If You Don't Like Someone, What You Will Do?

@gr8life (6253)
Malaysia
June 25, 2007 1:20pm CST
I do believe it is very hard to please all people around you. I believe that in your entire life, there is someone or some people that you don't like or hate; for some reason of course. So if you feel annoyed with someone, what will you do? Will you just ignore him/her? Or will you be straight forward and tell him/her that you don't like him/her? Do you have the heart to tell a person that you don't like him/her because of his/her act, attitude or any other logical reason to think of?
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@yuanchang (475)
• Philippines
25 Jun 07
well personally i just kind of ignore them. i do not tell it face to face though as i do not want to see their reaction because it may cause havoc. i am silent treatment type of person so i just keep quiet about it. but if he/she confronts me then i might as well them straight because they want it then.
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@arcidy (5017)
• United States
25 Jun 07
well if I didnt like someone at work I would do my best to ignore themm and not speak to them because I wouldnt want to get fired over something stupid by getting into a fight with this person that would be a pretty stupid reason to get fired so I would do anything I can to ignore them and not have to see them out of sight out of mind is what I always say.
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• Philippines
26 Jun 07
yes it would really be best to ignore people you hate at work to save your job.:)
@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
26 Jun 07
Hi, yuanchang! Sometimes I do that too. I just ignore that person and not on a talking term with her. But if she is your office mate, it is sometimes hard to ignore. At the end of the day, you still have to see her somewhere in the office. I don't tell a person directly if I don't like her. I just keep quiet as I think this is the best choice rather than to engage in a heated argument for no apparent reason.
@Kurokage (548)
• Albania
25 Jun 07
Usually when I dont like someone, i try to cut all contact, because there is no worse feeling then makeing somebody feel bad. If you have a annoying girlfriend that you cant stand anymore, its just best to make it so she cant contact you in any form. This can be very hard if that person lives near you.
@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
26 Jun 07
Hi, Kurokage! Yes, you are absolutely right. Apart from good friends, I don't like all my friends to know every single thing about myself. It is hard if people know you inside out and when something happens, it is harder to stop this annoying people to stop disturbing your life. Am I cruel? I guess so...
@jazzygdc7 (285)
• United States
25 Jun 07
I will probably avoid him at all costs and time. I wouldn't tell that person why I don't like them in their face.
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@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
26 Jun 07
Hi, jazzygdc7! Me too. I don't like to offend people. If I don't like someone, I just keep quiet. It is hard to avoid but I just ignore her, like she never exist at all.
• United States
26 Jun 07
Certainly I wouldn't have the heart to tell a person to their face that they annoyed me. I try to cause as little emotional pain to others as possible. That's just my personal philosophy. And, I would try to keep in mind that some people don't know they're annoying or irritating. Many are just going blindly through their life assuming they are well liked by other people. Maybe they do need to be shaken off their pedastal. But, then again, such a rude awakening might make them go back into their shell.
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• Philippines
26 Jun 07
Well, i tell them to get out of this planet! Hehehehe Seriously, the first step might be to talk to him. HUH? Sounds ridiculous right? Well maybe, but that is the basic principle. How would he know that he offended or annoyed you if you will not tell him? He might just go on unknowing that he offended or annoyed someone. He'll never know if you won't tell him.
@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
26 Jun 07
Hi, beautyqueen26! You are such a good person and I respect your opinion. It is the best way I think to act like what you say. Even though some people do annoy us, maybe they are doing it indirectly without knowing it. I don't have the heart too, to tell them that they DO annoyed me. Just leave me alone, will do much better!
• Philippines
26 Jun 07
I'll tell him to get out of this planet. hehehehe Seriously, i would tell him. sounds ridiculous right? how could i go and tell him his mistakes when he should be the one to apologize to me? well, the problem was there. pride. how would he know that he offended or annoyed you if will not tell him? maybe he will never know. he might go on with his life unaware how you feel.
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• Hong Kong
26 Jun 07
That's really easy for me! *laughs* If I don't like something, I won't let him/ her bother my life and it has always been that way. I would completely ignore the person and treat him/ her like they don't exist in the world. I won't tell the person that I don't like him or her because I don't feel like I owe anyone an explanation and it's absolutely a personal preference. But I reckon that the person would see the expression on my face and know that I don't like them. I don't pay attention to them and I don't even talk about them *laughs*.
@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
26 Jun 07
Hi, wondericequeen! It is good for you that you can totally ignore the person you hate so much. To pretend that they don't exist at all, is another bold way to solve the problem. I don't know whether I can act exactly like you when I am having this problem.
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• Hong Kong
27 Jun 07
Hey, just think this way, "why spending some of your precious energy on someone that you dislike?" It's a waste of your time and life and I am sure we all have better things to do rather than wasting our energy. It's not hard to ignore them if you don't care about them!
@lkbooi (16102)
• Malaysia
3 Jul 07
You are right, it’s impossible to please everyone around us so there must be someone that we dislike. Whenever I come upon any disgusting guy I normally ignore him or her and move away straight away. I dislike quarreling with people or stay with them any longer.
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@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
14 Aug 07
Hello lkbooi, I think that will be the right thing to do. I don't like to argue too. To be safe, it is better just to avoid or ignore or keep a distance from this kind of people *smiles*
• Philippines
26 Jun 07
uhm. I dont know. many times if I don't like the person, that person become my friend. Maybe because I am just want to be with them. hehe,. and many times the person why I hate her/him is because that's the crush of my crush, the love of my love, the like of my like, or she/he doesnt like me so I dont like them too.
