filipina just marry foriegners for convenience; not love:

Philippines
June 20, 2007 12:45am CST
hi there!!! i just noticed that most filipina now a days marry foriegners,.. there are very young filipina which i think she is only 17-18 years old only who marries foriegners that is very old...do you think there is love between them? or they have both different intention with each other... but i'm not saying that all filipina who marries foriegner are all the same... some chosen an easy life.. some are true love.. I think it is always depend to a person...
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@yani85 (26)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
hello!! sadly there are those filipinas who Do.. but if a foriegner got married to an educated and well-breeded filipina, it would be love already, not money, cuz she has it...
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
AGREED:) like the rich Ruffa gutierez married a foriegner,Lea Salonga and how about Donita Rose etc.. it is love not money AYE!!!!
• Philippines
21 Jun 07
everybody has human rights!!! marry who you want to marry... love who you want to love.... i am not distinguishing a poor from rich i am just stating an example of a rich filipina which is the celebrity who don't need money to marry a foriegner for an easy life,coz they has it.... i am also not saying that all poor filipina who marry foriegners are only MONEY they after.... the celebrity i mentioned is only an example.... (hahahaha)don't be soo sensitive pls... relax... i'm not a bad guy who look down the poor (hahahaha)
@shen23 (126)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
hey there.. i am a filipina who is married to a foreigner.. i was 22 yrs old when i got married to my very dear husband. i marry my husband because i love him.. and not because of what he can give or what he could offer to me. i found real true love on him and i salute that. he make me feel, how important i am to his life, how he cares, make me happy, supported me in many special ways too, like financial, emotional, & spiritual support. i feel like a princess. i don't need to look for a job, as my husband can support my needs. compared being married to a filipino ??? just think what they could give ???? i assured that i really have a good life in his hands,.. and i think God for the blessings he gave me. foreigner husband are so loving, sincere and faithful.. and also, i have my younger sister got married to a British man, and they look so wonderful and loving. i am happy to see that my sister has a good life. so whatever people think about it, it's not our problem.. and we don't care about it.. so my friend, we got married to a foreigner in an early age it's because we're just inlove.. and so proud to show them of to people, as they are "GWAPO"
@abednego7 (1060)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
"compared being married to a filipino??? just think what they could give????" I'm hoping you are not referring all filipino cause if yes, then you are one of those actually discriminating her own kababayan and have a little respect on their fellow countrymen. Its like you are saying that we Filipino can't give something good to our wives. You said you found true love with your foreign husband, then I will quote your own phrase saying "i feel like a princess. i don't need to look for a job, as my husband can support my needs. compared being married to a filipino??? just think what they could give???? i assured that i really have a good life in his hands," I think with that words coming out from your own mouth shows that you found what you is the meaning of TRUE LOVE in your own dictionary.
@nioj22 (29)
• United States
21 Jun 07
You are right about one thing..but you're not the only lady married to one..you don't need to brag about the life you have w/ your foreigner husband.. there are also filipino guys who can provide well on their family..the one who have ambition in life and responsible it might not as good as what you're husband gets coz we can't compare euro or dollar to peso right?
• Philippines
21 Jun 07
true to many of YOU UP there!!!! JUST DO THE RIGHT THING AND MARRY FOR THE RIGHT REASON AND THAT REASON IS LOVE NOT MONEY!!! whaterver nationality it is.... thanks for all the response!!AYE!!!
@nnsb75 (632)
• United States
21 Jun 07
hello there! im a filipina and ive been married to american guy for over 4 years, just to give you an example that not all filipina are the same, i did not marry my husband for convenience, i marry him because i love him and i wanna be with him for the rest of my life, but i do agree that some couple have a very big age gap with each other but i think you shouldn't judge the book by its cover.
@yani85 (26)
• Philippines
21 Jun 07
hi there!!!!.... about the age gap, i agree that we shouldn't judge the book by its cover and also age doesn't matter...... now here's the fact: many filipinas choose to marry foriegner so that they could help in their family, Most filipino families expect that when they marry this so- called "rich foriegner", they'll elevate in their living standards. Now What do think that are INSIDE THE HEADS of SOME filipinas who marry an OLDER man twice their age? "nnsb" u can answer if you like!!!!! (HAHAHAHA) question and answer portion!!!! it's fun...
@yani85 (26)
• Philippines
21 Jun 07
oh yeah...!!! that's awesome if it is love what your feeli'n why bother? age doesn't matter every individual are diffirent.!!! you choose love not money well that's good
@yani85 (26)
• Philippines
21 Jun 07
HEAVEN: is when you have a German Car, Amirecan Salary, Chinese food and a Filipino wife..... HELL: is when you have chinese car, German food, American wife and a Filipino Salary.... hahahahahaha
@yani85 (26)
• Philippines
21 Jun 07
funny, but true (hehehehe)
@nnsb75 (632)
• United States
21 Jun 07
so my husband is in heaven coz he had a german car, american salary and yes he love chinese food and hes married to a filipina wife haha!
