Do you easily say bad words when you are mad?

@daryljane (3439)
Philippines
June 21, 2007 5:08pm CST
I do it. I cant seemed to control myself to say bad words when im mad at something. Like it just snaps out of the my mouth. Do you think thats normal? I mean, we can always control whatver comes out of out mouth, but maybe when your mad, its your way of letting that out and eventually get to say it. The person sitting right next to me right now is talking to his caller and suddenly shouted "a-hole"..then we all laugh saying what was that...he said, "this guy is so stupid! because he doesnt let me finish what im explaining and even argue with me"...thats the good thing about the mute button in our phones, member dont get to hear what we are saying. What about you guys, do you bad words when youre mad? or you stay quite when your mad to prevent yourself from saying things you might regret later? please share..thanks!
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@pilbara (1436)
• Australia
21 Jun 07
I think it's a matter of training yourself. I can quite honestly say that I have never sworn in my entire life, I hear other people swearing quite often, particularly young people who seem to want to punctuate their sentences with certain words and they don't even seem to realise they are doing it. It does not sound very attractive to me so I don't do it. However, nasty or hurtful things can still be said without resorting to swearing and taking a deep breath or mentally counting to 10 can help. what you are talking about isn't unusual though.
@daryljane (3439)
• Philippines
21 Jun 07
well, i agree on that too..although, we can control it. i remember one time when i made this new years resolution not the say bad words anymore, it went on for few days..but then i got this letter from an admirer and he is so mad at me for not accepting his offer of love, after i read the letter is said it!!! it just came out! the end of my new years resolution! lolz!
• China
22 Jun 07
Sometime we need some kind of let-out.what you said is wholely reasonable,understandable.but ,we also human ,civilized,we need control ,hence make a lovely world.
@daryljane (3439)
• Philippines
22 Jun 07
well, yeah, i guess i need to be more watchful next time..thanks!
• Australia
22 Jun 07
Nope, i'm quite opposite really. I struggle to find words to say and hence not much comes out in the end. Pretty hopeless though. Although the facial expression I believe counts more in my case.
@daryljane (3439)
• Philippines
22 Jun 07
well..thats a lot better..at least you dont say much of the bad words..good luck to you and keep it up! :)
• Canada
22 Jun 07
I am like you and can't seem to control myself and say whatever comes to my mind . The madder I am with someone or something the more I will curse . I know this isn't right but is a bad habit I picked up when I moved out of home . My dad used to curse all the time and we were never allowed to do this and out of respect for my mother I never said anything around her but when I moved out on my own the habit became much worse and now I can't seem to control what I say when I am mad . I have to try and watch what I say now though as my three year old will often get mad at me and tell me that I said a bad word . It is cute when she tells me this but it is also sad that my own child is correcty my behavior . None of my children have picked up on this habit yet and I hope none of them do but if they do then I have no one to blame but myself .
@daryljane (3439)
• Philippines
22 Jun 07
i guess that goes to saying...you dont do it before but your dad keeps saying it..now, your kids may not be doing it, but might do it later on...thats what im also afraid of someday with my son..
• Philippines
22 Jun 07
yeah. I say bad words if i get mad. but i dont like my attitude. I hate people who say bad words. Many poeple even if they are happy or just shocked they say bad words. I think that's a bad habit if you say bad words to other even if you're really really mad at the person.we need to control it or else it will control us.
@daryljane (3439)
• Philippines
22 Jun 07
i do that sometimes too..no matter how great the news is..i sometimes say bad words as a reaction to it. that action is controlable though. whats not controllable is when your mad, its hard because youre mad and sometimes you say things that you might regret later on..its only a matter on how you control your temper..
• Canada
22 Jun 07
I ahve this as a terrible habit...anytime i'm angry it's all that seems to pop into my vocabular. I think it's the negative connotation that gives me the sense of satisation that I'm seeking in expressing my anger. I wish I didn't do this though because it sounds horrible but I do get a bit more satisfaction in letting my frustration out. Id rather let it out than have it build up and explode one day at the wrong time and hurt people I really didn't want to hurt.
@daryljane (3439)
• Philippines
22 Jun 07
there are times that in the office, our managers will just laugh if they hear us shouting out things like that...they know we sometimes get mad at times too...but we need to lower it down so that other clients on the phone wont hear it. i cant say its normal, but sometimes we need to vent and just blurt it out...
@Polukinha (150)
• Brazil
22 Jun 07
yeah.. and very times i just... say _
@daryljane (3439)
• Philippines
22 Jun 07
lolz to that! :)
@trk918 (254)
• United States
21 Jun 07
If I'm at work or in a public place I try to stay quiet. At home I sometimes say bad words but try to not because I have young children.
@daryljane (3439)
• Philippines
22 Jun 07
yeah..its funny how we sometimes tend to control ourselves better if our children is around..that happens to me a lot.
