Arggh! Ticked Off and Annoyed!

Image of an annoyed cat - annoyed image of a cat
@pyewacket (43962)
United States
June 20, 2007 8:48pm CST
I had done a discussion about the potential dangers that paper shredders could create unsuspectingly to people who also have pets....I also e-mailed a lot of my friends who I know have pets who may have paper shredders as well. So here I am thinking I'm doing a good deed in warning folks, and one of my e-mail "pals"--and no..no one from here replied to me"Thanks for thinking of us, but I don't want these kind of e-mails"Well EXCUSE ME!!! This isn't the first time she has given me some kind of reply to me like this...and honestly thinking of just plain dropping her as a "pal"I mean was I wrong? I was trying to alert my friends about this issue, then to get this kind of reply?? Have any of you ever done an e-mail to someone about some important information that maybe the person would like to know about only to get a really annoyingly frustrating reply e-mail from the person??And as a by the way....she has pets AND a paper shredder!!
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38 responses
@razcal2267 (15577)
• United States
21 Jun 07
Well, excuse them! I know that there are some that do not want emails no matter what but sheesh at least read it and see why you are getting the email. It was not like you were sending a referral link. I could totally understand someone getting bent out of shape when receiving one of those but not about the information that you were sharing. I do not own a cat or any pets but was very glad to read your discussion so that I could pass on the information to those that I know that do own pets.
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
21 Jun 07
I think mainly it's because she doesn't like to get any kind of "negative" news about anything...She once told me how sensitive she was...Well, yikes I'm sensitive to things too, but I don't wrap myself in a cocoon and try to pretend bad news doesn't exist..and this case I was trying to be helpful
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@razcal2267 (15577)
• United States
21 Jun 07
Bad news is part of life. I would think that you would want to hear about the bad news so you could prevent it from happening in your own home but it seems I would assume wrong.
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@LittleMel (14059)
• Canada
21 Jun 07
exactly what kind of emails did they think those are, anyway? what a weird reply. No I never did, but I only email close friends about important issues, casual friends and acquaintances I don't email them much. It's not that I don't care about them, I just had enough bad experiences in the past I become selective. As you can see it yourself now, not all of them appreciate your intentions.
@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
21 Jun 07
To quote you: "....not all of them appreciate your intentions." Alas, Oh how true...Some of the e-mails I had sent her were forwards from other friends, who maybe passed along some silly jokes or something...she doesn't appreciate them either
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• United States
21 Jun 07
I appreciated the email, even though I don't have a paper shredder at home, it is a good warning to people like me who wouldn't really think about things like that happening. And, really, all she had to do was delete it if it was not something she was interested in reading! I am sorry that this happened to you, I think I might just delete her from your pals list, but that is just me. I have never had a problem with the emails that I send to friends.
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
21 Jun 07
Well--I thought she was a friend..guess not
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@Thoroughrob (11771)
• United States
21 Jun 07
I think I would just drop her a a pal or only send her emails that you send her personally. I can't imagine getting a reply like that.
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
21 Jun 07
Thing is, this was a personal e-mail to her..
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• United States
21 Jun 07
People like that really irk me. You try to give them some helpful advice and they act like jerks. I haven't had any problems like that but I do know of a pal of mine years past who who really had her feelings hurt by trying to send warnings of the dangers of leaving cleaners around with children in the house
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
21 Jun 07
So like me your pal was just being helpful---and you're right...people like my "pal" are jerks
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@sigma77 (5385)
• United States
21 Jun 07
I might get emails from time to time that I really don't have an interest in, but I would not tell someone not to send them. I haven't had anyone complain about the emails I have sent. But it isn't like I send a whole lot of them anyway. I can see your point. All she had to do was delete it if it didn't interest her.
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
21 Jun 07
Well she sent a few other e-mails to me that she said she wasn't interested in, like forwards of jokes, or nice photos sent to me, I stopped sending her anything for a long time until now..was just being helpful there--so much for being helpful..right?
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• United States
21 Jun 07
Does this person have pets of any kind? I'm thinking that a good reply is like you said, "Well - excuse me" & then follow that with, "Don't come crying to me if your doggie or cat gets harmed by your paper shredder."
