Would you rather: Be a only child OR have 7 siblings?

@brokentia (10396)
United States
June 23, 2007 7:46pm CST
Would you rather: Be a only child OR have 7 siblings? Please explain your thought process. :)
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31 responses
@rsmith512 (1561)
• United States
24 Jun 07
Alright! This is an easy one!!! :) I would rather have seven siblings! Being an only child would be boring. You would have no one to talk to, you wouldn't know how to communicate with others as well, and express how you are feeling. And, that would also mean that you wouldn't know how to stick up for yourself. Another big thing would be that you wouldn't have as much love from others if you were the only child. So, if something happened to you when your parents had passed away, you wouldn't have the close family support that you would want! :( And one more thing that I couldn't forget!! You would have a harder time figuring out who you are. With other brothers and sisters you can find out how you are different and alike and build off of that to make who you become today. (That is the best way that I could try to explain it.) :) Having a big family is a great experience and it definitely will give you patience!! So, I would seriously rather have seven siblings! :D
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@brokentia (10396)
• United States
25 Jun 07
Well, you have a was interesting way of looking at it. :) Thank you so much for your point of view. It is truly valued! :D
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• United States
25 Jun 07
WOW! I am shocked to see that I said nearly the same thing she said about being lonely! And I only have one sister. It's very interesting hearing your answer RS cause you actually live it! I will have to share this discussion with my hubby 'cause he only wants one child thinking it would be better for the child. He grew up with three older sisters and would have rather been an only child. But regardless I know he likes knowing they're there. No matter how much I talk about it he insist the child will be happier alone. I disagree.
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@uath13 (8207)
• United States
18 Dec 07
I'd hate to see how my parents could have supported 7 kids so I'll say only child.
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@brokentia (10396)
• United States
19 Dec 07
ha ha That's funny! Cause I really do have 7 kids. LOL
@uath13 (8207)
• United States
19 Dec 07
Shesh... Poor TV reception where you live?
@morgandrake (2140)
• United States
24 Jun 07
Depends upon my mood. And how much my siblings are annoying me. I have actually lived in both worlds. I was an only child for the first seven years of my life, then my sister Mary was born. After that, mom had an easier time getting pregnant. SO in the end, I am the oldest of eight. But most of the time, you would swear that I was an only child because I disowned thirteen years ago (over my religion and profession) and so for the most part, none of my siblings talk to me. *sigh*
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@brokentia (10396)
• United States
25 Jun 07
That is very sad. I can't imagine religion being the rest to split a family and siblings apart. :( I do hope that you are surrounded with love from others to help make up for what you have lost. And I do hope that with time, they will come to understand we all have our own paths to follow.
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
24 Jun 07
Being an only child myself and never knowing what's it's like to have any brothers or sisters I think I would have preferred to have 7 siblings, because they would have looked after me at school, stopped me getting bullied and my life would have been much better, although the love from my parents would have been shared into 7 ways instead of 1 and I wouldn't have been spoilt so much, as well as money being tight we would have got so much less. This is a difficult one my friend because the pros and cons are equal on both side, but if I was impressed I would say I would prefer to have seven siblings, ouch that took some serious thinking!
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@brokentia (10396)
• United States
25 Jun 07
I have to agree with you. It is a tough question because there are pros and cons. :) Didn't mean to make you hurt yourself though. ha ha But hey, I got you thinking. :D
@castleghost (1304)
• United States
24 Jun 07
I grew up as an only child and I have to admit that there were times when I was lonely. But I also have seen the flip side of someone coming from a large family. I would prefer to be an only child. Just because I like my privacy too much to have to deal with someone sticking their nose in to my buisness.
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@brokentia (10396)
• United States
29 Jun 07
That's one way to look at it. I have enjoyed my quiet times too growing up. :)
@crazynurse (7489)
• United States
27 Aug 07
I grew up as an only child. I yearned for siblings daily, but my mom couldn't have anymore children. All of my close friends had numerous siblings and I so enjoyed going to their homes and seeing all the relationships between the siblings! I would definitely rather have the siblings! It was lonely as an only child. My parents entertained me constantly to the best of their ability, but I yearned for a shared bedroom, late night talks with a sister or brother...all those things! Also to have some help in the burder on watching parent age would be nice.
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@Lifeless (2638)
• India
27 Aug 07
I think I won't survive without having any siblings.. I have one elder brother and we love each other a lot, I also respect him tremendously for all that he has achieved in life.. But I can't stand 7 siblings.. It would create a fish market of sorts inside my house.. I am better off with my only sibling... Are these 7 siblings u talking of, in ur case???
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@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
25 Aug 07
I would rather have the 7 siblings. I have 3 sibs, 2 brothers and a sister. I hardly speak to one of my brothers, sometimes to another and fairly often to my sister. Where there comes a point in oyur life, you can choose to ignore your siblings, if you desire. You would be locked up if you started pretending you siblings when you have none. Society frowns on this acitivity in adults.
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@Willowlady (10666)
• United States
24 Jun 07
Being that life is what it is. I cannot determine what would be best. I consider myself an only child and that is fine with me. A bunch of kids would have been great also with all the dynamics that can occur. A large family has all sorts of challenges that they must deal with. That makes them stronger I think. Large families used to be the norm and they are a joy to see. Such organization is to be admired. Still am content to be only one and that works for me also. I share my life with 3 others at this time and eventually it might be just me again. That will be fine by me.
