This parent did the right thing!

@TriciaW (2442)
United States
June 20, 2007 5:53am CST
My daughter as many here knows has dwarfism and when she plays softball many parents without thinking make comments about her size and guessing her age. I am usually around when they do it because they just don't think before they talk. Last night instead of whispering and gossiping a woman came up to our group of parents and said "Can I ask how old that little girl is?" The funny thing was I was paying attention to my daughter and not this woman but another mother in our group answered her and explained that she is little but that she is the same age as the other girls. She told the woman she has dwarfism. It wasn't until the mother beside me started telling the woman that I realized they were talking about my daughter. I really didn't have to say anything so just smiled and said yes she is 12. I was pleased that the woman came up and asked instead of whispering and making comments on her size. I was also pleased that the mother on our team was comfortable enough to answer for me since I was busy watching my daughter. She did say afterwards I hope that was ok to answer her. I said of course it was you know my daughter I think it was great of you to answer her. It was just a nice moment when you are so used to the other happening.
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@deebomb (15347)
• United States
20 Jun 07
That situation was handled very nicely by both women. It's always easier to handle situations when they are out in the open like that. Wouldn't it be great if every one was a thoughtful.
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@Theresam (1181)
• United States
21 Jun 07
It sounds like that mom did a super job in answering for you!
@Rtlsnk316 (1197)
• Mexico
21 Jun 07
It was very proper of the first lady to ask as normal as possible and for the second lady to answer as normally as it should be. And best handled by you Tricia since you noticed that people around you are handling it the correct way without you having to hear whispering from them. Best wishes
• Canada
20 Jun 07
It's great when something like that happens. My daughter started school early because she has hearing aids and the therapist said she was behind other kids developmentally and they wanted her to have a head start. She wore her hearing aids to school, and though the kids took to her right away and looked out for her, I did hear the other parents whispering about the fact that she wore hearing aids. It was almost like a taboo subject or something. Most times I bit my tongue, but then it got to the point where I couldn't stand it anymore. One afternoon, we were stood outdoors waiting to go in, my daughter was playing with her friends and as usual, the mothers were stood around in groups chatting. I quite clearly heard one mom mention "The girl with the hearing aids over there" and when I turned she was pointing at my daughter. I walked up to her, tapped her on the shoulder and said "In future, if you have any questions or anything to say about my daughter and the fact that she wears hearing aids, I would much prefer it if you came to ME, instead of gossiping about her with your friends." She turned beet red and struggled for an answer. I walked past her, grabbed my daughters hand, and with my head held high, I walked into school for my daughters afternoon class. I HATE those people who don't bother to find out WHY some children have to wear hearing aids, or why some children are smaller than others. They don't seem to realize that their gossiping actually hurts.
@makingpots (11928)
• United States
20 Jun 07
Yes, both women did the right thing. And good of you to tell your friend what it meant to you that she did. Thanks for sharing an uplifting story with us.
@AmbiePam (46434)
• United States
20 Jun 07
That must have felt good. Instead of having to post a defense your daughter shouldn't need, it was just nice to have someone answer causually and the other parent to have a receptive outlook. If only you didn't have to be vigilant in making sure your daughter doesn't have to deal with rude comments.
@Thoroughrob (11771)
• United States
20 Jun 07
Yes, she did. I would much rather have people ask about my son instead of standing around whispering. He is 12, and has CP. The adults are usually the hardest to make comfortable with the situation. They are all just kids and it is nice when someone else is comfortable enough with it to explain to those who are not.
@Blazing15 (333)
• United States
20 Jun 07
That is great. I'm glad she came up and asked instead of being one of the people that starts talking behind you back. Glad she had the courage. I know that a lot of people ask questions when they see someone with dwarfism and they wonder how old they are and most people are scarred to ask so they just start talking. Glad she came up and asked.