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
21 Jun 07
Yes..she has a lot of cats...my reply to her was short and simple "Was just trying to be helpful to people...sorry if this thing bothers you"
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• United States
22 Jun 07
Oh dear, those poor pets that have her as their owner. She obviously doesn't have a deep love and concern for them, as you do, and us. I appreciate any hints of saftey for our loving furry kids. I post many myself. One like yours too, sorry again. I always want these critters safe. She doesn't seem like much of a pal. When you are cooled off, then decide what to do, not when you are upset. Please post more about animal care. We all need more knowledge. God bless you, M&M
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
23 Jun 07
Thank you margieaneart---I would love to do an up-date of the recent contamination of pet food as they had found acetaminophen in some..but the government has been hushed as to which food
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• United States
23 Jun 07
I wish you would and could. My sister lost one cat, and almost the other one. It was so sad. God bless you sweetie. Keepp up the great posts. Since we both are such animal lovers, I will have to check your posts before I post. Huggers, M&M
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
22 Jun 07
Well Sweetie I know who you are on about as she sent me one by Accident and when I wrote to her and asked her what she was on about that I didn't send her the Mail she replied back to me that it was not for me she had made a mistake but that it was for you So I think I would just not send her anything anymre as I thought she was very rude
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
23 Jun 07
Wow--gabs...that's news to me...sorry she sent something to you...don't worry I won't send anything else to her
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
23 Jun 07
Hey don't worry about it lol she sent it by mistake it was one of the Emails I sent you and you must have sent it to her lol I had to laugh, it was the Horoscope one lol I will forward you it I had to laugh as I have to say well I better not say lololol
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@rowantree (1190)
• United States
23 Jun 07
That's terrible. Anytime you come across something that can harm someone and pass it on, I don't care if you've read it a million times, you should never respond the way that person did to you. My personal pet peeve is the evil email circulating about the cold medicine. Keep in mind that the recall happened over 5 years ago, yet the email still goes around and people who I thought were somewhat intelligent actually send it to me again and again and again. Now I could email them back and give them the real facts, but instead I just delete and move on. No big deal. You certainly shouldn't be mean about it and in your case, you're giving out information that is new, at least to me it is. Anytime someone sends you something that you didn't know about, you should respond with a THANK YOU instead of a thanks but no thanks. It's called having an open mind and learning about your world! Sorry this happened to you!
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
23 Jun 07
She also added in her e-mail that it doesn't take a Ph.D to figure out the dangers--well, gee excuse me again...a lot of people probably didn't realize the dangers
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@charms88 (7546)
• Philippines
22 Jun 07
Hi black cat. Seems like you need some of my special carrots to chill out your head. Whoever that person is, never mind her. I remember when I was starting as a newbie, I always PM all the friends who requested to be my list. I sincerely appreciate the gesture. Sadly, only one replied back and I was left feeling foolish for being so friendly with anyone. I stopped sending PM from that time on. No need wasting my effort.
@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
23 Jun 07
That's a shame charms...there's always one who spoils things with our kind gestures..and yes..I'll take some of those special carrots..hehhe
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@MsTickle (25014)
• Australia
22 Jun 07
How rude! I don't have a paper shredder, but the possibility of accquiring one is high. I think my friend has one as well as several indoor cats so I passed the info on to her. I can't see what this person's problem is. It was obviously a thoughtful, caring, friendly thing to do. I'd be using the delete button I reckon.
@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
23 Jun 07
Well thank goodness I don't really need a shredder..shred things the old fashioned way..my bare hands...LOL
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@byfaithonly (10716)
• United States
22 Jun 07
I think I would have dropped that 'pal' after the first such response. I mean if they don't appreciate something that is helpful and informative then it's their loss and I certainly feel sorry for their pets.
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
23 Jun 07
Believe me--I am dropping her--don't want to be kicked in the face again like that
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@4cuteboys (4103)
• United States
22 Jun 07
Wow! That is pretty annoying of her! I wouldn't be pleased at all with that. Maybe ask her why she does that? If she cant give you a good answer or at least apologize, then I would drop her. Shredders are dangerous, for pets and little kids!! I like warnings like that. Not everyone thinks of it.
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
23 Jun 07
Well she certainly hasn't apologized that's for sure
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@trk918 (255)
• United States
21 Jun 07
She obviously doesn't want that kind of information so I would not send her anything anymore. I have pets, children & a paper shredder. The shredder is unplugged until I use it.