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@SpitFire179 (2536)
• Canada
24 Jun 07
okay this is insane, it's like you know me. haha ;) I actually do have 7 siblings, and i wouldn't change most of them for the world. I would never want to be an only child, i just don't think i could stand that, and i surely wouldn't want to be like some of them only children out there living their lives as snobbish people who think the world revolves around them.
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@emeraldisle (13145)
• United States
24 Jun 07
Well I grew up with 3 siblings and know what that is like but at the same time they were all older then me so in some ways it was like being an only child. Between the two I'd rather have the siblings. I've very close with my sister and I cannot imagine not having her in my life. There are upsides and downsides to both but over all I think having siblings is better. If nothing else it gives you someone to argue with :)
• United States
25 Jun 07
I'd love to hear your children's answers on this! Well this one is a bit easy for me to say...I'd rather have siblings because they're would always be someone there to lean on. When we got older and our parents passed then we'd have each other. Even if I didn't get along with all of them - I'd still have someone. I believe family is very important. Especially if you can't have children of your own. But even so...I've watched my honorary aunt (mom's best friend who was embraced into our family) go through finding out she was adopted, being an only child, her parents dying and then she never felt lonelier. She still has these issues. And I think that's why she won't leave her abusive husband - she doesn't want to be alone. Although she has a daughter my age and a son that just turned two. Not to mention anyone on my mom's side of the family would do anything for her just like she really is one of us. But that's another story altogether. My point is I know how lonely it can be for an only child. Not that it can't be for a child with a lot of siblings too but the chances would seem to be less. Well that's my opinion anyway. I'm just very thankful that I have my sister. And when we were growing up we didn't always get along. But she's there and she always will be.
@brokentia (10396)
• United States
29 Jun 07
I was fortunate to experience both myself. I had seven siblings also. But the siblings were between 3 marriages...I was the result of the third marriage. Since my mother was the third marriage for my father, at one point, there were 5 of us in one house. I loved it...and disliked it at times too. But then later in my life, I was taken away from my mother after they were divorced for a couple years. The other siblings from previous marriage went back to their mother during the divorce and so then it was just me and my father. So, I also got to experience being a single child. At another point, I got to experience being one of two children when one of my brothers came back a few years after it being just my father and I. It was a huge roller coaster ride for me. ha ha But I also enjoyed but disliked being an only child. Personally, I thought it was best though when it was all of us. :) Someone always to talk to or play with. Someone always to stick up for you when someone else picked on you. And a gang of kids to take on the bullies outside of home. ha ha
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• United States
29 Jun 07
That's very interesting...and I agree you did ride a roller coaster! But it shaped you into a great person too :) Thanks for sharing that because it's really neat to hear what it's like for others. It helps create a perspective for me:)
@4cuteboys (4102)
• United States
24 Jun 07
I would prefer to have 7 siblings. I figure things would probably be tight (money wise) unless my parents were somehow loaded, but I think it would be fun to be part of a big family. I think being an only child would be kind of boring and although I would probably be more spoiled and have more money spent on me, I would rather have the large family experiance.
@brokentia (10396)
• United States
29 Jun 07
You are right...it would be more tight on money. But in exchange, you get lots of love instead. Right? :)
@cripfemme (7715)
• United States
8 Aug 08
I would rather have seven siblings. I was an only child until I was ten. Before my brother came along, my house was so quiet. I hated it. I had no one to play with. With seven people, there's always someone who wants to play and even someone who is likely to be interested in what you want to play. There are lots of people to use as a source of inspiration which is very important to a younger writer and was hard for me to find.
@SViswan (12071)
• India
13 May 08
First, that would have to be my parents' choice. I don't think it would matter either ways though. I have just one sibling and she's 7 years younger than I am..so the most part I lived like an only child. I was fine alone (because I had interests like reading which didn't need company and I would stay out of my mother's hair) and I didn't mind living with a whole bunch of kids (I lived with my cousins...around 5 of them and we had to share things...had our little squabbles). I had fun (in my own way in both situations). I guess I'm adaptable that way and can't complain about either situation.
• India
12 May 08
well friend yes there is no doubt that i would always love to be the only child and not have 7 siblings..... have a nice day....
@subha12 (18453)
• India
5 May 08
i have just one sibling. a 7 year older brother. i think its good to have just one or no sibling. rather than having 7 sibliongs. i think in that case parents acan take care of you well and provide well.
@rhane7315 (5673)
• Philippines
30 Apr 08
if my mother wouldn't stop her favoritism with our eldest brother, i prefer to don't have any siblings at all
@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
12 Oct 07
Hi brokentia! I would rather have 7 siblings. I would not want to be an only child because that will be kinda lonely. I want to have so many sisters and brothers around me because life is more fun when there is so much people giving love within the family. We are only 3 siblings in our family. We are happy together but I wish I have sisters because I am the only girl and my two siblings are boys. Take care and have a nice day.
@cripfemme (7715)
• United States
18 Sep 07
I'd rather have 7 siblings. My theory is because I was only child for the beginning of my life and I adored finally having a kid brother.