One of the hardest things I have ever had to do in my life......
By dedicated_28
@dedicated_28 (1383)
United States
June 24, 2007 5:52pm CST
Well as most of you know, my brother got himself into some trouble drinking and such. Well he went to court and was sentenced to 30 days in jail and 5 months of house arrest. The court gave him 10 days to get all of his affairs in order before he had to report to jail. He had to report yesterday. I had to drive him to jail, i swear it was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do. The whole way I was crying and such and all I wanted to do was to turn around. I know it's probably for the best but it's still hard for me to deal with emotionally. all I wanna do is protect him and I am like completely helpless right now, there is absolutely nothing i can do for him. Today has been so hard not having him here. Well thanks for listening, I told everyone I would keep them updated so here it is.
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11 responses
@silvernutbar (904)
• United States
25 Jun 07
I know it has been very rough of late baby. Yesterday was brutal for you. I'm glad we were able to talk a bit more than we have of late. Hopefully i'll stop hocking up random bodily fluids soon, and we can spend more time together. It's hard when someone you love is going to go through an incredibly rough time. I'm with you though sweety in hoping that this experience will help him see what he needs to change in his life.
I love you aly bear. Talk to me when you feel down hon. i'm here for you. Kisses and snuggles.
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@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
27 Jun 07
Thanks scottie, I know that you are here for me. I hope you feel better soon. hugs and kisses..love ya=)
@GardenGerty (157546)
• United States
25 Jun 07
Well, with you, we can only hope this will be a learning experience. I am hoping it is not just learning how to cheat on house arrest, but a real opportunity to think. You are a good sister, you go take care of him and you are there for him. Maybe he will see your tears and understand that he is not just hurting himself, but others who care for him as well. I gather from your post that he lives with you. He has to take responsibility for being at least half as good a brother to you as you are sister to him.
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@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
27 Jun 07
Hi GardenGerty. I do hope this is a learning experience for him, I hope it makes him realize that is definately not the life to lead. Thanks so much GardenGerty, you are a good friend.=)
@mers_08 (84)
• Philippines
25 Jun 07
It's really hard I also experienced that almost 3 years ago with my older brother, I hate him (before) because we hardly get along his always watching what I do, he always telling me that I should not go to some places that I want to go specially if I'm with my friends, and we never really get along a lot to so many things specially when it comes to my life... but even though I really hate him that time, when this thing happen to him I cannot control my emotion, I really don't want him to see me crying so that he will not going to think that I am affected by what's happening to him but still I cry so much when I saw him in jail...but now he change already, ..but I still don't want to stay in our home cause I don't want him to mind my own life, even though his not what he was before to me, I still prefer to be away from our home and have my own life..
@racheld (840)
• United States
25 Jun 07
One of the hardest things I had to do was break up with my boyfriend of three in a half years and kick him out of our condo that we picked out together. The condo was in my name so of course I was the one who stayed living there. I knew I broke his heart and telling him that it was over broke mine. I knew it was what I wanted but I started to doubt myself after seeing how crushed he actually was. It was very hard for me to look him in the eyes and tell him I don't love him anymore. It seemed like every word I said, crushed his heart even more. He still isn't over me but I think he is getting there. Although it was an obstacle, I definitely know I learned from this experience and for that, I am glad I went through this!
@sjohnson628 (3197)
• United States
25 Jun 07
I know this has got to be hard for you but just keep reminding yourself that he MAY get help there. How long does he have to be incarcerated?
You could write him letters frequently that will help him to make the time he has to do more bearable. I hope he straightens out. Some people do after their first time in prison. I hope he is one of them. Please keep us updated in the future!
@arcidy (5005)
• United States
25 Jun 07
boy that must of been really tough for you to drive your brother to jail I know it would be hard to drive my sister to jail if she ever did anything stupid like this but hes the one that got introuble so you cant blame yourself for it and hopefully going to jail will make him a better person and he wont be the same way again.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
25 Jun 07
hi dedicated... i feel sorry for you... i can perfectly understand how you feel and i will feel the same way too if i am in your position... please be strong... my prayer goes to you... take care and God Bless you...
@brandonknies (305)
• United States
25 Jun 07
i am sure when i was younger my mom felt the same way about me that you do about your brother. i was a problematic child for a while. and yes it is for the better. let him do his time and what not, then get it behind him. hopefully he will learn better of it. i did. hopefully people will learn from things like that. it's not fun.
@Foxxee (3651)
• United States
25 Jun 07
It is hard. My sister is going through the same thing right now. Her boyfriend had to serve some time for some things he did way back long ago.
But, the good thing is, it has changed his ways on how he looks at life, in a better way that is.
So think positive. Maybe things will work out. Just remember, things happen for a reason.
And at least he reported back to jail, some run and then that makes things worse.
And like someone else said on here, 30 days will go fast. Just make sure you write him as much as you can, I'm sure that will also make his time go by faster, hearing from you that is.
Be positive.
Good luck to your brother!
@ellanick (191)
• Philippines
25 Jun 07
so sorry for what happened to your brother and hope that you overcome the sad feelings now. Dont worry, time flies fast and soon he will be out in jail. sometimes, hard things must happenen in our lives in order to appreciate the people or things we have. Just continue to be there for him and show your love in any way you can.
