someone cheated me very badly in the name of relationship...
By ranikrishnan
@ranikrishnan (1683)
India
June 25, 2007 2:31pm CST
i want to just get a testimonial from him tht he did cheat me. tht way i will be satisfied and know for real his purpose. but he never accepts he is acheat, he keeps on talking rubbish about what he is not? i am so angry and frustrated at him. i dont have anything towards him noe, i just want myself a conclution to this story with his acceptance tht he did chet me. somehow i feel he should tell me truthfully. what do u think, i feel i need this to tell myself the grave and gross fact tht i was cheated and tht i need to move on.
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15 responses
@Azita888 (315)
• United States
25 Jun 07
some people are complete liars and they play with your mind so much that they make it sound like you should still keep them around. I had an ex-boyfriend like that even though i knew he cheated he never admitted to it he lied to straight facts, i finally got tired of his mind games and left. You should do that too, he will never admit it cause his mind works different from everyone else.
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@ranikrishnan (1683)
• India
25 Jun 07
i am glad i have someone who can really understand my problem, i have moved away but still i want the truth from his own mouth. like u said some people do not change neither will they feel guilty for what they did
@deebomb (15304)
• United States
25 Jun 07
Yes sometimes relatioships do suck. Your friend is not going to ever admit that he has cheated you. some pople will not or cannot see that they have done something wrong to some one else. Maybe because they can't imagine themselves as being that kind of person. The best thing that you can do is to forget about him and how he cheated you and move on with your life. It can be hard to do but is the best thing to do.
@ranikrishnan (1683)
• India
27 Jun 07
yes the very best thing to do is what u say.. i only thought tht he owes me this much for all the mental, financial and of course physical help i had provided with a sincere heart not knowing of his intentions.
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@healwell (1268)
• Ahmedabad, India
26 Jun 07
When you are with truth and facts are with you, dont ask other to provide the testimonial for that! It is enough... This is not advocacy, but I want to put an emphasisonthis that in relationship who cheats is making harm to one's own self without knowing!
You must go ahead removing this feeling of 'cheated by some one', because it would be more beneficial!
@healwell (1268)
• Ahmedabad, India
26 Jun 07
When you are with truth and facts, dont ask others to provide the testimonial for that! This is very hidden thing you are promoting that still you want something from the cheater! It is enough... This is not advocacy, but I want to put an emphasis on this that in relationship who cheats is making harm to one's own self without knowing!
You must go ahead removing this feeling of 'cheated by some one', because it would be more beneficial!
@nageswari75 (675)
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26 Jun 07
Hey Rani,it is really bad when one is cheated in a relationship.But I think that person is either too proud to accept his mistake or is too self centred to think that he even cheated you!I understand that you would eant him to accept his mistake but I don;t think he wil because if he was that kind of person,he would not have cheated you in the first place.He would have given you a legitimate reason for breaking up with you or atleast behave in a mature manner.
@ranikrishnan (1683)
• India
27 Jun 07
he has nothing to be proud off, he's just self centered. thx for the reply and consern
@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
26 Jun 07
If he cheated you like you said then he probably is a lier and will never own up to what he did to you. Some people will blaime everyone else for what they did instead of taking responsibility for their own actions.
I think you will never get your resolution from this person so leave it a lone and move on. You will be better off if you let go of the anger and just move on.
@ranikrishnan (1683)
• India
27 Jun 07
yes i think it is my inner anger which wants some explanation, thx for pointing out. i can now definately encounter and move on, as u have right pointed out the root cause
@lynnz78 (75)
• Malaysia
26 Jun 07
i know how its feel to be cheated but the cheater didn't want to admit what he had done...i've the same experiance with several guys before...the first time it feels like my heart been cut with a knife but now i just ply stupid...it didn't hurt me anymore...
@ranikrishnan (1683)
• India
27 Jun 07
after repeated exp..yes it doesnt hurt much. but still we should be very careful
@asmurthy (2461)
• India
26 Jun 07
I am sorry you have been cheated very badly in the name of relationship. Don't be angry and frustrated. That would be bad for your health. Since you have nothing to do with him Whether he accepts his guilt or not does not make any difference to you. Start life afresh.
@ranikrishnan (1683)
• India
27 Jun 07
after all the responses from friends i think i have enogh confidense to move on in life. thx for the concern.
@krislouiebaby (2347)
• Philippines
26 Jun 07
in a relationship, you cannot tell what will happen next.
sometimes the world is so sweet for the both of you, and sometimes it became sour.
if someone cheated you, forgive him/her, and by doing that, you will accept things right and easy. it is hard to live if you have burden inside you.i know, because it happened to me years ago.
@ranikrishnan (1683)
• India
27 Jun 07
i look or expect for his testimony only to forgive him and move on. thx for the concern and time to actually make me feel better
@Shaun72 (15959)
• Palatka, Florida
25 Jun 07
I agree you sure do. I was lyed to for over 6 months before i knew. I would ask and of course I was lied to everytime they only way I found out was by searching his email address after he moved out and also reading his past messages on his yahoo messenger.
@ranikrishnan (1683)
• India
27 Jun 07
thts the worse situation because i understand the wmotions and feelings behind the cheating down right before us. i still dont understand why and how people can cheat in the name of true love,
@joey_matthews (8354)
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28 Jun 07
Cheats often never do own up.
Reason is they don't realize they have cheated in our eyes or it's because they're greedy. I wouldn't waste my time if I was you my friend, you know what's what and that he is.
Nothing else is important :)
~Joey
P.s Remember you are the important one :)
(I would be nice, I would agree but something i wouldn't focus on) cheats are cheats
@tamikotan (483)
• Philippines
26 Jun 07
How many times would you like him to tell you that he cheated you? You know that yourself right? There is no use in trying to drown yourself in misery. Just move on and hopefully you'll find someone better. If he is the type of personwho can't accept the consequences of his actions, then you will have to wait for a long time to hear him accept that he did cheat on you. Why put your life on hold for that person. I say, MOVE ON! Do yourself a favor and get on with your life. Time's wasting.
@ranikrishnan (1683)
• India
27 Jun 07
yes true, after all the positive resposes from my friends i think its time to just move on in life considering him useless and hopeless. he doesnt really is worth the attention given, he's a noone
@TruthElixirX (40)
• United States
25 Jun 07
You just need to let go and do what makes you happy. To keep on forcing this stuff to the front isn't working. Just relax, time heals all things.
@daredevil_69 (144)
• Philippines
26 Jun 07
If you feel, he is cheating then find an evidence without telling him your feelings. No cheater is honest and proves that he is cheating. If you think he was then try to check it up his schedules and moves. If you caught him, then move on. Don't listen to any explanations because he still cheats with you after you have forgave him.
@ranikrishnan (1683)
• India
27 Jun 07
theres ample evidence and i just want him to own up. but on the other hand he makes me feel bad for what he has done. he blames me for trusting him lol"
@butterfly39 (3904)
• Philippines
26 Jun 07
What would make you happy this time. If you believe in him then you can forgive him and give another chance but make sure that if ever do it again you already know what to do.
It's only you who knows if he's telling the truth or not. If you can still handle everything then good luck to both of you if not...then better look break him up.
@ranikrishnan (1683)
• India
27 Jun 07
i dont think i can never ever trust anyone in my life after going thru allthis. anyway i have found other ways to concentrate myself.thx for the concern
@deebomb (15304)
• United States
25 Jun 07
People like that will not admit that they have ever done something wrong. They just can't see that they have cheated or done any thing to hurt someone else. So the best thing to do is forget about him and move on because he will never admiit that he did you wrong.