@d00d00 (827)
• Hong Kong
20 Jun 07
sad to say, but i think most filipinas do marry foreigners for the sake of getting a green card. for a hope of having a better life. i do not blame them though. in fact, i think what they are doing is a sacrifice, usually for their families. I think there is nothing wrong with it, seeing that these foreigners are also looking for someone to take care of them. Most of whom, who marry Filipinas are in their late 40's, 50's, 60's even. I guess, they are just helping each other. They give each other companionship, and in return, the foreigner can help out. but there are a few, very few in fact, which starts on love. I hope that most would. Then it would be a better story. =D
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
yes!!! i do agree with you... both of them are benefited to one another foriegners: need somebody who cares with.. filipinas: hoping for better life and for families BUT AS WHAT I SAID; IT DEPENDS TO THE PERSON... SOME REASON FOR CONVENIENCE SOME ARE TRUE LOVE
@nioj22 (29)
• United States
21 Jun 07
Don't generalize all the filipina that marries foreigner, its not that they are forcing themselves to marry one..it takes 2 to be in a relationship..there has to be a mutual feelings involve.. i marry my husband who is american because i choose and like him not because of a life in the states or whatever i won't ever replace philippines, it is because i choose to be with him because there is love...there might be a big advantage being in the states but still if there's no love in a relationship on 2 people living together which has different culture is like hell...
@paulsy (1264)
• Philippines
22 Jun 07
Hello! What a discussion title! "Filipina just marry foreigners for convennience; not love:" Being a Filipino yourself, do you think it's fair to our kababayans that YOU, a FILIPINO, begin a discussion that makes foreigners judge us negatively just like that? Amazing! A Filipina doesn't have to marry a foreigner if she wanted money. There are rich FILIPINOS too, in case you didn't know. Why do I get the impression that you've been ditched for a wealthy foreigner? Anyway, I"m a Filipina and I'm about to be married to an American. He's not old. He's 2 years older than I am and we both belong to educated and financially ABLE and STABLE families. We're happy together, we're crazy about each other, and we can't seem to live without each other. I think this is love... what do YOU think, KABAYAN?
• Philippines
22 Jun 07
nice one paulsy :) i really don't understand why some of our kababayans are making a big issue out of interracial relationship/marriages. anyway, congratulations on your upcoming wedding...stay happy together and God bless always.
@maybey (366)
• Philippines
21 Jun 07
Please give specific tittle. I'm a Filipina. i'm sad to say yeah have flipina getting married to the foriegner to have a better life because i think in our economy....But maybe their have feelings too..not for the finacial...
• Philippines
21 Jun 07
hi maybey!!!! about the TITLE, i didn't mean to hurt you my fellow filipino specially pinay i loved u all!!!! and if you read my discussion letter, i don't generalize at all.... and the title state FILIPINA not FILIPINAS which means SOME FILIPINAS not all, it is singular... sorry if it hurts thanks god bless!!!
@orbeltadz (506)
• Baguio, Philippines
20 Jun 07
You should not blame them, both parties are entitled to this. Western guys also has a part of this scenario of the reason why they fall in love with a Filipina. Filipinas has everything the western guy wants. TLC (Tender, Love and Care), instead you should be proud of them. This will not happen if Western people don't accepts Filipina as their lawful wife. Love conquers all races.
25 Nov 12
I am Filipino Chinese married to American. We're about the SAME AGE. My husband married me first before I gave up my virginity to him. We were broke, no house and no job long time ago back in Indiana but we survived and we are still happy together. We are both crazy in love! My husband is my FIRST, one and only in this world.
• Philippines
28 Mar 13
I must admit I know some girls who are looking for foreigners to be their partners. They do not care whether the guy is older or younger, they do not care whether the guy is good looking or not but as long as the guy is a foreigner then they will be fine. These girls are just after the money and the possibility of them going abroad. It's a way for them to escape poverty. But not all Filipinas who are married to foreigners have the same intention. Some are really love.
@lady1993 (18484)
• Philippines
13 Feb 13
YEs,definitely.. Especially if the Filipina is very young and she is dating a really old guy.. I think it is most probably just because of money. I kind of pity them, but maybe they are happy. i do not know anyone like that though.
23 Nov 12
I am Filipino Chinese married to American. I married my husband for LOVE. We're about the same age. We were broke, no house and job long time ago but we survived and We are both happy together. My husband is my FIRST man, one and only in this world.
• Philippines
20 Nov 10
It is ot fair to the filipina tho' it mostly happened to some filipina ladies, but in the case of a foreigner of legal age wants to marry an older filipina and dont mind 1o years age gap, for he was so inlove to the pinay has also to be considered.
