Siblings but so different

@Vixx06 (162)
June 23, 2007 4:41pm CST
How can 2 children with the same mother and father be so different? My youngest 2 girls are only 13 months apart in ages but I could not have got 2 kids more different. I will make them a sandwich one eats the bread and the other eats the filling. One is good at maths and the other is good at English, One likes her hair up the other likes her hair down. One likes skirts the other shorts. I give up with them. The good thing about them is that they rarely fight as they play with different things. Is anyone elses kids the same?
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@magica (3710)
• Bulgaria
24 Jun 07
Well, the siblings are not copies or similarities.They are individuals:-) So it`s normally they to differ and they do it-conciously or not. The babies carry with themselves the same genetical code, but this code is modified by their individual characteristics. Just love both of them :-)
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@Vixx06 (162)
24 Jun 07
I adore them both. They drive me mad but I would not be without the little monster:)
@mahmah (436)
• United States
24 Jun 07
That is the amazing thing about the human race, no matter how closely related two humans are, they can be complete opposites. Look at twins, they be identical (mostly) to the eyes but their mannerisms and attitudes can be completely opposite. My two nieces are the same way for the most part. They are almost 3 years apart in age and the older on is the "girly girl" and the younger one is now the "tomboy". They just recently switched roles. LOL mahmah
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@Vixx06 (162)
24 Jun 07
Maybe it is just girls that are so different. What do you think?
@nandhinir (154)
• India
24 Jun 07
Hmm...It is always like that in almost all home...Taking our home I am elder and i have younger brother..he use to not speak with me and parents always..But I am talkative always.I am studious but he is bit lower than me..I like sleeping mostly..but he is not..He is like my mom and i am like my dad...I guess it depends on genes...if both mom and dad have same characters then both kids will have same characters...it is rare case that both parents are gettting with same characters...both will be two different corners always...Lol.. So it will be like that...Am not sure..Check...
@Vixx06 (162)
24 Jun 07
I cant figure it out either
• Canada
24 Jun 07
I have wondered this often as well and have mentioned it to my sister in law as we used to live together and two of her children are the same age as two of my children and yet they are all so different in so many ways . I have five children and none of them are the same . They are all so different yet were raised the same with the same values and the same rules yet they are no where near the same people .
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@Vixx06 (162)
24 Jun 07
You would think that they would have a fair few things in commons :)
• India
24 Jun 07
I think your really blessed....i don't have my own kids yet but i have two from my husbands first marriage and both are boys with 2 yr gap between them and they it's so difficult to handle even though they one is thirteen and the other eleven they are no less than 2 yr olds!!!!!! They fight for day and night and want not only different food but also are so different in their hobbies the younger one is so harsh and very destructive and the older one very quite and very clever and therefore very judgmental.. It takes a whole day for the small one to study and the elder one puts in just 2 hr of studies and he is free to do everything the whole day... Difficult to keep them occupied for their time on tv always ends with a punch and kick because they also like watching absolutely different... So i guess not all fingers are the same even though they are from the same hand....!!!!!lol
@Vixx06 (162)
24 Jun 07
They sound like hard work. As kids get older they get harder to manage. I should know I have a 16 year old. I think that anyone that takes on someone elses kids needs a medal. Boys seem to be harder than girls when they are younger.
• United States
24 Jun 07
Its okay to be different. Even if they fight they shall out grow it. I am really close to my sister 3 yrs younger. And she and me are totally different STILL. For example: she is outgoing, I am shy/quiet. I am shorter, she is taller. She is more cold blooded while I am more warm blooded. I am emotional, she holds it in usually. I dont do pain well, she usually does. Stuff like this. So yeah its how it goes. Its not different for us either. But we fought as kids and get along fine now. So yeah its really just a sibling thing :)
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@Vixx06 (162)
24 Jun 07
Its great that you are really close. I hope my girls all stay close when they grow up
@meljessxena (2319)
• Australia
24 Jun 07
my mum has 6 kids and every single one us are totally different, it our attitude, our interests (some hate the city and some hate the country) and our abilities, like im bad at maths but some are good at maths, some dont like kids etc etc. we are all a range of different sizes and the clothes and our fashion are all completely different, funny thing is my brother who is about 12 years old then me we have about same fashion lol
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@Vixx06 (162)
24 Jun 07
Wow with such a big age gap you would think that you would be nothing alike. I have the 3 girls aged 16, 5 and 4. My 16 year old has a different dad but she is more like my middle daughter than the youngest. Despite the 11 year age gap they fight all the time as they are so alike.
• United States
24 Jun 07
My sister and I are seven years apart and we are as different as night and day. We have the same parents but our personalities are different, we like different things and we live on differnt sides of town. It's just one of those things that you can't explain. :)
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@Vixx06 (162)
24 Jun 07
Even though you are so different do you still get along ok?
@barehugs (8986)
• Canada
24 Jun 07
The theory of Reincarnation explains how, and why, siblings are often very different. We get to choose our parents at the time of reincarnation (when we come back as a Baby) Your 2 girls have had different experiences in their Past lives,(which accounts for their varying personalities) but for whatever reason they both chose you, and your spouse, as their parents for this lifetime. Wouldn't life be dull, if all siblings were exactly the same?
