? I think you are falling in love , so don't wait , just take action and tell him your feeling , wish you happy!
@rsa101 (13336)
• Philippines
13 Dec 07
I think you might be experiencing false feeling that you love the guy. I still believe that the best way to experience a guy or girls is to meet them personally. That way you could know who he really is.
@rsa101 (13336)
• Philippines
26 Nov 07
For me it could be but most often it doesn't work. It is hard especially if the means of communications is a big obstacle in your relationship. But then I say sometimes it does work especially when you truly is in-love with each other then everythings possible.