Do you think Childbirth has affected your lovelife ?

India
June 25, 2007 7:43am CST
well how many of you think that childbirth effects the lovelife of the couples....well i truly think so.coz when a new member of family comes, entire love is only showered on the kid, and slowly slowly love for each other comes to an end..forget those good night kisses and little reminders of ''I miss u '' after child birth, now the child is anything and everythig ...the day starts with kid, ends n kid, there is no space for you now...!! Does that happened to you ...!! what do you feel about it , please share your experiences !!
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4 responses
25 Jun 07
i have to say no!! my partner works quite long days so its just me and my boys, i done all the bottles, nappies which i dont mind. my parents have my boys on the weekend so we get quality time then, plus i stick to the boys bed time at 8.30pm so we still have a few hours in the evening together. sometimes the children can be a bit clicngy, but i suppose its all part of being parents, but you should always make time for eachother and let your children know this too. sometimes me and my parner just go and lie down on the sofa or in our room and have a little cuddle if one of our children come in, they are told to go back in to the front room as mum and dad are just spending a little time alone.
• India
25 Jun 07
you cant teach this to a new born, and once you r free from a tiring day with ur new born..nothing comes to your mind, except sleeping..!! how will you find time for your spouce?
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25 Jun 07
i think your spouce is just going to have to understand!! After all its a tiring time for you right now, and as you said when the day is done all you can think of is sleep, which is completly normal. i dont know how old your new born is, but is there any way that a member of your family or close friend could look after your baby in the evening and you and your spouce could have some quality time. the first few months are tough, and until you have a routine sorted it still will be, if your baby starts to get a routine like sleeping late in the evening and if your lucky through the night maybe then you can sit down to dinner together, make a nice meal...etc i wish you luck and send you hugsm as the first few months are quite tough, especially if its your 1st. best of luck louise xx
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• United States
25 Jun 07
I think that maybe you will not be as intimate because everyone is tired at the end of the day. I still feel the same amount of love as I did before we had kids. It is just a little harder to find time to be together.
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• India
25 Jun 07
thats wht my pal..lack of quality time together, kills the love slowly, and you feel frustated, handlling so many things at a time...!
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• United States
25 Jun 07
I think it has slowed it down a bit since we are both exhausted. But as far as our love and passion for each other I actually think it has made us closer. Raising a child together requires a lot of love and with patience our love just grows for each other more and more everyday. Yes the children do come first but couples always have to remember to make time for each other even if it's just a few minutes everyday.
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• Canada
3 Jul 07
I don't have children yet, and I don't plan to have children either. I'm just not interested in having kids. I know a lot of people though, who tell me that child birth has affected their lovelife not only because of the differences in their bodies (that woudln't matter to me) but in the way they feel and the amount of energy they have left, because of the amount of energy taken up by their duties as parents.