@shemah (841)
• Malaysia
23 Jun 07
Well, when it comes down to marriage, only they will know their reason, and whatever reasons that they have, shouldn't be judged. The world is becoming a smaller place. Inter-racial marriages are becoming more common in asian countries and i believe there's nothing wrong with that. It doesn't really happen only in the phillippines.. i think in malaysia, it's happening alot too.. :)
@myahw20 (1116)
• Canada
23 Jun 07
probably some does...but let's not generalize... personally i wouldn't marry a foreigner or anyone just for money...
@gigarange (1165)
• United States
23 Jun 07
I would say each individual has their reasons that only them know. I have to agree with you that some marry because of love and some marry without it (love). But everyone, Filipino or not has these same two reasons. It's really hard to tell. So I would say, it's a case to case basis.
@mcjeannie (704)
• Philippines
22 Jun 07
I am happily engaged to my hubby who is an American. We've known each other in person, not in the internet. I worked with tertiary hospitals and speciality clinic in the Middle East like National Guard Hospital and King Faisal Specialist Hosp. and Research Centre to name a few.And he worked in the My fiance is cool and loving partner. He loves the Philippines.Infact he got a first hand experience of life here in the Phils. and let him ride in a jeep, pedicab, banca and tricycle,I brought him to our historical site where he'd seen the beauty of our history and culture. He said, its unique here. He loves the politeness, hospitality and our fun loving persona of Filipinos in all walks of life poor, rich tricycle driver, the barker, the famous actors and actresses...Blah...blah..blah...as Filipinos as is.. Best of all, he loves me and I love him too...Not because of his nationality or you may say the flag of his famous country he is representing... So who wants GREEN CARD vs. Happiness?What matters is this..people marry because of LOVE...Otherwise this world had stopped functioning without it, even you HERNANI! And hey,If you are still here and my fiance and I will wed, you be the JUDGE...I will invite YOU to our WEDDING! Now, all Pinoys, I think we have to work hard bringing back the tarnished dignity of our race in this website...Hmmnn there's a lot for a dignified Filipino to share here...
@mjsg2468 (44)
• Philippines
22 Jun 07
this is so sad. why do we have to come up with comments like this that put down our own people? no one has the right to question the intention of any person who enters into a relationship regardless of their ethnicity or nationality. it's their life...it's their choice. whether it is a good choice or not is really not our business.
@pinks0da (328)
• Philippines
22 Jun 07
This discussion is getting hotter! LoL! Well, here's my thought on this matter. First, I am a Filipina and I am not married to a foreigner and fortunately my Filipino husband is giving me a good life (we are both working). While I believe that there are Filipinas who married men from another countries because of love, I'm afraid I have to agree as well that there are many Filipino women who married men from abroad for convenience, with the hope of helping themselves and their families elevate from poverty. I am saying this because I use to go to this one Internet cafe before and there are women who regularly go there to chat some can even barely speak english eloquently, not just 1 2 or 3 but group of women, i don't know if they are friends or they just became acquainted there. And I hear them talk about their foreign men, most of them are maintaining not one but 2 or 3 because they want to be sure that they really get to where they want to be. I don't think that's love... As to Filipinas marrying foreigners half their age, personally I believe age won't matter, as long as there is mutual love and respect present, one marriage will never go wrong, no cultural differences will destroy it. It's just sad that there are many Filipina women waiving their rights to be happy in exchange of going abroad or a good life (that's with no assurance). I admire Filipino women who are smart enough to choose a man base on their feelings not base on their worldly material urges. I noticed also that the "pinay-foreigner" marriage is stepping up because most foreigners are marrying educated and professional filipina women. Whether we admit it or not, people tend to be very judgmental and filipinos are ridiculed by some foreigners because of those "phony marriages" that they see and they tend to generalize us. I am always happy to see successful marriages between a filipina and a foreigner because we are proving some people wrong. Before anybody gets me wrong, I have nothing against Filipina women who are marrying foreigners for love, but I am saddened by those who married foreigners waiving their rights to be happy as a woman.
@butterfly39 (3907)
• Philippines
21 Jun 07
Maybe some are not, one thing for sure is they want to marry old and rich foreigners for they can help their families. But I have a friend getting married next month. She met the guy on the net and she was sent to school throught they guy's support. The nice thing about it is they both in love and they both worked hard for the relationship.
• Guam
21 Jun 07
Yes, I live in a place where I see a lot of that happening. I had a nanny and she was not one of those. She told me that her cousins all do it because back home life is hard. If they can find an easier way to live their only life they'll grasp it. I don't blame them. LIfe is getting harder for us too. However, I still am traditional when it comes to love. I think you should only marry because you love them...not for green card so you can transport your whole family out of the philipines.