Does your husband do this too?

United States
June 21, 2007 3:36pm CST
So, today was stock up day at the Walmart for essentials like toilet paper, paper towels, cat litter, pork, chicken etc. We do our stock up about once a month, and that saves lots of money. So, half way through writing up the grocery list, my husband tried to put his own two cents worth into the conversation. By the time we were finished there were four pages of stuff that we just couldn't live without. Most of the stuff I couldn't even afford. And, what should have been an affordable shopping trip started turning into a money nightmare. And, he kept pointing out things that maybe I should put on the grocery list, just in case. And, I was like, "No, we don't need that." or "I've already got one of those!" Just let me write my list, man! I've been doing this for years. I think I know what I'm doing. It drove me nuts. But, at least he's trying to get more involved in household matters. His hearts in the right place, so that's what counts. Does your partner or spouse try to get involved in the grocery shopping so that you end up spending way more money than you actually should?
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@Cassy1976 (796)
• Australia
21 Jun 07
No my partner doesnt get involved in the shopping any more, I once took him shopping and it cost me an extra $150! Never again, he just puts things in the trolley that we dont need and that he wants! I am quite happy to go and do the groceries myself as I know what I want and I can just go in get everything and be out quickly
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• United States
22 Jun 07
You see, I knew it wasn't just me. This is the reason I don't take my three year old daughter grocery shopping. Or, I'd end up with $100 in cookies and cola!
@makingpots (11922)
• United States
22 Jun 07
You are so right, his heart is in the right place and that does count for a lot. I have friends whose husbands couldn't be bothered with helping them at all with stuff like that. In my case, my husband gets involved in order to save us money. He has a knack for finding deals and catching good sales while looking in the newspaper. I am more above convience and just getting it done. When we work together we benefit from it a lot.
@makingpots (11922)
• United States
22 Jun 07
oops typo... I am more 'about' convenience
@KissThis (3006)
• United States
22 Jun 07
My fiancee use to always bug me about the shopping when we first moved n together. He would go to the store with me to do the shopping. I noticed that my shopping bill was always higher when he went with me. I decided to point this out to him. I explained to him that if he wanted I would show him how to shop to save money. It took a little time but now he understands that if he shops my way we can save a lot.
• United States
22 Jun 07
Yes, it's certainly easier when only one person controls the grocery shopping purse strings. Glad your partner could see your logic. Best money saving wishes!
@jacnmkc (32)
• United States
21 Jun 07
Well, I think I'm actually the one that is like your husband. LOL. I'm the one that usually finds a bunch of stuff we don't need, and my husband is the one that likes sticking to the "list." I like to browse and look around and make it a nice little afternoon of it...LOL...I'm bad. Now that I'm 5 months pregnant with my 3rd I put in the cart all the junk food and fun stuff to eat. Well, I guess only 4 months to go until I'm out of excuses...LOL
• United States
22 Jun 07
That is so sweet. Sounds like me when I was pregnant. My spouse would go shopping with me to make sure I didn't fall over, though. My belly was so huge! So, he did serve a very useful purpose during grocery shopping. Be well! And, best of luck with your baby!
@carlaabt (3505)
• United States
21 Jun 07
My husband is actually pretty good at grocery shopping. He goes with us at least half the time, probably even more than that. He does sometimes want stuff that we don't need, but it's usually not too much. The main issue I have with him when it comes to shopping is that he doesn't really compare prices of things the way that I do. It's usually not a big deal, but from time to time he will do it and end up spending a lot more money than I would have spent without him. Also when I send him to the store to pick up milk or something after work, he will bring something home and say "It was on sale!" but really it would have still been cheaper to buy the bigger size or whatever.
• United States
23 Jun 07
Yes, mine does that too! I'm always reminding him not to buy anything not on my list. He goes to the store for milk, which should cost less than five dollars, and ends up spending $25! So, I try not to send him to the store that often.
@wiccania (3360)
• United States
21 Jun 07
I go grocery shopping with my son's dad, and he's a great shopper. If I'm being very stingy and not getting any "little extras" he'll find me something that I love that's on sale for a really good price, since it's not nice to never treat yourself. He's also very price concious and makes great shopping decisions, so if I say "oh I forgot the..." I can trust him to go get it without spending a bunch of extra money. My exhusband, however, was a nightmare. First of all, this guy consumed 2 or 3 packages of little debbies in a week completely on his own. He also consumed a Dr. Pepper "Cube" that's a 24-pack, in a week. That adds up. Most of his selections in the grocery store were made in the junk food aisles. When it came to meat, all he wanted was these processed ham and turkey steaks (not the big family sized steaks, single servings and he would eat 2 in a sitting). When I finally got my own car, I started doing the grocery shopping solo. I'd get enough food for 2 weeks, and saved us about $100 each trip... and I STILL managed to get the soda and some snacks in there.
• United States
22 Jun 07
That's so sad when people don't take better care of themselves. Junk food is a definite killer. People should wake up to that.
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
22 Jun 07
I have learned my lesson I dont take him anymore. He does the same thing. And I cant afford for him to go with me.LOL Last year he had do the shopping for me a couple of times. So I made him a list but did he stick to it? NO He spent so much money! He is not allowed to go anymore!LOL But you gotta love them.
@vokey9472 (1488)
• United States
22 Jun 07
The only things my husband ever adds to the grocery list is coffee, sugar, milk and dog food. He wouldn't remember to add toilet paper even if he was looking at an empty cabinet. LOL My hubby pretty much lets me run the household. He says it is much easier on him, I am happy because I like things to go my way, and I am more organized than he is so I am less likely to forget anything. As a matter of fact, I tend to have 2 and 3 of everything. I will give my hubby credit for always remembering the dog food. I can never remember if we have enough or not. So I am thankful that he always adds it to the list so that we never run out. There is nothing worse than having to use up 2 dozen eggs and a loaf of bread to feed 4 hungry dogs.
• United States
22 Jun 07
Sometimes I might have my husband along with me. It seems like everytime I do there always booze in the cart lol
@vonn1378 (706)
• Philippines
22 Jun 07
Well sometimes yes especially when we go shopping together it ended up buying things that's not on the list because he picked them (,")
@usmcsgtwife (4997)
• United States
22 Jun 07
yes my husband does the same thing, we always end up buying more then what is on our list
@cynddvs (2950)
• United States
22 Jun 07
My fiance drives me crazy with this. Anytime we got to the store he ends up grabbing a bunch of junk food and stuff we don't need. And of course as soon as we go to pay for it he gripes about how much it is. It's so much easier for me to just leave my daughter home with him and go to the store alone.
• United States
21 Jun 07
That's why I always left my ex-husband at home when I did the shopping. Much cheaper my way. :D
@lightningMD (5932)
• United States
21 Jun 07
YES YES YES!!!!! Our big problem lately is that i work friday through Monday we get paid on Fridays.. I havent had the time to do the shopping we have only one car. So he has been shopping after work. He buys all name brands and buys things we dont need at all. I buy store brands and i buy whats on sale. I can buy a whole weeks of groceries including paper products and laundry soap for around 40.00 a week. He picked up a few things last night and it was 27.00... He was supposed to just get opo and milk. Should have cost hime 5.00. Granted the ice cream was yummy,but the store brand would have been yummy too we didnt need the premium high priced stuff.