marriage or living together what do u prefer

marriage in the heaven, kissing with a hell - marriage is made in heaven
India
June 23, 2007 3:31am CST
today many prefer living together than opting for real marriages. why did this happen, some even give birth to kids this way without getting commited, so why?which do u prefer, marriage or living in relationship. leave alone the security dont u feel u have to trust someone u love.
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24 responses
@minhtan (87)
• Vietnam
28 Jun 07
I think living together makes people more free and less responsible than marriage. But marriage is a turning point, it marks someone grew up, and in rest of their life, they have a family, they have to work, look after it not only by money, also by tear. Eventually, I'll choose marriage, if I don't have enough, I delay that. It's unthinkable if some day, I live together with my girlfriend without marriage.
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• Canada
23 Jun 07
I say people should live together before making the big step into marriage. I think you learn things about a person that you may or may not like when you live together. Also you find out quickly if this is someone to spend your life with. I also think in a perfect world people should be married before having children. However many kids are raised with parents who are not maried and do just fine.
23 Jun 07
I think it's a shame that less people are choosing marriage these days. My boyfriend and I are living together, but we plan to marry one day when we are able to, without a doubt! There are many reasons why people don't marry these days, and I think one major factor is the cost. here in the UK, the price of housing has risen to an extortionate level, and many people struggle to get onto the property ladder. With this financial burden, along with the fact that it is not so much tradition for the bride's father to pay for the wedding any more, it is difficult for many to afford the wedding that they really want. I do feel that the sanctity of marriage is being lost, though. People refer to is as 'just a piece of paper', but it is so much more. Being married to someone is a huge way of showing how committed you are to one person, and I can't wait for the day that I get to say 'I do' in front of my family and friends :o)
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• India
23 Jun 07
marriage - marriage as a burden
marriage is divine, yes, i have the same feelings like u do, so if the people cant trust one another in commiting then why find a partner atall
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@dio123 (1790)
• India
23 Jun 07
do not wait just get married as soon as possible I believe in Marriage, the married man and woman live a long life as compare to bachelor ones the only reason is they feel more happy with eachother only after marriage
• Philippines
24 Jun 07
I believe that for most men, marriage is not their first option, they would rather be living in together than to get married. Maybe the purpose of this is for them to first try the life of really living with each other and not just being together on special occasions or whether they wanted to see each other. The fact of being married is being together for the rest of your life without breaking-up, or cooling-off! So it is best that both of the persons in the relationship should be definite of what they really feel and not just to give way for the request of their partners. Generally, women have their own fantasies of how they are going to be married, but in some cases these fantasies may not come into reality but the main reason of being married is that both of you are ready for the next level of your relationship.
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@Galena (9123)
23 Jun 07
I don't think that having a relationship without being married is "without getting committed" commitment is about how you feel about the other person, how much you see them as part of your future. I don't think that you only trust someone if you marry them, and marriage isn't really security. it's a ceremony. it doesn't make someone less likely to leave you. I love my partner so so much. we are not married. maybe one day, but we don't feel like there's anything missing in our relationship for not being married.
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• Australia
24 Jun 07
i think that getting married makes no difference. i have been married for nine years and i think that if we did not get married we would own a house by now instead. i know people that have been together for 40 years and are very happy, they spent the money that they would have spent on a house instead of getting married i think if you are committed a marriage makes no difference.
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@carol_m (709)
• Philippines
19 Jul 07
I prefer on just living together. In this set-up, it would be easier for either partner to split up just in case there would be unresolved conflicts. Being married does not guarantee a healthy couplehood. It is how you two pamper the relationship.
@swatig (1187)
• India
28 Jun 07
I not found anyshame in living together because i think we are responsible for the direction of soceity to this living together without marriage but i personally perfer to marriage rather then living together as living in committed relationship of marriage is called real living then living without any commitment.
• India
28 Jun 07
Well whatever the world thinks about but i prefer marriage over living together....I would say that living together is good when there is a limit and shouldn't cross that limit....If you are out of limilt then there is no use of living together and there will be something else.... Marriage is sacred institution which i respect and thousands times better than living together...Its a package of everything and you actuallly enjoy it which you how to live with it...
@wonderful1 (2076)
• China
28 Jun 07
I prefer living together. Now I have a bf and we love each other very much, but I don't want to marry him, because we have no enough money for a family life. We earn too little now, if we get married, we must buy a house, it is too expensive to buy a new house in my city. Besides, I have to communicate with my laws, I feel very tired to chat with them, I must be a mild girl.
