How Can We Improve Our Lives?

United States
June 22, 2007 6:47pm CST
These are just some of my random thoughts on how I can imporve myself. I thought you may enjoy reading them. 1. THE POWER OF THOUGHT Love begins with our thoughts. I believe this with all my heart. I know that when my thoughts are pure and positive, I am a better person. We do become what we think about. Loving thoughts, experiences and loving relationships. All these can ultimately change our beliefs and our thoughts about others and even about ourselves. If we want to love someone, we need to consider his or her needs and desires. I do believe that the information and views that we put into our heads can and do affect our way of thinking. If we are very careful about what we view, say and think, we will see a difference in our thoughts. We no longer view anything with a rating above PG13 and I have found that my thoughts on modest dress, language and the way I treat people have changed. Even my thoughts on the importance of the family have increased. I had no idea that the things I was putting into my thoughts affected my life so much. I never did watch a rated X movie in my life so that Is not what I mean here but a rated R has a lot of things that we tend to just ignore but they do still affect us. 2. THE POWER OF RESPECT You can not love anyone or anything unless you first respect them. We cannot respect others until we learn to respect ourselves. The first person you need to respect is yourself. To begin to gain self respect,, you ask yourself, “what do I respect about myself ?” To gain respect for others, and yes, even those you may dislike, ask yourself, “what do I respect about them?” I am sure that you can think of something that you respect about everyone. Even those whom you don’t care much for. I remember when I first realized the importance of this. I worked with a gal whom I did not like very much. I finally decided that I was going to get to know he better and find something that I liked or respected about her. I did this and found that I did like her. She just had a different way of dealing with life than I did. 3. THE POWER OF GIVING If you want to receive love, you have to do is give it. The more love you give, the more you will receive. To love is to give of yourself, freely and unconditionally. The rewards are so wonderful when you do this. Practice random acts of kindness. You will immediately feel the difference in yourself and you will feel peace within you. I have seen people who only want to be around another person who can help them in some way. After they have received the help that they wanted, they look for someone else to be buddies with. Before committing to a relationship, ask not what the other person will be able to give you but rather what will you be able to give them. The secret formula of a happy, lifelong and loving relationship is to always focus on what you can give instead of what you can take. I love serving others and I have received many wonderful blessings by doing this in my life. What are your thoughts? Do you think that our thoughts affect the kind of person we are? Do you find that respecting someone makes them more appealing to you? Do you respect yourself as much as you would like others to respect you? Do you think that serving others can make us better people? Do you enjoy serving? What kinds of things do you think affects the kinds of people we are?
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@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
23 Jun 07
These are all three some great points on getting along in life and with others.
@AmbiePam (50688)
• United States
23 Jun 07
I think all of these things would make our lives better. People might scoff, or think these ideas are too simplistic, but they aren't. A person has to start someone, and by changing ourselves, I truly believe we can change the world.
• Philippines
23 Jun 07
yes you are coreect. but in my own opinion, contentment is the key to improve your life, be contented with what you have, do not be a greedy and wanting something that you cannot have. living in a basic ways,and control our temper.
@ricknkae (1726)
• United States
23 Jun 07
these are all so very true if everyone would think as you do, the world would probably be better thank you so much for sharing such sensibility and kindness with us
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@KrisNY (7591)
• United States
25 Jun 07
Very nicely written- I agree with this- I totally believe that our thoughts affect the type of person we are. I also think the type of person we are has a lot to do with the people we surround our self’s with. If we are around happy people- we will be happy and upbeat- If we are always with negative people- or people that like to talk about others- then we also will be negative- I try to surround myself with happy people- Sure I know we all have our days- so if you are down in the dumps for a day- I’m not going to ditch you as a friend- I’m jus going to try to cheer you up. I also totally agree with respect- I think we have to respect who we are and love our self before anyone else will. If I have no respect for me personally- how can I expect others to? I had gotten down in the dumps for a bit- a while back- I was grumpy—I then started to change my outlook- If you are nice to people they will be nice back- My daughter and I got along better- for a bit there- it was touch and go- she is 10- and getting moody! After a couple of heart to heart talks she has been great! I don’t get aggravated easily anymore when my sig. other does crazy little stuff- lol So I think attitude also affect the type of person you are.
