What is with some parents wanting their children to be sexy???

@judyt00 (3504)
Canada
June 24, 2007 11:22am CST
The other day, a woman came into the children's department of the store I work in and demanded to see our children's thongs! When I told her we didn't carry them she got very offended, stating that her daughter should be able to look sexy if she wanted to. I asked how old her daughter was, assuming she just really needed a women's small. Nope, her daughter is 8! An 8 year old wanting to look sexy??? Where did she even learn the term? Then the same day, another woman got all piffy because we don't carry bras for little girls. I'm sorry but 6 and 8 year old babies aren't supposed to be looking sexy. they are supposed to be playing with dollies and learning to ride their bikes! What's the rush to turn these children into hookers?
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
24 Jun 07
These people are just plain crazy, in my opinion! It's completely insane already that children want to dress this way because of social pressure and such influences, but that their parents actually encourage and support such things is even worse! If I had a daughter, she certainly would not be wearing thongs, or bras unless she just happened to have some kind of major hormonal issue that caused her to develop early enough to really need them. Even then, it would be an issue of function, not sexiness! Thinking about this, I'm kind of happy I have a son instead of a daughter, though I'm sure I'll have to deal with him wanting to dress like a pimp or something equally annoying someday!
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@judyt00 (3504)
• Canada
24 Jun 07
I suspect you'll get the ghetto pants showing his whole butt instead. for some reason boys think that is so cool?
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
24 Jun 07
Oh yay, that's something to look forward to. =p I have never thought this style was cool, even though it was starting to get popular when I was high school or so. Something about guys with their pants hanging down just makes me want to buy them a belt, or smack them with one at least!
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@smacksman (6074)
25 Jun 07
Hahaha!
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@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
24 Jun 07
um...no, my eight year old would not be wearing thongs! That is crazy! I have seen and heard of women like this, that want their daughters to look sexy, it seems weird to me, I would try to steer mine away from this as long as possible, not help her get started with it.
@crazynurse (7489)
• United States
24 Jun 07
What kind of mother, and I use the term very loosly, wants their 8 year old to grow up too fast and be sexy? No wonder we have 11 and 12 year old girls getting pregnant and raped and everything else. What is the hurry to have your daughter looking old? Can't these women enjoy raising their little girl and enjoying childhood first...before womeanhood? Crazy
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@judyt00 (3504)
• Canada
24 Jun 07
Perhaps they don't realize that the only people who think that looks sexy are sick pedophiles and other 8 year old girls
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• Canada
24 Jun 07
As adults, we need to find the line between "sexy" and patronizing. If someone had told me at 8 years old to go play with dollies, I would have told them off!! I prefered reading (I'd even read the newspaper at that age!) and other things, but nothing that involved being sexy. Children that age are not babies, but they are not grown women either. We have to learn to find a middle ground.,
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• United States
24 Jun 07
I am on the same page as you on this topic! I have 2 daughters, ages 6 and 7, and I couldn't even comprehend dressing them up in clothing that is not for their age. It's so sad because little girls see girls dress up like this on t.v. and they want to be like the girls they see. Luckily, we only have 1 t.v. station, which is our local affiliate. I've been fortunate that my kids aren't into the clothes scene yet and are just happy to run around in jeans. They do like to wear dresses, and the dresses they own are nice, right past the knee type of dresses. I agree, let kids be kids! I was still playing with Barbie dolls at the age of 10 and 11, and clothing and fashion was the furthest thing from my mind at that age.
@smacksman (6074)
25 Jun 07
Who on earth WANTS to wear a thong? It must be the most uncomfortable garment with that string chafeing up your bum. Surely they are only for showtime and not for hockey or netball?
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@judyt00 (3504)
• Canada
25 Jun 07
My daughter( who is 23 and has 2 kids, by the way) says they are really comfortable
@anij34 (317)
• United States
24 Jun 07
Oh Thank God you brought this up. Walmart carries the Mary Kate and Ashley brand clothing and around 2002 they introduced Girls Thongs, but after a few complaints from parents the products were pulled nationwide. This got me to wondering as well. Why are we in such a hurry for our children to grow up and dress like hookers? I think that many parents don't feel like they can relate to their children until they reach a certain age. How many men can't handle babies (infants) but are great once they get bigger? Also, some people are so vain and materialistic that they feel the need to push it on their children, as this is the only thing the parents know and understand. Its sick, its sad. I noticed a little girl yesterday wearing a cute jean skirt, but when she turned around I was horrified to see that the skirt was cut to give her a shapely bottom and accentuate it. It made me sick. Why does a 7 year old need to look sexy? She doesn't need to be curvaceous she only needs a tea set and some books. Its sick, its sad.