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@archer1811 (1099)
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
When you talk to the people involve in living together without married you know from them the main reason, first they dont have enough money to support the expenses in their wedding even in civil, so the main reason is puberty. But for me i do prefer for a marriage, living together is a sinful act. By living together without the sanctuary of marriage is like your committing adultery. Although we cant blame other people but maybe we can them make understand the importance of marriage.
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@4cuteboys (4102)
• United States
24 Jun 07
It doesnt matter too much. My hubby and I lived together before we were married, and yes indeed we had a child together before we were married. We were together for I think a year and a half before we got married and our son was 3 months old the day it happened. I like being married, but I was very happy with our situation. I love my hubby and to me at that point, it felt like we were already married, the certificate was just an official piece of paper proving it.
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• Hong Kong
24 Jun 07
I notice that too, I don't know about the people who choose to live together as there might be many reasons why they choose that. For me, I think if I have to do it, I will do it properly. I want to be announced husband and wife if I am living with someone, I don't want to be classified as "his girlfriend". Either I would get married and live together with that person, or I would be his girlfriend and we live separate apartments. I guess I am a bit traditional, but that's the way I see it.
• United States
24 Jun 07
i definitely prefer marriage. This is a lifetime commitment, and although couples go on and on, I prefer the legally type. They are safer neighbors, the people I instantly like and trust. I find we like similar things. There was once I was seriously thinking of having the baby before marriage. He was older, his family grown, and his youngest didn't/couldn't accept me, and was 19 yrs old. i really liked this man, and wanted to maintain a relation with him. His wife passed and i was thinking, let me have the baby, begin a life together, he has his life, his daily activities, his youngest son was crashing a car a month, and I wanted a life with this person without the stress of a 19 yr old, yelling and screaming, changing locks, calling at all hours, etc. I did like this man enough, although when you think of the trust, marriage or eloping (he wouldn't)is the safer venue.
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• United States
23 Jun 07
In the USA marriage is going up and living together is for long periods are going down. Do not get me wrong people are still living together but then they are living together. If something happened to my hubby I probably never will get married again. I do not know why I just think once is enough
• Canada
23 Jun 07
I lived with my husband for years before we got married and we even had two children before we were ever married . I have always felt that if one lives with someone then they are not in for any surprises when they do get married . At least when you live with someone for awhile you know all the quirks you are not going to like about each other . Too often people are quick to marry and then find out they have nothing in common or they just can't live together and then they end in divorce . I just never wanted to be one of these people that ended up in divorce because I didn't know what I was getting myself into not to mention the cost of having a wedding and then the whole divorce procedure . Now I am not saying I am against people who get married without living together but sharing my reasons for why I never wanted to get married before I lived with my husband today .
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@ibsnet (1268)
• India
23 Jun 07
As per my country India's tradition and what society accepts is women and men can have three relations only - a daughter of a father, a wife of a husband and a mother. Other than these three relations all men to women relations are illegal. You may say friendship, it is always universal relation and that has no implication to any serious relations. Therefore, in India this live together situation can't be thought of. If a boy loves a girl or vice versa they should marry, even if they can't go for rich celebrating marriage, they can get married in a temple, or in a marriage registrar. The live together situation often grows many complications and most of cases these live together does not convert into marriage even they have a kid too. This is a great problem in western countries. Marriage is sacred and a dedication to the loved ones in a celebrating manner. So I think marriage should be given prior importance in any country before any live together.
@kthygrl (26)
• United States
23 Jun 07
I am one of the people that prefer to live with someone. The whole thought of marriage totally scares me. I don't think I would be able to walk down the aisle.
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23 Jun 07
Marriage for myself. I like sharing a special bound with my wife by being "man and wife" it's a cool feeling but I can understand that some don't want to do that. Sometimes marriage can be the fault to a break up. (behind) ~Joey
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@Mitraa (3188)
• India
23 Jun 07
Since marriage is based upon socio-religious discipline, it is the proven method for social structuring. But just living toether can never be called as marriage and other animals may also be doing that way. Our social structure always wants secured relationships that is only possible by marriage. Thanks.
@youless (94290)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Jun 07
I want to get married rather than living together. It seems as a girl it'll be unsecurity for me. I need that paper. I don't have to hide anything and my baby can be born in a normal family. Living together seems it is not a serious relationship for me.
@Marie2473 (8519)
• Sweden
23 Jun 07
I am living with my bf and we have been for about a year. I am sure that we will get married - both wants to but just notyet. We are still young and there is no reason rushing into marriage, we are happy just as we are
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