@Rozella (17)
• Malaysia
23 Jun 07
I really do agree with you on this. I find myself being much happier when I chose to refrain myself from complaining and whining all the time. The more you think positively, the more positive energy you attract and the richer your life becomes. I also strongly believe that one way to improve our lives is to live in the now. So many people (including myself as well) tend to live in the past or live for the future that we forget to cherish the now. Life is unpredictable and tomorrow may never come and what happened yesterday can't be changed either. So why not just enjoy the now? It is a struggle (I have to battle it almost everday) but I think it is essential. I am a strong believer in karma and I do think that our intentions in life can change the way we live. So being consious of the real purpose of why we do things are also (I believe) an important aspect of living a better life. Nobody said that it would be easy, but it is definitely worth the try. :D And always remember to smile too!
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@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
23 Jun 07
Wow a wonderful discussion thanks for sharing your thoughts. Totally agree with positive thinking. If I am thinking positive thoughts, positive things happen in my life and I to respond positively to lots of things that I do or partake in. I am also very happy when in that frame of mind. When i feel negative thoughts then i get grumpy, and mean and take it out on others which is not nice at all. Everyday I am trying to be more positive and not get so down and out on things (even the little things in life). We were always brought up to respect those around us and to treat others as we would like to be treated. I try my best to do this and when others respect me and my way of life, then I tend to want to spend more time with them. Of course people have opinions and sometimes are move vocal than others, however I tend to shy away from those who are more vocal and want to always voice their issues without really listening and or respecting what i have to say. I think I respect myself to a certain degree. I am not perfect and I do have faults which I am improving on everyday. The fact that my husbands tells me that I am becoming a better person when i do certain things and react certain ways, helps me to keep on trying to better myself. (hope that makes sense). Serving, another part of our culture being brought up to serve others and not expect anything in return. We do it out of respect and love for one another. I feel comforted and happy when I have helped someone or given up my time to assist them, especially if they are a stranger. I really don't mind helping out others but when they expect it all the time, it gets to be a bit too much and then i think its gone beyond helping out because I want to (you know) Sorry for rambling and I hoped I made sense. I have copied this post so I can refer to it often. Thanks again.
• India
23 Jun 07
Well I think For successfull lives our We have to begin with positive attitude, Attitude is the key successful life. The one more factor i want to be focus on that is Discipline, then ofcourse hardworking is also key of successful life & improve it. Honesty & regularity in our work is the key to be successful in life. Our thoughts have the most important role in our life to get achievements. Also we have to do enjoy in our life but when its required. So I request you all if you want to improve your life then please have positive attitude, hardwork, regularity, puncuality, promptness & positive thinking. GOD BLESS YOU ALL to have successful & improve our lives.
• Singapore
23 Jun 07
Wow, nice post. =) *Clap* :) I am a low self-esteem person. After reading your post, I kinda have some 'hints' about life... and it definitely gonna help me in becoming a greater person. :) Thank you for making this post,villageanne. :)
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• Bulgaria
23 Jun 07
First I want to congratulate you for your wonderful and useful post. Then I will answer your questions as followed: I agree with every single line above. Our thought are making the world around us to turn and they change us. What I mean to say is that the more possitive you are about something the more you'll help this happen or change. (I read this in an article a month ago). Now about the respect, I've learnt to show that I respect myself as much as possible and so I always say that you have to respect yourself so that others can respect you too. My friends and classmates show this respect and remind me they do so and the fact is that the more they respect me the more I feel like helping them and serving them better. They are really greatfull about everything I did for them and I'll continue doing this with pleasure. Serving people make us (not better people) but more useful and helpfull. You can be this but in the meanwhile you don't feel pleasure of it. I know such people who give money to their friends but they feel they don't wish to do it all,which I don't find as normal. Because when I give I feel great about it while as I said some don't. those people are just egoistic. That's all!
@forgenth (72)
• China
23 Jun 07
Good topic and good thoughts .I can't agree with you any more. I think we are the kind of people we thought others be
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@sigma77 (5385)
• United States
23 Jun 07
You have made a lot of good points. I agree with everything you have said. I definitely think our thoughts have everything to do with the kind of person we are and also what kind of lives we lead. I sometime have difficulty respecting myself and liking myself. I agree that it is important that we must accept these feeling withn ourselves before we can fully love others. I would also add that the power of appreciation is equally as great as those you have mentioned. I think when we can be grateful for everything we have now, it opens the door for greater relationships and acceptance of others. And also greater opportunities to express our love toward others.
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• United States
23 Jun 07
we need to workout as much as we can
• United States
23 Jun 07
we need to workout as much as we can
• China
23 Jun 07
no money,no better living now.but if we spend more time to earn money,we can't hardly get a better living,it is hard to do this.
@yingtao (22)
• China
23 Jun 07
useful great~