@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
14 Aug 07
Hello ghreizahnne, Well, it sounds funny sometimes. If I don't like someone means that I really don't like him/her. I will not try to be close to him/her. But, it is difficult to ignore that person totally. What I am doing right now is just keep my distance.
• China
26 Jun 07
good question.well I think what I'm gonna do depends on the situation. no one's perfect .if I'm just annoyed with one of his/her aspects which I think he/she can improve I'll definitely tell him/her how I feel and it's a good chance to help both of us to know each other better. maybe u 'll find u made a big mistake if u know this guy u don't like very well ,keeping quiet is a good approach to avoid arguing and conflict.don't let it bother u
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@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
14 Aug 07
Hello PrincessScarlett, Sorry to take too long to leave a comment on your response. It is a good suggestion that I need to think of. But honestly speaking, I am a person who don't like too get involved in argumentation. I will try to keep my distance from whoever I don't prefer to be with as a friend *smiles*
@2babita (1074)
• India
26 Jun 07
I wont say direct that I dont like him/her,I will just ignore.
@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
26 Jun 07
Hi, 2babita! That seems to be the most right action to take when you realized that you don't like people who annoyed you so much!
• India
26 Jun 07
I won't say directly to that person but i would ignore him as i will get irritated by that if that person is around him so....
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@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
14 Aug 07
Hello paradise12, I am sorry for taking too long to comment on your response. I guess I am like you too. I don't like to tell the person that I don't like him or his attitude sucks. But I prefer to just ignore or keep my distance from him.
@amnher (292)
• Philippines
26 Jun 07
I will straightly say that I don't like him or her so that he will not get close to me.
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@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
14 Aug 07
Hello amnher, I am sorry that it takes too long for me to comment on your response. Thanks for sharing your thoughts here. It is good that you are such a brave person and can face the person that you hate personally and tell him directly that you don't like him. As for me, I prefer to distant myself from that person. I am not a type of person who likes to argue. Maybe, that is good for me *smiles*
• Italy
26 Jun 07
I think that you have to distinguish two cases, if the person I don't like is simply a colleague or something similar I will ignore him/her, but if this person is one of my friends or my girlfriend I should have to discuss about the reasons that feel me annoyed with them, surely this is very difficult, but is necessary because it would be risked to get worse.
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@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
26 Jun 07
Hi, peppinazzo! It sounds good to me. Thank you for sharing your thoughts here. Hope you won't see too many people that you tend to hate/dislike in this world. Good luck and have a great day!
@paul_des (44)
• Philippines
26 Jun 07
better
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@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
26 Jun 07
Hi, paul_des! Thank you for responding. It is such a simple word to describe the topic of discussion but I am very sorry, maybe I am a bit slow today...I just don't get you...
@smints8985 (1595)
• United States
26 Jun 07
There definitely is no way of pleasing everyone. In come cases as I personally am aware of, there are certain people that you just would not get along with, by the minute you lay your eyes on that person, you know. You know that person will never become more than an acquaintance. There are people that haven't even started talking and you already am not pleased with. Yes, it is quite a weird reaction towards someone you barely know but then maybe that is part of what we call gut feel. It is something very common within us that we cannot deny. If I don't like someone, I do not confront them unless there is the urgent/desperate need to do so, which comes very very seldom since I just tend to stay away from the person. Therefore there will be no conflict or tension whatsoever. I guess the world cannot be one, I don't think there ever will come a time that everyone will like everybody else, it is the natural way of things. But then everybody could just act civil around each other. There isn't a rule that you must like someone if you don't but I don't think it is right going around hating people as well.
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@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
26 Jun 07
Hi, smints8985! You are absolutely right and I do agree with you 100%. To please every single person in our lives is definitely close to impossible mission..... Sometimes, when the first time we see someone, we already decided that we are not going to like him/her. That is pretty ridiculous and I guess that is why we have this : "Don't judge a book by its cover"!
@youdontsay (3503)
• United States
25 Jun 07
No, I don't think I've ever told anywone that I didn't like them. I usually just don't associate with people I don't like. Of course there have been people I've had to work with that I didn't like, but I could separate my personal feelings from my behavior on my job. I can behave nicely no matter how I feel about someone. Sometimes it is hard though, takes a lot of emotional energy to keep from letting the negative thoughts take control.
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@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
26 Jun 07
Hi, youdontsay! It is good to be like you but unfortunately I am not that firm and brave enough to act like you. If I don't like someone, it will show no matter how hard I try to hide the uneasy feeling inside me.
• India
14 Aug 07
If u dont' like someone, better to keep away from them, untill they make trouble to you. In my way If i m not like someone I never care about them,
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• India
26 Jun 07
There is simply direct relation with him/her. because without attempting to catch your eyes attraction no one can be dislike..there is reason for the disliking. so slowly slowly try to make unconveniancy in present of them(him/her). now if you make them feel like uneasy then it will do automatically. even i also don't like someone. but as i say, i do. it will work
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@fengbo (731)
• China
26 Jun 07
yeah,sometimes i have this feeling,if i don't like someone,i will choose ignore him/her.i don't like to speak any more,but sometimes so many things will not very easy,we hate someone who is your boss or teacher?what you will do? I think this is very boring problem,if we cannot solve very well,we can very difficult in the future.. I think i find a better way to have a talk with him/her,sometimes the communion will bring our feel near,also we can slove our misapprehend.. maybe in sometimes him/her do not very well,but we also should self-appraise,it is a good chance to improving our ability of another face.. what do you think of?
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@lynnz78 (75)
• Malaysia
26 Jun 07
well, one thing i'm pretty sure is i like your photo...is it your child photo? :)
@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
27 Jun 07
Hello lynnz78, Yes, he is my 9 months old baby son. My jewel, my heart and my soul :)