If someone breaks your stuff , do you get mad ?

Canada
June 24, 2007 10:27am CST
What do you do if someone is at your house and breaks something that you really treasure ? Do you get mad , realize it was an accident or expect them to pay for it ? How do you react at first , do you get mad but then realize it wasn't their fault or forever hold it against them ?
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@wiccania (3362)
• United States
24 Jun 07
It really depends on the situation. I had someone come over once and start playing with my shotglass collection. He was building a pyramid out of them. He didn't ask if he could take them off the shelf or anything, just started grabbing and building. So I told him that if any of them broke he owed me $20 for each on that broke, since they were all purchased on vacations and it was unlikely that I could replace them. Sure enough, the pyramid fell and several broke. He thought I was joking about paying for them. If it's truly an accident, it doesn't bother me much. But if it's out of carelessness and not listening I get very upset. It comes down to respect. If you don't respect someone else's property, you don't respect them. My ex-husband was very disrespectful of my property. I had a photo of Rikki Rockett sitting on the desk in our office waiting for me to get a frame for it. Rikki had signed the photo and given it to me as a thank you for helping him out with something. He wrote a special note on it. My ex, went into the office, and didn't bother moving it before he set his soda from some fast food place right on top of it. I happened to be out of town that weekend. When I returned, the condensation from the drink had ruined the picture... as well as the soda that leaked thru the cup, since he left it there all weekend. I also found several of my CDs removed from the CD player and used as coasters thru the course of our relationship. Those offenses made me so mad that I walked around the house with the intention of damaging things that were important to him.
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• Canada
23 Aug 07
How horrible that anyone wouldn't have the consideration to be more careful with something they knew meant a lot so someone . Thank you for your response .
@villageanne (8579)
• United States
24 Jun 07
I used to get mad but have mellowed out alot in that 10 or so years. I just clean up the mess and it is over. I know that accidents happen. What does upset me is when they break something and then try to hide it from me. That makes me mad. All they have to do is show me the broken object and apoligize and I am fine with it.
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• Canada
24 Jun 07
Oh yes this makes me really mad too . I understand that things can get broke and even if I am upset at the time I am still quick to let them know that I am not so much upset with them as I am that something I treasured was broke , but when they hide it then I feel like they were only thinking about themselves and this does not show compassion for wrecking something that wasn't theirs even if it was an accident .
@chesssy (203)
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
i'd feel bad especially if it's something i saved up for or it bears sentimental memories. but as a host, i would keep my calm and assure the person that its not a problem.
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@sacmom (14338)
• United States
29 Jun 07
Of course I would get mad. It's just an automatic reaction...at least for me anyway. :P But if it was an accident then I wouldn't hold it against them forever. As far as them paying me for it, I don't know if I'd make them pay for it or not. Most likely not, but I've never been in this situation so I couldn't say for certain.
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@cdparazo (5769)
• Philippines
25 Jun 07
I do get mad as my initial reaction. But I won't really lash out because I know that it is not intentional and that nobody would want to earn the ire of someone intentionally breaking ones things.
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• Canada
24 Jun 07
i would be mad if someone breaks my stuff . If I don't like it that much then I don't care but if they don't tell me then I am mad because it was my stuff but if they tell me they are sorry then I know they didn't mean to do this and I tell them it is ok and then I try to get anohter one sometime when I go to the store when I have money . I like my friends and they don't break my stuff on purpose .
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• Philippines
24 Jun 07
i don't get mad especially if i know they don't mean to break it but if they do... they know what's gonna happen next :-)
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• United States
23 Aug 07
ofcourse i feel bad no matter how small is the thing but i don't lose temper in front of them rather made them realize it was precious to me.