@arcidy (5016)
• United States
21 Jun 07
Well I have to get really mad when I say bad words I really dont swear that often but if I get really mad then I swear which I dont know helps me calm my self for some reason I cant controll my self because I do it infront of my parents which I dont like to swear in front of them.
@daryljane (3439)
• Philippines
22 Jun 07
i do that sometimes too..im sorry to my parents..i sometimes go overboard saying bad words even when theyre around.
@321633wy (1795)
• United States
21 Jun 07
I don't swear very much even though i am so angry or mad.The worst thing i would is "insane" or "crazy" i would never say f*ck you @3@#.....LOL
@daryljane (3439)
• Philippines
22 Jun 07
i see...i dont say the f word though when im mad..i dont like hearing it so i dont say it when im mad. lolz!
@cynddvs (2950)
• United States
21 Jun 07
I used to be really bad about it. But since having my daughter I've gotten better about controlling what I say. I especially watch what I say now that she is getting to the age that she is learning lots of new words. I don't want one of her favorite words to be a cuss word lol.
@daryljane (3439)
• Philippines
21 Jun 07
yeah, i agree on that..i have a 3 year old son too and there are times that when im mad, there are times that im about to say it but was cut off because he is there. thats so funny, i can control it when he is around but cant seems to control it when he isnt. lolz!
@mssnow (9493)
• United States
21 Jun 07
I am one who hardly ever uses bad words. But when i do its when i am so mad that nothing else will do. I have shocked many of my friends because i said the F word. For me that is very unusual. lol. I have to be so mad I wanna hit something before I'll stoop to it though. I never call anyone names. but i do yell a lot lol
@daryljane (3439)
• Philippines
21 Jun 07
thats one thing the goes for me too..i dont call anyone names..but when im mad, i dont like either whatever comes out of my mouth..its also one thins im trying to work on...still working it in fact until now..lolz! keep it up mssnow!)
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@loverenth (136)
• Philippines
21 Jun 07
Yeah I do, it's weird cause if you come to think of it. It's really bad for someone to hear you lose it like that. But it makes me feel better, I think being mad is the worst feeling ever.. So when I feel it, I say whatever I wanna say, not caring how bad it is. It's just me..
@daryljane (3439)
• Philippines
21 Jun 07
imagine how sometimes it makes you feel good about it..although its not good as it sounds! lolz!
• United States
21 Jun 07
I personally find swearing to be a great way to vent, and have been know to talk like a truck driver as my husband puts it. However I try very hard to control my tongue when in public or with people who I know are offended by this manner of speaking. Even if angry I can control it if I want to.
@daryljane (3439)
• Philippines
21 Jun 07
that goes for me too...maybe thats how we let the temper out..
@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
25 Jun 07
Hi, daryljane! I don't. I seldom say bad words in fact. Whenever I get angry, I will try to avoid people and keep to myself. I know if I don't, I will blurt out those bad words eventually which I don't really want that to happen *smile* Whenever I am angry, I will just go to somewhere else and sit there alone, trying to cool down. If thing gets worse, I just keep my mouth shut *laugh*
• United States
25 Jun 07
When you have kids you'll have to rethink what you say when you're mad. Before my little girl came along I was the same way too. Now, she's practically a mini-me and I don't dare say anything at all negative around her or she'll repeat it. Sometimes still, I wish I had a mute button as you say, or maybe an edit button that would allow me to go back and erase something that I said. That would help so much in arguments with my spouse when I seem to stick my big foot in my mouth.
• Philippines
25 Jun 07
i'am easily to ger mad and i used to say bad words always but i want to quit on this kind of attitude...
@ibuemma (2954)
• United States
23 Jun 07
guilty here...but i say it in my mother language...which i think most of people in US don't understand it...LOL!
@navtech (1776)
• India
23 Jun 07
Hi, daryljane, When I was young I used to get angry for a small things and burst out many bad words. Time and experience taught me to control my anger. Now a day I act very normal and try to analyse why he/she said that to me. I try to explain to them in a normal way. This new behaviour of mine, created lot of friends than enemies.
@KrisNY (7592)
• United States
23 Jun 07
Wait a minute- Do you work in customer service?? And the man working next to put his phone on mute- and yelled A-hole- How unprofessional is that! I’d be miffed if I heard it- Is it a call center? Sometimes I get upset and I curse- I try not to- It just depends on what the problem is- Most of the time I can control it- I also take calls at times at work- and deal with a lot of irate people- I’m an accountant though- At no time ever did I put the phone on Mute and swear- I calmly talk to the person- But if I’m driving and someone cute me off- I sometimes say- what the Hel!--- lol
22 Jun 07
I manage to control myself quite well at work and they try not to swear in front of me as a consequence. However, when I am at home it is a different kettle of fish. Mind you it is only bad when I am cross about something and it usually dissipates just as quickly and I hardly ever use the f word. Not like some people that still seem to use it in every sentence. My husband does not like to hear swearing but when I am cross and he tells me off it makes me worse! I am better at keeping my temper than I used to be so it does not happen very often.