My Father vs. My Boyfriend
June 22, 2007 10:35pm CST
What will you do if your father told you that he doesn't like your boyfriend because he's too dark, thin and out of fashion type of guy? Is it unreasonable to encourage you to break-up with your man just because your father wants you to go abroad and marry a foreigner for instant wealth and success?
23 Jun 07
Dark, thin and out of fashion? Sorry but this is one of the silliest things I have ever heard. I know that sometimes parents don't like our choices of a partner, sometimes for good reason, sometimes not, but I have never heard a reason as flimsy as that. Everyone wants the best for their children, but marrying someone just because they are wealthy probably won't make your life happy. Sure you can be comfortable but you would miss out on being with someone that makes you truly happy.
23 Jun 07
you may find it silly but it is true. if you are in this situation, how would you explain to your father that despite of the unpleasant physical features of your man, you're happy with him? What if, all your life no matter how you fight for your own desires and decisions, your father stops you and deprive you from controlling your own life?
23 Jun 07
In other words it seems to me that the reasons given - too dark, too thin etc are excuses and not the real issue at all which seems to be money and success. There are different ways things can be done - write a letter explaining your feelings for example. The other way is to sit down and explain it. For example "I know that you love me and want the best future for me. I believe that the best future that I can have is one that makes me happy, and I am sure that you would want that for me. I know there are some things about X that you don't like, but the most important quality they have is that they make me happy (for whatever reasons). I think that the chance of having a happy life with X is more important than having a more comfortable but potentially lonely and miserable life with Y. Surely if you love me then you can let me make the choice that I feel will bring the greatest amount of happiness to my life"