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@judyt00 (3504)
• Canada
25 Jun 07
And a few dollies!
@mujtab20 (434)
• Nigeria
24 Jun 07
Yes I agree with you, it's too bad and early for that. Thanks
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• United States
24 Jun 07
yes and these same parents are the ones who will sceam to the heavens if thier little darling is ever sexualy abused dont they realise they are setting thier kids up for just this!We live in a crazy workd dont we ?
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@lyriox (16)
• United States
25 Jun 07
Wow. I haven't had children yet, but I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that if I have a daughter and she asks to buy a THONG at the age of eight, she's gonna get it. It's bad enough that some immodest girls think they need to run their own personal meat market and sell themselves off to the highest bidder, but these girls usually start at 16. That lady's daughter has another 8 years before she needs to be selling herself off at Wal-Mart prices.
@judyt00 (3504)
• Canada
25 Jun 07
But, if the mother goes in search of the things, who's doing the selling off?
• Canada
25 Jun 07
Yup. I agree. Childhood should be a time period where everything is pure and innocent. No time for G-strings and push-up bras. While we're at it, let's clamp down on some racy TV shows so kids won't get the wrong idea.
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• United States
25 Jun 07
i have a 9 and 11year old daughter that iam trying to keep them as little girla as long as i can. my 11 year old friends get to do alot more things that i don't think a little girls at there age should be doing.like i won't let my daughter wear a two pecie. or those really short short. i think the see so much sexy stuff n there fav stars and they want to be like them but as a parent we carry the ball we have to let them know what's best for them and not let them tell us what to do.
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• Netherlands
25 Jun 07
Are you serious?!? This is unbelievably strange! A mother angry because she can not get her 8 year old a thong? I have no idea what got into her head. The idea is really inconceivable! I am really a a loss for words on this. It just seems rather impudent!
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• Canada
25 Jun 07
I think it is a psychological thing. Perhaps when they were growing up, they had some experiences that impacted them and now they are trying to avoid thei children from having the same experiences. I can't say for sure and i think it depends for every case. This is the only reason i can think of at the time.
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@dlkuku (1936)
• United States
24 Jun 07
What is wrong with people? That is just asking for little girl's to be molested. Sheesh, little girl's should be allowed to be little girl's, they should be wearing Snow White or The Little Princess undergarments, not sexy thongs.
@Stiletto (4584)
24 Jun 07
I see little girls dressed like grown women all the time and I just wonder what their parents are thinking. Last week I actually saw a little girl of about 8 or 9 years old with "sexy" embroidered in sequins across the butt of her jeans! Just outrageous. I mean apart from anything else haven't these parents heard of paedophiles? Children should be dressed as children. This sexualisation of children is not only harmful for their self-image but is downright dangerous.
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@Hart57 (359)
• United States
24 Jun 07
Unbelievable. I think that woman ought to be reported to Child Protective Services. How irresponsible! How appalling! Why on earth would a mother want her 8-year-old daughter to look sexy? She must be sick. Everytime you think you've heard it all something comes along and tops it. Do children's thongs actually exist? If they do, then they ought to be banned. How could a company manufacture such a thing? I find it hard to believe that such a product exists. Most of all I feel very sorry for that poor little girl. Her mother is horrible and a poor excuse for a parent.
@GuateMom (1411)
• Canada
24 Jun 07
And people wonder why pedophiles abound! Kids shouldn´t even know the word sexy at 8! I would never let a daughter wear thongs, not until she was old enough to drive to the store to buy them herself! Besides, who is this tiny girl trying to look sexy for? We are talking about underwear here, I hope no one apart from her parents are seeing her in her under things!
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@tiku1977 (664)
• United States
25 Jun 07
I agree with you that these two incidents you encountered are a bit shocking. You cannot have a bunch of things that are rarely in demand at the store. But a parent has the right to think about how children should be. If they want them to look sexy and smart from young age then be it. After all a parent is a child's best judge. Even if parents want their children to look sexy then they would not necessarily be "hookers" when they grow up.
@PunkyMcPunk (1477)
• Canada
24 Jun 07
Honestly, I was appalled when I read this posting. Maybe I am red nek, country, old fashioned, whatever you wanna call me but that is HORRIBLE. I would probably immidiately assume that this woman was trying to dress her daughter up for pedophilac intentions maybe not for herself but for others. That is completely WRONG. I might have lost my job but I would tell the lady that too. I would tell her no we don't sell baby thongs but the barbie dolls and skipping ropes are in aisle 6. We well some people are trying to make their kids grow up way too soon. Then we wonder why the kids are sexually active and having babies, getting diseases, and being raped etc...