@Vixx06 (162)
24 Jun 07
That is an interesting way to think about it. It is a lovely thought to think that someone would chose to be born into your family.
@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
24 Jun 07
look at your hands. stretch your fingers all out. what can you see? fingers that is all in the same hands but different in length and different in sizes. its like children. they have the same parents but they have their own personality. i have 4 kids of my own too and they all have their traits that makes them stand out from the others. one is good in drawing one is good in academics, one is good in dancing and one is good and kind and always ready to help.
@Vixx06 (162)
24 Jun 07
I have never thought about it like that
@lillake (1634)
• United States
24 Jun 07
My sons are very opposite in personality. They are practically like mirror images because they are so opposite but look almost exactly alike. I've had a few people ask me if they are twins despite the 2 year age gap between them. My oldest tends to be shy to new people, my youngest is very outgoing. My oldest did everything early; walking, talking, etc... My youngest goes with the flow and doesn't seem to be in any hurry. My oldest loved to eat food and by a year was rarely nursing, my youngest hates foods and prefers to nurse all day. My oldest will do what you ask, but verbally argue with you the whole time. My youngest will physically ignore anything you say. Luckily, even with such opposite personalities they love each other and get along really well.
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@Vixx06 (162)
24 Jun 07
Your boys sound just like my girls, very different but love each other to bits
@re08dz (1941)
• Australia
24 Jun 07
LOL I have twin girls and they couldn't be more different if they tried :-) Not only do they look different - about the only similarity is the colour of their hair - but they are just total opposites. There's a huge height difference between the two of them, one is really into sports the other can't stand them and instead is more artistically inclined - one is a real girly girl while the other pretty much a tomboy, one loves reading the other hates it etc. Mine for the most part get along, but when they fight well we all know about it. People often doubt they are sisters let alone twins but the good thing is that they are definitely individuals with their own friends and outlooks on life
@Vixx06 (162)
24 Jun 07
I dont know how you cope with twins. It is hard enough with the small age gap I have between my girls. My girls are the same as yours very different the only thing with mine is that they share friends and hate not seeing each other. They are still young so this could change very quickly.
@gabesmom (1246)
• United States
23 Jun 07
It is great that your girls are showing their uniqueness at an early age. It could be that one is more like you and the other one, like dad. They could also be finding their own identities right now and would want to be different from each other. My younger sister always did the opposite of what I did, mainly because she wanted to be recognized as herself and not just my younger sister.
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@Vixx06 (162)
24 Jun 07
Thanks for your reply. Mine love being sisters and hate being apart. I love the fact that they are different. I just find it strange how different they are.
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
23 Jun 07
Among my children there are the 2 and 4 year old boys with my s/o (we also have a 7 month old boy but he's too little for us to tell how he's going to be) They are officially 2 years 1 month and 19 days apart. You wouldn't even know they were brothers by looking at them or seeing their personalities. If it's something they can be opposite about, they are. One is quiet and shy, the other is loud and out going. One is scared of noise, the other loves it. (by the way it's the shy one that actually loves noise!) One eats everything in sight, the other would eat plain noodles everyday for every meal if we let him. One is short and thin, the other is tall and hefty. One appears to be a lefty, the other appears to be a righty, One has straight hair, the other has curly hair...I could go on and on! About the only things that are the same are their hair and eye color which are both a mix of mine and their dads. They even have completely opposite features!
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@Vixx06 (162)
24 Jun 07
I agree with you. Mine are the same. My youngest has red curly hair and my other one has blond straight hair. One is right haneded and the other left handed like me. I just find it amazing how different they are but I would not change them for anything
• Philippines
24 Jun 07
The characteristics of a person/or any organism is determined by his genes (that is contributed by the parents). There are traits that are affected by the environment and there are those that no matter what kind of environment you subject a person, the trait does not change. For example, if both parents of a child have dimple on their cheeks, then their children will all have dimples regardless of the environment (food, weather, etc.). This type of trait is known as qualitative trait. But in the case of preferences, height, aptitude to science, math, arts, kin color; all of these are affected by the environment-they are called qualitative traits. The traits you mentioned above are quantitative traits,they are affected by the environment.. Since no two persons are subjected to perfectly the same environment, then it is expected that no two persons are alike in their traits (preferences, attitudes, aptitudes etc)
• Philippines
24 Jun 07
erratum: aptitude to science, math, arts, skin color; all of these are affected by the environment-they are called quantitative traits
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@Vixx06 (162)
24 Jun 07
I see where you are coming from but both my kids were born in the same hospital the same way (C section). Both fed the same way. Both lived in the same house, in the same bedroom, watchthe same films, go out together and even share some clothes. I dont expect them to be the same just not so different.
@banta78 (4335)
• India
27 Jun 07
I feel every human being in some way or the other and have differnt tastes, likes or dislikes and opinions and morals. The only thing who much different we really are. I feel you are two daughters are unique in their own way and it is nice they are good at different subjects they can help each other with studies. And can have their own style statement and most likely are not going to quarrel over clothes as their tastes are so different. So groom them to be good citizens and let them unique as that will what they pride in. Cheers:)
• United States
24 Jun 07
I know it is funny how this happens..my mom had 6 kids..and all of us are very different..my two boys are also very different in their likes and dislikes..