How do you deal with self pity?

@kkaren (146)
Philippines
June 20, 2007 7:00am CST
I think every human being comes to a point in their lives when they'd doubt their own selves and just wallow in self pity.
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@raijin (10373)
• Philippines
21 Jun 07
It's negative thoughts that makes people feel pity for themselves, but we cannot say that it's that person's fault. I believe that everything that is happening to us has their every meaning, and that all our goals are set to aim for a better life to live at. I sometimes indulge myself in work, try to get busy to cover whatever doubt's or problem I have in my mind. We have friends, that's one good reason to vent some of our miseries. I also tend to drink and party at times, until I have overcome the pain I feel from that moment on.
@kkaren (146)
• Philippines
22 Jun 07
I always say that what matters in the end are the lessons we've learned along the way. And I stand by that. I think that in spite of the advices and stories we hear from other people, we really don't learn unless it happened to us. You know what I mean? I think it calls for a different topic.hehe That's why I really value the relationships I have with my family and friends. I know that they will always be there to help me face each day, no matter how hard things can be.
@tuscon (48)
• United States
21 Jun 07
I have been there and done that many times. It is not worht it. I have found the best way to get out of that slump is to talk with others who have even worse problems than you do. Read about some of the ban things happening to people around the world. After you have seen what others are suffering with then you will be glad you have the life that you have. Self pity is one of the leading killers. I have been raped repeatedly by my father, beaten repeatedly by him. But I have grown up and gotten past all those bad childhood days and nights. That is all past me now and I have a family of my own. I want my family to know what I have been through. But I do not want any pity from them. No matter what you have been through you ARE worthy.
@kkaren (146)
• Philippines
21 Jun 07
oh shucks! I'm sorry to hear about what happened to you in the past. You have my admiration, and not my pity for having gone through such ordeal. I'm glad you have left it all behind and moved on. Thanks for sharing.
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21 Jun 07
Get over it, be confident in yourself. You half to take risks or nothing will happen to you. You have to take the good and the bad. If there is no bad, then there would be no good.
@kkaren (146)
• Philippines
21 Jun 07
right! everything is in balance. bad things happen for the good.
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@jenius (131)
• United States
21 Jun 07
I like most have had times where I felt self pity. What I do is think about how much worse off others are than me. It is easy to look around and find/see people who have it much worse than myself. I may have illness to deal with but it's not terminal. Having a good cry is one thing but wallowing in self pity is such a waste of time and energy...it solves nothing.
@kkaren (146)
• Philippines
21 Jun 07
that's right. it is a waste of time, but i think one way or another one goes through that in order to be stronger. ironic isn't it? they say that when one hits rock bottom, there's no other way to go but up. i agree, crying helps. but dwelling on the problem will not. i think the best way to get through a crisis is to count your blessings. you are right about comparing yourself with somebody else's predicament that's worse than our own. what would really help us is to help others.
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