On a rebound

Singapore
October 24, 2006 2:27pm CST
The best famous remark given to you when you just ended a relationship and start dating. Yes, rebounds. Is it good, or is it bad? It has it's pros and cons. Looking on a brighter side, having a rebound actually do help in getting over that particular someone, and yes, not majority, but minority would actually fell in love in the midst of that attention given. I believe so cos I had mine. I've tasted it. But, wouldn't it just be unfair to do it to someone and it just don't work out?
1 response
@charlesming (1866)
• Singapore
25 Oct 06
You asked good or bad. I say, it is something that is beyond control. One can't decide if he or she wants to be on a rebound or not. It does mean the person is usually not ready for a relationship yet but somehow contemplates about it cause the person does have a certain affection over another. It may be good for the person but bad for the 'victim' but then again in love there are no hard and fast rules. Love does things in very strange ways. No impossible, and no absolute. As you have mentioned, it is possible to really fall in love in the midst of a rebound. Whatever it is, both parties should know where the other is coming from to be fair. That is somewhat my style. Lay the cards out for both to see and then decide if things can progress any further. If there must be faith in love, let not it be blind faith.
• Singapore
25 Oct 06
let's put it this way. i said it in another forum before. a romantic relationship between two people is just that. between two people. why should one be bothered what others say? when i got together with my hubby a lot of people say we should take it slow, not jump nature and let nature take its course. as far as we are concerned, we go at a pace WE are comfortable with, not what others are comfortable with. they are not in the relationship, plus they dont really have the right to comment on 'rules' cause there are no rules when it comes to love and matters of the heart. what works for one may not work for the other. the most important thing is, what works for the two involved. that is all that matters. i can say rebound is good/bad/right/wrong, but that is in my opinion. it may differ from yours so dont let anyone tell you what you should do. what u need to do is to look at things objectively from outside the box and decide what is best for you. it is hard when one is involved emotionally and you have to battle what you should do and what you wanna do. just gonna weigh things out for your own sake and for the other. hurting people intentionally is wrong. that much i would say. i wouldnt like someone to come into my life and hurt me intentionally. i personally feel it is best to go onto a new relationship when there is closure to the former one and you are able to let it go and start anew with someone. if you start getting confused if you should or shouldnt do this and that, good chance you are not ready to embark on something like a commited relationship. it is a good indication but it is not an absolute indication. again, what works for me may not work for you. weigh it out for yourself and for the other party. lastly... make a choice and decision and never look back. go forward but not look back and wonder if what you decided was right or wrong etc. no point regretting when you should be working on something more productive as it may be impossible to change something that is in the past tense.