would you give him a chance?

@fake_you (391)
Philippines
June 25, 2007 2:53am CST
several months ago, i had this sutor who claims that he really loves me. he always sends me text messages, and often tells me he loves me - but i don't. i don't feel anything romantic towards him. i only think of him as a friend. but since i don't want to hurt him that much, i told him that i'd give him a chance, and see if i'd be in love with him after a few months. so he became my boyfriend. but after three (3) months, i broke up with him because i still didn't feel anything special towards him. until now, he's still following me, and he still do things to make me feel that i am loved. he still texts me, and tells me he loves me. actually, i want to have a new boyfriend now, so that he would stop bothering me. should i still give him a chance, or just ignore him?
4 responses
• Philippines
25 Jun 07
Hi fake_you! This is quite a dilemma you're in. It was nice of you giving him a chance. I wouldn't give him any if I were you. I don't mean to be mean but I'm not the kinda person who would force myself to something I don't want. First of all, try to reflect on the situation: Why can't you love him? What is stopping you from loving him? Next step depends on the result of your reflection. I do admire his perseverance in pursuing you. You must count yourself lucky to be loved so much by a person. In entering relationships, I think it is better for the guy to love the girl more, than the other way around. Guys tend to fool around when they know that the girl loves them sooo much. Girls rarely fool around even when they know that the guy loves them a lot. I'm also in a relationship where my boyfriend loves me a lot and I consider myself really lucky. The only difference with you and me is that I do like my boyfriend. This is up to you now. But I think he stands a chance because the mere fact that you are asking mylotters whether you should give him a second chance, is proof enough that you could still learn to like him. Good luck.
@fake_you (391)
• Philippines
25 Jun 07
thanks for that! nice comment. i think the main reason why i can't love him back is becasue i still can't get over my first love. whew!
• Philippines
26 Jun 07
I see. I am just guessing that you are looking for a guy who's more or less like your first love or waiting for your first love to come back to your arms. If you know that there is no possibility for the two of you to get back, then find a way to move on. You cannot be fooling yourself or else you'll be left behind. You might find yourself old and alone without finding the man of your dreams. Bring down the barriers that's stopping you from loving other guys. You cannot stay this way forever. Good luck.
@angela2006 (1846)
• China
25 Jun 07
I think you should not give a second chance,you have give him a chance at last.and love is not job or other thinks,you can give him a chance.if you do not love him and you do not have the feeling of love,just tell him,and you all should find your true love.
@fake_you (391)
• Philippines
25 Jun 07
thanks for that. i've been telling him that i don't love him for severalmonts now..
• Philippines
23 Jul 07
You know I think the best for everyone is to be honest about our own feelings. If you do not feel anythihng for him, why would you consider having a relationship with him is beyond friendship. Taking a new boyfriend would be fine is you are sure that the guy you will take is someone that you truly love and really want to be a boyfriend. Lest, you will end up suffering the same fate as you are now having with your suitor who has become your boyfriend when the truth is that you know deeo inside you only want him as a friend.
@kawaii24 (520)
• Australia
25 Jun 07
its better if you'll just ignore him. its not fair to let him be your bf when you dont love him. its the best act that you will ever do to him :) good luck and god bless :)