when your significant other tries to talk you out of something

@stacyv81 (5906)
United States
June 20, 2007 11:16am CST
So, I used to sell Avon..I wanted to take it back up again, My guy, however, is trying to say it isnt worth it. It only costs $10 to start...I want to do it, but he is trying to talk me out of it...What would you do? Would you still do it? I think I am going to.
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@maddysmommy (16243)
• United States
20 Jun 07
It all depends on the reasons WHY he doesn't want you to do it. Is it because of the start up costs, the work involved in selling the products? In the end it probably would be your decision since it would be you fully supporting it and it will mean a lot of work on your part. I would listen to his reasons first and if you still have doubt then probably rethink it, if not then go for it. As long as he understands the reasons why you want to take it up again :0)
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@stacyv81 (5906)
• United States
20 Jun 07
well, it is because he says the stuff they sell is crap and he said that he didnt think it was worth it.
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@maddysmommy (16243)
• United States
20 Jun 07
Well not a good enough reason in my book so if you think you can do it all over again, go for it. :)
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@kodie420 (872)
• Canada
20 Jun 07
Well I can only suggest what you can do and thats go ahead with it. Me and my girlfriend went through this last year with the exact samething. I tryed and tryed because everyone I ever knew that did it either got screwed over by their orders from customers or they messed up. Im not by any means saying this will happen to you but this is the way your significant other is looking at it. Also some people do really good with Avon but thats a full time job in itself. Anyways when me and my girlfriend talked about it those where all my points but she went ahead and did it anyways and surprise surprise we got screwed over with acouple of big cheques at christmas time from people we never figured would rip us off but oh well shes her own person and doesnt need my approval for anything. Anyways good luck in your Avon!
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@stacyv81 (5906)
• United States
21 Jun 07
Yes, that I can understand, but since you do not pay until the order comes in, you can always send it back if they do not pay, I had to do that once, I always gave them a week to pay and if they didnt off it went. I also had some loyal customers that would buy every week, Christmas was my big seller, people I know would rather shop from a catalog than a store for christmas. IT also helped me out, because I do not make money any other way except mylot and it gave me the chance to buy presents for my guy and my kids =)
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@Marie2473 (8523)
• Sweden
20 Jun 07
If it´s onlu $10 then it can not be because of the money so what is his reason for not wanting you to do this. If he has none - I would definately do it!
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@shannon76 (1234)
• United States
21 Aug 07
Well, what are his reasons for not wanting you to do it? Why did you quit in the first place? I wouldn't still do it because if my hubsand didn't want me to do it and I still did it then it would cause ill feelings between us and I wouldn't want that. Also, he is the head of our household and it is ultimatly his decision.
@lols189 (4798)
21 Aug 07
yes i think you should still do it if you want to. i dont let anyone talk me out of doing anything that i want to. i make my own decisions and i will stick to them
• United States
4 Jul 07
I know. I use to sell Avon and just started again in April. My husband did not want me to do it again. I talked him into it. I hope that you get to.
@TriciaW (2442)
• United States
30 Jun 07
After reading your response to people I can really see how much you loved doing it. Maybe he is just worried it will take time away from him and that is selfish on his part. I can tell you I just started this week and my family is really excited about it. I can tell you that I have used it for years and don't think it is crap at all which I can tell you don't either. I would do it personally. In time he will see that you are going to give of time for him and all will be fine. $10 will never be missed but the extra money will be noticed. Go for it and explain to him you understand his feelings and that if he still feels that way after a couple of months of doing it you will revisit the issue. Good luck!!!
@mgmagana (3621)
• United States
28 Jun 07
well if it was worth it to u since u've done it before, then i don't see why it would hurt u! my hubby tried to talk me out of getting a second dog, but i love dogs! so i did against his will and he got used to it! well good luck with the avon thing ♥
• Singapore
28 Jun 07
well, i think that Avon products are good, i'm currently using Avon product too. Talk to him, and tell him that you really want to do it, compromise by giving yourself a goal to achieve within a time frame...if you hit the goal, he will have no reason to stop you. If you can't make it, then stop doing it. whatever it is, do whatever you feel that you wanna do...don't live to keep on questioning yourself with 'What if?'
@aj2006 (1536)
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
I think I would pursue what I want as long as I know that I am not commiting any mistakes that can harm my family or marriage.. I am proud to say that my husband is a supportive type, he know that I just want to help in our financial needs. I am with Mary Kay Cosmetics.. I only do it part time but it's worth a lot to me and my husband.. We talk about it and I ask advice from him as well..
@laltu86 (1253)
• India
28 Jun 07
I always belive in my instincts and beliefs and if i decide on something no one in this world can change my decission , ok i will surely listen to what the other has to say then test for the validity of the statement produced by him and if and only if i find a satisfactory result then only i would change my decission .
@Lydia1901 (16354)
• United States
26 Jun 07
My husband does all the time but he does not always success in that. If I believe strongely in what I want to do, I go for it regardless of what he says or thinks.