Should you Follow your Hear or Head?

Philippines
June 22, 2007 8:58am CST
There is a this longing in my heart for a charitable work yet at the same time let people know that when I help, they have to inculcate that they have dignity and hope when help is assisted to them. This is my personal story, bitter on its nature yet the sweetness of reality manifest that though it is not a perfect WORLD we live in,we always have a choice. For more than three years now, my internet shop is thriving to survive as a business.Out of generosity I shared my resources to my cousin's son. He's a bright guy but being a newly graduate of Political Science, his course wasn't a marketable profession.But he displayed an extraordinary talent about computers and know so much about PC games. I have to admit I know nothing about internet, networking much more with the complexity of computers these days.But out of generosity, and help to my nephew, I have to put up a building in the North(12 hours ride from Manila) near my Mom's house in the province, bought computers and shipped it, processed all the business permit and paper works to open the business legally. For sure it ran smoothly for 3 months.But on the 6th month his sales went low...I only caught him frauding me when I put a software for a timer that traced and record sales, and usage of PCs.I was so furious, I love him as a nephew but in this instance I used my wisdom that if I easily forgive him, then I would open the door of fraudalent doings, as Money is so tempting to acquire, in his case being jobless and in dire need. Thinking that I invested a lot, just to regain at least my capital, I employed my niece...it was doing so well, that I thought to myself, I had made a good decision. From my Mom's town, I move to the next city in order to expand. The place was so saturated with the same line of business that on the second year we have to moved back to my Mom's place.Then, when the call of duty for an overseas work, I have to leave behind the business, and a year after having my vacation in the Phils, my niece handed to me a very meager income. Just this year ,scrutiny of sales report had an indication of her lootings, so I sack her out.My second time to be looted by relative. Then my other niece took over the business.On her 5th month she also srewed up, looting a lot of my daily income. I was so furious, I shouted to her, NO RELAIVE WILL NEVER EVER BE EMPLOYED AGAIN WITH MY BUSINESS.Just yesterday, I have to let her fire her from working with me. My loving nature was tested, and I know love was supposed to be endless...but should I just close my eyes and be blind of these wrong doings? I am a good person,and I know that I have a big heart...but I guess every now and then that I share that good heart the size gets smaller and smaller because it is being taken advantage. So, I promise that, never will I ever allow relatives or any person to do this to me again. This time I will use my head...that hiring staff to work with me shouldn't be connected to me anymore by blood relation. My choice is to use my brain, to be wise.I didn't say the love to my relatives I lost it, I just have to let them go for the betterment of everybody and my business. Moral lesson of this to me is, Never let your heart rule your brain if the forseeable result will be disastrous.Young or old, nobody is excuse as wisdom of a pure heart ovepowers the mind, yet wickedness will always be trampled by the light of TRUTHFULNESS.Let's teach people we love to do their fishing not give fish to them all the time...they will get lazy if we do the latter...LOL! What about you guys, Do you follow what your head says or should it be mostly your heart? Everbody is welcome to share their views, experiences and ideas.
2 responses
• Singapore
23 Jun 07
With this much possibilities in this world, it's always best to use your head. People are greedy(Human nature, mind you) and will always thirst for more of what they have, like money and power. Emotions will sometimes lead you astray with very bad results. Young i may be but i know the differences on letting trusted and loyal people that benefit your business than letting people close to you leech your money. I know it's a little cruel to say that but it's true.
• Philippines
23 Jun 07
Yeah, I know that now...Hard earned lessons for me and a tough love to deal with relatives.This is the practical way how I saw the scenario. I gave my right hand, it wasn't enough, they took my left. I shared my eyes they made be blind...I don't want to wait for the next worst thing to happen. It's still a beautiful world...starting all over again!
@miryam (6510)
• Italy
22 Jun 07
Not belive in love, therefore I even follow that my head says, even if mistake... Bye Myry
• Philippines
22 Jun 07
Hmmnn...I am pretty sure you have your reasons...Anyway, for using your brain as to deciding, I am pretty you're you've been wiser now!Whatever your choice it, be happy and if mistaken,charge it to experience. Have a nice one Miryam!