We Have A Need To Feel Good About The Friends We Choose!!!

@Rozie37 (15503)
Turkmenistan
June 26, 2007 3:48pm CST
When we decide to embrace someone as a friend we need to agree on the major issues of life. I do not want a friends who is two-faced, selfish, greedy, mean spirited, intolerant, or self-centered. I want a friend that is loving, open, giving and caring. I want a genuine person as a friend. If we don't agree, it simply wont work out. When a person does something that we consider to be wrong. We say, I don't like that, I would never do that, so why do I have people close to me who would. Our friends are a reflexion of who we are.
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@Flight84 (3050)
• United States
26 Jun 07
It bothers me to hear girls talk about how horrible they think their friends are, only to turn around and smile in their face later. Why would you hate their qualities or traits so much to call them a friend if you really can't stand them? I don't expect my friends to share all my exacts passions or interests, but they do need to be similar because what will you really have in common later on?
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@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
26 Jun 07
This is what I am talking about. Being a quality person, but being real at the same time. Now, if I don't like someone, I am not going to be mean or rude with them. But believe me, they will be well aware of the way I feel. I will not be laughing in their face and pretending. I will be nice, polite, I may even speak and I will surely help them if they are in trouble-that is just the way I was raised. But you better believe they will not be hanging out with me and calling me a friend.
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
26 Jun 07
This is true. You need friends that aren't backstabers or liers and freinds that are there for you and listen to you when you need a friend. I think that it way I have very few friends. I have a hard time really trusting any.
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• United States
27 Jun 07
I do not know why we put up with people who are a bad reflexion upon us. One of my friend's neighbor is rude and crude. He is a professed old "Queen hooker from Hollywood." How he came to live in Central California I do not know. He can be so sweet and nice and kind at times. Then there is a side to him that is horrible my friend takes him on his errends, he cannot drive anymore. She takes him to the doctor and other places, but she gets so embarrassed at times being with him. They use to go out and eat but she will not go with him because he complains about every meal that is served to him after he has eatern the who meal and eaten half so hers. She took him to the pharmacy the other day and he argued with the pharmacy tech on how to spell a medication. The medication was in computer spelled right and he got mad at her and dismissed the tech and asked to speak to the pharmasist. Why get so mad, over the spelling of a medication? One of these days my friend will get tired of fetching and carring for her rude neighbor and have to tell him NO.
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@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
27 Jun 07
This guy definitely has a mental health issue. You are right, one of these days she is not going to put up with that non-sense any longer. Everyone has a limit and just when you get comfortable with them tolerating your crap, that is the same time they get fed up with you. We all have been guilty of taking others for granted, but once we realize our wrong, we need to do our best to change it, if we don't want to lose those who care about us. Does your friend ever tell him how she feels or is she just putting up with it?
@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
28 Jun 07
Sometimes a person's negative side will not manifest itself until the later days of a relationship...Like a spouse who doesn't start beating his wife until 12 years into a marriage. I agree though that we need to do our best to recognize the good qualities in people whom we choose for friends, and recognize our friends by the good qualities we see in people.
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