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
22 Jun 07
I'm glad you keep the paper shredder off..
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• Pakistan
21 Jun 07
well people dont really read mails consider they are junk and sort of useless ... well but when it comes to warning and alertness ya they should view the mail carefully and see what advantage the mail can give ... i also have experienced this type of thing
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
21 Jun 07
I've known this person for more than two years, so this was hardly "junk" mail
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@susieq223 (3742)
• United States
21 Jun 07
Love that image of an annoyed cat! It's perfect! Interesting friend you have there, especially since it isn't the first time you have gotten a similar reply. Plus, I'm not sure what kind of emails she means--informative? warning? what. If she is a good friend ask her what kind of emails she wants. If she isn't that good of a friend, then drop her off your email list.
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
21 Jun 07
Seems she just doesn't want to read anything negative...in my response to dcroomb's reply you'll see my farewell e-mail to her...and yes, thought that picture of the annoyed kitty was purrfect--LOL
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@shelagh77 (3643)
21 Jun 07
Only one thing to do with that sort of friend - take her out of your address book. Heaven knows why she has turned so nasty, but if she reported you as spamming you could have a lot of aggravation explaining why you were not etc and it could affect your mail account, so leave her to sulk in her own stew and keep mailing your friends and myloters who ARE grateful for this type of information. hugs
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
21 Jun 07
Yes, I do plan to take her out of my address book...I also did a final farewell e-mail to her
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@dcroome2005 (1211)
• United States
21 Jun 07
Well then f- her. She doesn't need to be warned about things anymore. You were doing a great deed in helping warn your friends of a potential danger. I can't believe how rude that can be. I can understand if she didn't like friendship spam chain letter thingies, but come on, what you sent out should have been ok. Need new friends that won't treat ya like that. (((HUGS)))
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
21 Jun 07
Thank you dcroom...that's why I thought it was okay to send my e-mail to her..I hadn't done so in a long time...she doesn't like forwarded messages....even if they are funny jokes...so it's been months since I did e-mail her...Oh--news flash I just did a last e-mail to her...wasn't nasty but did wish her well and hoped she finds happiness. Here's my e-mail to her: "When I sent you that e-mail, I was only trying to be helpful...I actually did a discussion topic at a forum about the dangers of paper shredders and many thanked me for the info as it never occurred to them of the hidden dangers. I hadn't e-mailed you in a long time, and didn't even bother telling you of all the difficulties I had during the month of May, which was that I had been terminated of my SSI Disability benefits and all I had to go through to get them back...I knew you wouldn't be interested in reading it since you don't seem to like reading negative news from me. I realize you have had your problems in life as well...we all have...some more than others...but to hide away from anything negative in life is not an answer...I really feel sorry for you since you seem to be bothered by so many things..I'm bothered too...but I don't hide my head in the sand and wrap myself in a bubble trying to pretend hardships, problems or anything negative don't exist--that's not how to live life. I'm sorry if my e-mails upset you...I thought you were a friend and often wanted to share news of what was going on in my life..the good and the bad...so often I refrained from doing so since you don't seem interested in getting my e-mails--so if you never want to get e-mails again from me...fine...I'll understand...I've had enough though of very sensitive people who want to live in a cocoon --I had to deal with that with my own mother So take care of yourself and I hope you find happiness somehow..." So how's that?? LOL Not nasty..but to the point
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@claudia413 (4284)
• United States
21 Jun 07
It takes all kinds, and I would NOT send her any emails in the future. Let her insulate herself from the real world if she wants...it's not going to change anything. The only times I ask my friends NOT to send me anything in an email is if it's a referral to a money-making site (not interested) or if I'm going to be away for more than a day. Oh, there is one other time, and that's if someone else that they know has already sent me the info. It doesn't take long to look and see if it's already been sent to me. LOL. I have one friend who insisted on sending me long and big emails that another friend had sent me at the same time they sent it to her. I asked her not to send any to me from that person as she was already sending them to me directly. It worked for a while, but she's back at it again. So, now I just delete them when they come in. It's aggravating to me, but I don't want to cause any problems in our relationship. I just wish she'd remember not to send them to me. LOL.
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
21 Jun 07
To quote you...."Let her insulate herself from the real world if she wants" That's a good one....somehow this woman doesn't want to live in the real world--well so be it
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